I keep my promises God damn it!
Also yes, I am not dead. Oh, but before I start, as I always say: when I refer to "women", I, and the rest of the world knows and understands that not all of these things truly apply to all women. So, don't make it a personal attack. Not all chicks do this.
To the matter at hand: if you all recall I wrote a take titled Sure Ways to Lose Your Chance with Her FOREVER, and in that take I promised to make a version that focused on ways that women (or simply those whom are interested in men) can lose their chance with a guy forever. It took me a while as I had work and I don’t like to write without doing at least a bit of research, but I’ve finally compiled the most reportedly common ways to lose your chance with HIM forever. I’m going to be writing it in a bit more of an objective style rather than the more poetic, direct way I wrote the other take because I naturally don’t have the same connection to these experiences. I still understand them and will present them more cut and dry if you will. Nonetheless I still hope you enjoy the take.
You lead him on
This was the #1 complaint from every guy I talked to about the subject. Guys know the drill all too well: they fall for a girl, she seems to reciprocate the sentiment but quickly begins going hot and cold. The next thing he knows, she’s dating somebody else and wants to “Just be friends” or have the “I never meant to lead you on” talk. He’s left feeling lied to, cheated, abandoned and hurt, while the woman he cares about seems perfectly fine for having opted up for the “better option.”
Why do we women do this? Well, there are a lot of reasons: we appreciate the attention, we’re confused about our feelings or sometimes our feelings change … it doesn’t matter the reason, it still isn’t okay. If you like a guy and you reciprocate interest and flirtations with him, then you owe it to him to be honest about how you feel and be cautious about how HE feels. Don’t bank on the idea that this guy will just be satisfied with flirting forever and assume that because he’s a guy he isn’t going to catch feelings; men are human, not singular sex-driven robots.
If you string a guy along for the sake of the attention or what have you, he isn’t going to be there if the relationship you opted up for fails. He’ll find somebody who values his feelings far more than that.
You make YOUR orgasm HIS responsibility
Yes, your man should be able to make you cum … IF YOU GIVE HIM THE PROPER DIRECTION. This was the second most complained about issue when I spoke to men on the subject; there is a lot of unfair pressure on men to perform when it comes to sex, and it primarily comes from the general consensus that if a man can’t make his girl cum, it’s because he has no skills OR he’s just a selfish prick. No man wants to be the worst sexual experience of your life, but if you just lay there and expect him to magically know what buttons to push you’re going to end up cheating both of you out of a great sexual experience.
You are equally responsible for your own orgasm. Have you ever heard the saying: “Closed mouths don’t get fed”? What it essentially means is that if you refuse to voice what it is that you want and need, you’re not likely to get it. If you need him to lick this, pinch that, rub here, bite there – TELL HIM. If you keep putting the pressure on him to make your sex life amazing, only to come and resent him because he can’t perform due to not having telepathic abilities, then you could lose him … FOREVER.
So the next time you want to be “fed”, open your damn mouth.
You never allow him to be submissive/sit back
I’m not talking necessarily about anything sexual or the like (though, he might like that too), nor am I suggesting that every man wants to be a submissive little cupcake. But let’s be serious: every person on this planet has likely had a moment where they wanted “Jesus to take the wheel.”
Women still have it in their minds that decision making is predominantly and attractive male trait, and to be forward and make the decisions equates to you being a very particular type of female – one who is naturally more dominant. It isn’t so black and white however: you can still take the reins without having to be "Miss Christiana Gray." All it takes is actually picking the restaurant or actually taking control of a stressful situation so your guy can relax; maybe be the one to initiate sex for once or fight through the bar crowd to get him a drink. Fuck, ask him out and be the first to show interest in him; PURSUE HIM. You don’t have to adhere to every gender role out there to be attractive as a woman, you know.
If you go through your entire courtship/relationship expecting him to always be in control, you run the risk of pushing him away by overloading him with responsibility, leaving him feeling a bit cheated and starved for the same forward attention and gestures you want/expect.
You never surprise him with thoughtful, romantic gestures
Forget just making his favorite meal or letting him watch the football game even though Gossip Girl is on, I’m challenging you to do the romantic things you wish/expect HIM to do.
Have you ever bought a guy flowers or chocolates? Made a reservation for a nice restaurant and paid for the entire bill? Do you write him poetry? Offer to massage HIS feet after a hard day at work? Now, maybe you may have to adjust some of these for your man, but men can value thoughtful romantic gestures just as much as any woman, especially because chances are no other woman has ever done such a thing for them. The expectation has always been on his shoulders.
If you just expect to be showered with romance and gifts, you could lose a really good guy who is starved for the affection and thoughtfulness that you so eagerly expect of him.
Alright ladies and gentlemen, this is what I was able to come up with and I hope I was at least partially right in what I wrote because while I am confident, I am not a man. So guys, feel free to leave anything you feel I missed in the comments below and ladies, of course I want to hear what you think about the subject and would love suggestions from you as well. I hope you all had a great Monday and I look forward to posting more takes for you soon.