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well if he's that stupid in management, you could always help him with tips and maybe manage his money for him, if you like him?
relationship with kids involved is hard. I really can't say much. Kids are costly and will cost much more as they go into college.
48% of marriages end because of money.
Go figure.
Personally, I don't care if she's rich or not, and I'm also willing to provide. What I am NOT willing to do is tolerate greed or unfairness. And I'm also not willing to tolerate stagnation. I. e: Her not wanting to work/elevate her status. I don't really want a housewife, housewives are way too cliche. I'm more than willing to take her under my wing if we're genuinely in love, but once the focus shifts on money, it's done.
Dose that mean 52% of marriages end because women can't stop naging?
@Custard
Could be, I didn't check :))
Just curious, do you think it's inherently wrong to want to be in a traditional relationship even if you personally don't want one? One where the man is the breadwinner.
@babylips14 Oh no no no. I'm pretty sure things like this happen in gay marriages as well. It's not inherently wrong, God forbid. If people actually see it as what they want/need and don't let a temporary lack of money break you apart, it's more than okay.
I only know this much: no way in hell I'd ever want a partner that isn't financially responsible and that they will keep buying shit that they really don't need and won't use on a regular basis, a big spender on unimportant things or someone that gambles, take huge financial risks, or has any sort of addiction problems, it would quickly drain us both financially and run us both into tons of fucking debts. and if they already are in lots of debts I may not want to hang around them for long
I dispose all women, they're so materialistical, they only fancy guys with more money than themselgs, even when tjdu tjemselfs are milipmaite, look at Megan Markal, like all actors she's filthy rich, she didn't need to marry Prince William, she's just a greedy cunt, and she's half wog, if we slow this marriage to go ahead our next king will be a bit ethnic, I don't know about you, but I don't want a wog for a king.
try English next time ok
Money shouldn’t be the most important thing in a relationship, but you need to be able to TRUST your partner when it comes to financial matters. You need to be on the same page about money issues and be equally responsible. That is crucial.
Can I ask for your input on something? I asked a similar question on here. What really pissed me off the most was that some guys thought they had a right to tell me that I should be contributing to the finances when I made it clear that I am a traditional, religious woman who wants the man to be the breadwinner of the household. They claimed that I was being a "gold digger" and a "freeloader" who was getting something for nothing. Then I mentioned how I was giving him love, affection, motivation, support, etc. and they all said that those things should be a "given". Seriously? I'm supposed to give someone my love without expecting my needs reciprocated in return?
Why do you think so many guys on here bash women for aspiring to fall in love with a marry a rich man who can provide for her? Why do people think it's okay to tell others how they should live their lives?
@babylips14 I think it's a complicated situation because women have asked for "equality", and now people are confused about what that means and which responsibilities fall where. The fact is that it's now a matter of personal preference and there are no rules, but people don't like that. Bottom line, you have every right to seek a partner who is happy to provide for you financially, if that's what you want. As long as you're being up front about it and you're pulling your weight in the relationship in other ways, there shouldn't be a problem. Men who don't want the breadwinner role simply don't have to date you.
I live alone but am dating at the moment.
If she moves in with me, I’m hoping she does quite soon, we will be diving the bills according to what we each make. Good thing is, we make almost the same amount. lol
I want to be so rich,
so I won't have to worry about his paycheck
That could only work if he doesn't expect more than I would give him as a househusband
You could've still did those things with your daughter, what was stopping you? You could've made time for just you and your daughter then made time where you both do something together either with or without the kids. Me I probably won't get into a relationship especially with a single mom , because women only love the resources , and not the man.
You are basically saying all women are gold diggers. That is ridiculous.
It's sad how you believe that relationships are fairy tale stories where love pays all the bills and everyone lives happily ever after. It's time to wake up and live the reality.
@babylips14 Um this take wasn't about any bills , its about one person who was all about themselves who was mad that this guy wasn't a baller , she could've made time for her and her daughter like she had been doing and did stuff with him separately and as far as "picturing" a life with him, doesn't mean a damn because in reality , who knows if the relationship would even go that far, she's clearly all about herself since in this whole take she's ranting about what she wants because its only about what she wants.
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Another one? Damn. So many lazy men up in here lol.
@babylips14 Are you the same woman who said you want a man to take care of you and support you financially and in exchange you give him sex and affection?
Lol, Wanting someone who can provide you with the kind of lifestyle and relationship you want does not necessarily make a woman a prostitute unless she ONLY cares about being "taken care of". Relationships are all about making each other happy and doing what's right for the both of you. If one partner like the asker of this question is unhappy with a lazy, broke guy, she should run away from this guy ASAP. Do you expect her to live miserably and unhappy with someone like that? That would be pretty cruel. Her happiness matters too.
@babylips14 So yes? And you want to call men lazy. Just lol
I put love more than money in terms of importance. However, being realistic, money is important in terms of bills and such. As long as both parties contribute toward income or house up-keep then it should be fine. It depends on the couple. I know for sure that I'm going to work.
I do not need a rich women
I do not care about status
means nothing to me
cause whether she is a famous women or regular joe out in the world
ill still fuck her
if I make the choice, don't you just love free will
love of money root of all evil I hate it
Men could have said the same about their wives for centuries , although never decided to exploit them like that. What makes you so special in that regard?
It's not about being special, it's about me living a lifestyle I'm comfortable with and providing my daughter the best possible life I can give her. That shouldn't need to change drastically to fit in with someone. For me if I have to change my lifestyle drastically then it's telling me this man is not suitable for me, that we are incompatible and not on the same page. I would feel like I'm taking a step backwards instead of striving to be something more that I know I can be.
Then why are you drastically seeking opinions regarding his misfortune with you ?
It was a My Take. I was sharing my perspective and inviting others to have a say which is generally what happens with a My Take...
(Financial compatability) is the most important measuring device in a relationship or marriage. I have insurmountable experience with this. This balances the relationship with freedom for both.
However in my situation there wasn't any balance, I'd compromised it all away to hold on to this relationship, that's not going to work for me. May work for him and make him happy but I realized I was loosing everything of my own to try and make the relationship work, that isn't fair when one is making all the adjustments.
I get your point , although , instead of using your daughter as the buffer between you and him , in this particular issue , be the middle person and use your self as a buffer to reconciliate between you and him and your daughter instead.
If you and a girl are married then the finances are no longer just yours but a shared unit.
Yes but I wouldn't marry someone I felt was financially incompatible while dating and in a relationship... that is why you date to see if your values and morals and lifestyles match up for the most part.
I thought that was obvious.
if i were in your position i would try to help him organize his finances better. here in japan women decide what to do with their husband's paycheck.
Yeah thats a little controlling and I'm not his mother so don't need to be taking on a mother role to a grown man.
Thats not controlling, thats a cultural custom. Women in Japan help the men as they know how to balance a domestic, living together relationship.
@Cheetah23 Yes for Japan it is but not so much in Australia...
The country isn't the point mate.. I live in Australia too. Sydney. And my partner and I want to more or less adopt this method as we both know he's and impulsive buyer. Not everything is bad, no everything is wrong or right, controlling or not, black or white. You're being too narrow minded. There are methods to help your so-called love.
@Cheetah23 I've already tried to help him with his alcoholism, how much more help should i need to give him, it will only become draining. Dealing with an alcholic is already draining enough. Where does one draw the line?
It's really draining to try to help someone. Especially if you are trying to help someone that doesn't want to be helped... it usually backfires and that person starts hating you and treating you really bad.
@aamina_m i guess it's a mindset
Yeah I guess. I went through it twice with two different guys and it was a horrible experience.. so I just learned to walk away if things are really not working out.
@aamina_m ok maybe help wasn't the best word. if a woman is good at cooking and enjoys it would it make sense to refuse to cook for her husband jus because she believes that everyone should cook their own meals? it's more about efficiency. people doing what they're good at.
in japan it's part of the traditional role of a wife to take care of the finances. the husband hands his paycheck to her and she makes the decisions. women are the head of the household. when outside the woman lets the man appear in control but it's just for looks.
who needs feminism when you're already at the helm?
It's more important the more responsibilities there are.
i like to keep women and money separate. no compromise is to be made because money > her
If my girl had a job, I'd either find a job myself or do everything to help her, like do the chores and such.
Sad, you should teach your kids about financial literacy
I never even wanted to speak with the rich girls at university. I just ignored them.
Let's be real..
It doesn't matter. If my partner doesn't need me to feed them, I'm unconcerned.