I won't deny it can be a challenge for some of us. Some couples have more money to spare and so have the luxury of affording weekly date nights and babysitters if there are kids in the picture. For others it can be more difficult.
If kids and money are the issues for you like they are for me and my partner then please just get a little creative instead. Have a weekly romantic dinner at home, get the kids to bed and sacrifice for each other a later dinner and a glass of wine. Maybe a Sat or Sun night could work as you don't have the weeknight pressures from work and there is more time on a weekend to cook something delicious.
Plan an outing once a month where you actually go out on the town, that could be dinner and a movie, out for a game of bowling, out for a game of snooker and a pot of beer. Plan the date and each can save up some money for the outing. If you have friends or family then ask them to take the kids for a couple of hours.
I actually plan a date night for my partner and I once a month, it's all my funds allow but I put it in my diary and I treat this like an important household expense because sustaining my relationship with my partner is equally as important to me as paying my rent. I have a trusted babysitter who takes my daughter for a sleepover and I spend $80 on that alone. Yes it sucks that it costs me $80 just to be able to have a night out but maintaining my relationship is a priority for me and so I save up for this.
Other than that we just enjoy watching movies together at home and having a beer at home and just chatting. We make the most of our time together when we are down at the beach with the kids, they run off and play and we get to talk, laugh and have the occasional kiss.
Don't forget to do the little things too guys, just because the honeymoon period has worn off doesn't mean you stop holding hands, cuddling, kissing and being affectionate with each other, having sex, no one is saying you have to do it every 5 mins but completely forgetting makes things seem way too ordinary and like you are just room mates and to make each other feel that way is the biggest insult to anyone in a relationship. Don't get into that habit because that is when your relationship starts to sink.
We are all responsible for keeping our love relationships alive, yes listen up men, it's not just the woman's job to plan date nights and keep the romance alive, pull your fingers out of your bum and keep things going in the right direction too. Remember it takes 2 to row the love boat not just one. If anyone has anything to add please feel free to leave a comment.
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Share same space and give your time to partner in a shared space but different activity most times.
I'm 26 and my husband and I have date night every week too. and we each take turns cooking for each other... very helpful my take. thankyou for sharing. :-)
It's a hard thing to do
Not really