Just like the 2003 movie "How To Lose a Guy in 10 Days", we females thought we have been loving our guys all along but we have been doing it wrong sending the poor guy away running for the hills.
Let me count the ways:
Pursuing him instead of him pursuing you.
Males like the thrill of the chase. They like to go after a confident attractive woman who caught their wandering eyes. They like to be challenged; after all, it's the caveman in them who go hunt for their food. But when the food/prey delivers itself to them, it will be no challenge at all. They feel they didn't work hard enough to get it and thus don't take pride of the "catch" as much as actually going out there pursuing it. Don't get me wrong, I admire women who know what or who they want and go out there to get it. But some men get intimidated by these women so they end up losing interest if there was interest to begin with.
No mystery.
Males like to explore just like the primitive caveman. He wants to explore every crevice, line, curve, corner, freckle, mark of every beautiful woman he meets or anything that catches his fancy. When a woman shows it all, he doesn't have to discover anything since it's all been given to him. There is no more room for the imagination. The more mysterious a woman is, the more it tickles his fantasies and pushes his curiosity to get to know more of her. A sexy woman in a sexy Daisy Dukes shorts is a sight to behold but sometimes a man likes to see all that sexiness only showing to him behind closed doors.
Overdramatic.
We all have our bad days but to some females, there is never enough drama to fill their day. That the world is one big soap opera with their antagonists trying to get in between her and her lovelife or her career or whatever else minor inconvenience that causes her to grab her box of tissues and cry out leaving the man in her life tearing his hair out not knowing what to do to console her damsel in distress. Males like to be their ladies' knight in shining armor but too much drama is enough to get this knight galloping away with his stead.
Nagging/mothering him.
Guys like to be babied. But not to the extent you are forgetting that you are not their mother but their significant other. They like to be showered with love and affection but not hurled with insults, complaints and expected to change to make their "mother/wife/gf" happy. Yes it is nice to cook for him, do his laundry, take care of him when he's sick but to expect him to be a good little boy all the time is not only suffocating him but also makes him question if it's even worthy staying.
Marking territory.
When Kate Hudson took all her girly stuff over to Matthew Mcconaughey's bachelor pad, he totally lost it. Why wouldn't he? Sure a woman can forget some of her stuff at her man's place after a night, but to leave them there purposely and clutter the place is crossing the line. A man needs his man cave. Let him ask you to move in with him and make his home yours. Then you can go all Martha Stewart on his and your place.
Smothering him.
Men like their alone time away from the hustle and bustle of the world. Yes even away from his woman. But if a woman spends all her waking time checking up on him, where he’s at, what he’s doing, who is he with and what time will he give her the attention she craves for will drive him away. It’s the thought that counts yes she is just a thoughtful girlfriend who loves her man but too much of it is downright annoying and disrespectful of his time. Woman, get a life. Show him you have a life besides him and show him why he fell in love with you in the first place. Be the same beautiful confident attractive sexy girl you are before he came into your life.
Talking him down/giving him unsolicited advice.
Men like to keep to themselves especially if they are going through rough patches in their life and crying/pouring their heart out is frowned upon by society. But as his partner, being sensitive to his feelings is one thing he needs from you. However, he doesn’t want you to assume he is being neglectful or he loves you less but he is going through internal turmoil that only he can fix with your understanding and love. He doesn’t need you to talk him down, not trust him with his decisions and worse give him your unsolicited advice. He is a grown ass man and he will turn to you when he needs to for your words of wisdom. So trust him. But if you don’t, he will shy away...
You are too much to handle.
I cringe just listening to some women say I want a man who can handle me. Unless you’re a wild animal but you are a woman. :P Beautiful and fragile. How are you hard to handle? Just let him love you and let him be the man he is around and with you.
There are so many other ways to drive a man away or make him lose attraction but these are the most common mistakes we women do. Yes we love our men! They are the thorns to our roses, the night to our day, the maple syrup to our pancakes, the cheese to our burger lol.
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