8 Relationship Red Flags You Need to Acknowledge (Page 2)

[loveslongnails]

3 through 8 are the real killers. You can be stingy and have a bad, or weird sense of humor, but that alone isn't a relationship killer. ANY ONE of 3 through 8 is a deal breaker.

[Douma]

Good article. And know one know all I see now. Amazing they are all the same who are that way.

[Greaver]

Agreed 😊 good thing none of these things apply to me 😊

[Jaximus-Lion]

What kinda of guys have you dated? This is all coming from bad experience , just guessing

[LifeIsStrange13]

I have dated guys who probably aren't ready for a relationship yet. One guy I had a 2 yr relationship with and it was a difference in age in that came in between us (he wanted kids, I didn't) and his best friend who was female (didn't have a problem with that) who encouraged him to take drugs.
We had a happy relationship until we came across a hitch. After that I seem to be dating the wrong type of people, I like helping people a lot and I tend to let myself get walked all over. I guess I need more self love and self confidence.

[Jaximus-Lion]

We all have been in bad experience situations, we learn from our mistakes. Don't rush it nor force, it will come hopefully.

[fauchelevent]

Very good advice and I'm glad you're happier now you're away from him 😊

[LifeIsStrange13]

Thank you 😊

[Anonymous]

There was really no need to make this about men, it works on both genders equally well.

[LifeIsStrange13]

As I've replied below this was my experience with a man which was why I said 'he'. It can apply to both genders. I know women who do these things too. I don't know if I can alter it now.

[Opinion Owner]

All good, sorry for making the snap judgement, glad to see you aren't biased :)

[Anonymous]

very very good advice. I am impressed with your insight!

[Browneye57]

Of course. This is why you DATE in the first place. Duh.
It's a time to get to know, to discern whether it's a match. Not a setup for permanence.

[LifeIsStrange13]

We were together for almost 8 months... I didn't feel like I could leave because I still had feelings there.
The mistake I made was not listening to everyone else telling me to leave a relationship that wasn't working. I just kept trying to fix it.

[Browneye57]

Ah yes, very painful. Push-pull...

Guys get with girls hoping they'll never change.
Girls get with guys thinking if they bug the shit out of them long and hard enough he MIGHT change into someone she could actually stand to be with. FAIL

:)

[Fooled2manytimes]

I know, this world is all falling apart and yet everyone complains that they don't get what they need from their partners but they hardly know them, they don't ask Weston's it try and treat one another like they really want to be treated. They forget you have to speak and communicate what your needs are and the partner needs to be able to effectively be willing to recieve it and make attempts to achieve those goals.
Instead people ask little to no questions, but blame it in everyone else why their problems aren't getting addressed and how their partners don't know them or see them anymore.. They play hot potato with their feelings saying the infamous 'well your doing it too" or "if you were\werent doing this or that I would\wouldnt have done this" it's crazy how these days how many folks lack humility and that aren't able to commit to a relationship, aren't willing to do the works to earn a good honest and respectful partner.. it's sad really

[Browneye57]

@Fooled2manytimes ^^ Like. Applies to both genders, but the girls in particular have this covert way of controlling the narrative, and think that dropping hints and innuendo will get a guy to understand what she needs/wants. Or that he's 'just supposed to know'. Fail honey. :)
She just thinks she's being polite. LOL

[LifeIsStrange13]

@Fooled2manytimes I agree with what you've said.
I find it extremely frustrating when people act passive aggressively in order to communicate what they need. It's a way of putting someone down and making them feel guilty for not being a mind reader. I decided to be very honest and open about my needs in this and all of my relationships. I just said it directly as it is. I guess though if that person doesn't feel comfortable communicating those needs then it's the wrong person for you or you have to decide if you can go without them or provide them for yourself.

[Browneye57]

EXACTLY.
If you want a guy to understand something you have to be boldly direct. Dropping hints just doesn't work, he doesn't get it.
If he can't handle the truth, or what you have to say, or what you say you need/want, then perhaps it's just not a match.

[scooogy]

I already cringed about the first one, I didn't know such people exist.

[Anonymous]

What’s with this HE crap.
Girls can act the same way too!!! Should say “THEY”!!!

[LifeIsStrange13]

Sorry it's just because it's from my perspective, I will try to be more gender neutral. I agree, woman can be exactly the same and show all of these too.

[OnAColdWinterNight]

number 7 is full of shit. You can't force anyone to "get on" with your family or friends. Chances are your mother is neurotic and your friends are shitty anyway

[Sexy_Steve]

So basically you had a bad experience and now you're trying to poison other women's mind against men.

[LifeIsStrange13]

Nope, not all men are like this, some woman can exhibit the same signs in fact. I'm trying to warn people when they're dating to look out for these regardless of gender. This is so that you can find someone who will treat you right not to hate against an entire gender.

[Nice222]

For some reason the nice girls never go with the nice guys.

[Safa_Malfoy]

and nice guys never go with nice girls

[Nice222]

@Safa_Malfoy true...

[Wollu]

Women need reliable, strong suppliers. Nice guys don't show this strength, despite they have it. Women find nice guys repelling when it comes to relationship. They always say they want a nice guy. But what women say they wish to have and what they need to have is diametrical.

[Wollu]

@Safa_Malfoy Nice girls? Can you be so kind and point me in the direction where I can find them? :D

[Safa_Malfoy]

@Wollu how can u be so sure that nice guys dont show those strenghths

[Wollu]

@Safa_Malfoy Observation?

[Safa_Malfoy]

@Wollu sure

[CubsterShura]

Ladies and gentlemen, this is my ex!

[xZoeyx]

Nice take. I agree with these

[Anonymous]

Maybe money is tight? Why don’t you “rich girls” spend your own cash since women have power now?

[LifeIsStrange13]

Actually I split everything in half with him. Even on the first date and I offered to split things in half each time. He wanted to be famous so that he could makes lots of money and our relationship seemed to revolve around it, also he gambled his money when he left home and got himself into trouble. He continued to buy things he couldn't afford like a £200 lightsaber. If he was being cautious I could respect that, but he wasn't.

[Opinion Owner]

Ahhh truuuuu

[Anonymous]

Thanks. Interesting read.

[austinbooth]

I agree with this the whole way

[monkeynutts]

Hey you probably just were not ment to be.

[Iron_Man]

Good Luck with a new boy

[LifeIsStrange13]

Thanks