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Why Abusive Relationships Are A Lot More Complex Than People Think (Page 2)
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I honestly had a Relationship that till today I am not sure if it was abusive or not, as in i fight with my self at times about it when i remember it
So i kind of know, its hard to know if it or not
Thank you. Hopefully some people take this to heart.
I’ve seen enough friends go through it to understand the mindset and lose any sympathy for them. People make their choices and have to live with them
Again, its difficult for people who have never experienced it for themselves to understand.
You're right, I haven't. But after watching friends ignore advice and refuse all the help in the world to get out, as I said I lost all sympathy
Well that's the problem in my case, no one saw or knew anything because I was so socially isolated.
people don't want to be in such a position thats why
Wonderful, life stories, really helps the point along.
Wow. That's quite enlightening. Thank you. Sorry that you went through that.
I know a girl in an emotionally abusive relationship. However, she has given him so much she can't leave.
I would have slipped off those grossly uncomfortable shoes about 20 meters in and got myself a new pair...
There should be equality for me who have been abused.
Yes, they are complicated. I know really smart people who have experienced this... I made excuses myself... I was blind...
It's easy, just leave. I think they choose to be a part of an abusive relationship for attention or they're too lazy to leave.
Again, you have never experienced it for yourself, so it is hard to understand. Its easy for people to tell others what to do when they have never done it themselves.
All very true. Thanks for this take!
But I thought girls like guys like that? I'm confused.
I am single and happy
I think so I am happy 😞
I really said happy? I need to think again
Why is this topic so sexist? Why are women only seen as victims? I mean in physical abuse situations yeah its always the guys in the wrong but women emotionally abuse men A LOT, among other things..
What part of my take did I say this only happens to women? I didn't. I said PEOPLE. You are trying to make this into a sexist topic.
I don't see any focus on women as victims in this myTake
@samhradh_leannan not just this my take but in this subject in general. All the photos you used were of women.
@ Opinion Owner OMG, seriously? Just because I used pictures of women means I'm somehow sexist? I used pictures of women because I am relating my experience as a woman. Seriously, feel free to make your own take if you find this so offensive.
Why are you judging me? I'm just stating that abuse in relationships happen to men a lot and I'm sick of our society ignoring men's problems and focusing only on women's. You intended to make this about women and now you're mad because I brought men into it because every girl these days is a man hating feminist.
Then write your own take. I know men experience abuse as well and your twisting my take to make it seem like I'm sexist because I am sharing my experience as a woman. Nowhere did I ever deny it happening to men as well. I am trying to bring attention to the issue of abuse as a whole. But no, right away you accuse me of being sexist. Maybe I should just keep my mouth shut because I'm a woman and somehow my experience with this issue doesn't matter. Right?
Your a woman so you think your experiences is all that matters when it isn't men experience abuse and its not all about women. Men aren't always wrong.
You have no idea what I think. You are making blatant generalizations about an entire gender. Maybe you need to look at yourself and ask, who is really the sexist one here? Because it sure isn't me.
So I'm sexist for bringing problems men face to attention? Sounds fair but then again Feminists such as yourself think of men as disposable pieces of meat to use for sex and money (the only two things girls care about)
No, you're sexist because you are making generalizations about an entire gender, and assuming I'm a feminist because I share my experience as a woman. Notice how I NEVER said anything negative about men AND even agreed that men face abuse as well. You are just making assumptions based on my gender.
Almost everyone these days is a pussy SJW Feminist... That's why... and you meant this question to be for women you know you did so don't lie... like most women these days you don't think men deserve any help or attention..
There is clearly no point carrying on this conversation when you can't even use common sense and have to rely on making ridiculous assumptions. That's just sad and pathetic, really.
What I'm saying is true and you know it.
It's true that there is some prejudice against men when it comes to these kinds of topics. But that's not present in this myTake and the author doesn't need to be blamed for the problem.
@samhradh_leannan Exactly. Its comments like that which are why people don't speak out to begin with; they get shammed.
yep, true, usually both parties are partially to blame.
doesn't excuse staying in one though, should def get out.
I do realise that I should have stuck up for myself and voiced my opinion, but its difficult when you are made to believe your opinions don't matter. Of course people should get out of the relationship, but when your in one and have become so manipulated, brain-washed, and isolated, it doesn't occur to you as an option. Again, I know its difficult for people who never experienced it for themselves to understand that. Its so easy for people to tell others what they should do.
Bullshit. Abusive relationships are NOT more complex than you think. Bullshit. If you're in one, get out.
I can see there is no educating you on the subject because you apparently have never experienced it for yourself, so I won't even bother trying to start a conversation with you.
Have a good day.
You have a good day too. The answer is simple... get out. Run. Do whatever you have to. Stop being a victim.
Please don't talk about it if you have no idea about it.
@loveslongnails Do you think these men and women in abusive relationships prefer to be in said relationship? Don't you think they would actually leave if they realized they have that option?
@GuyWannaHelp agreed. And even when you realize you have it, a lot more complicated things then come into play.
@SEntertainment I'll just agree to disagree. For as many psychologically abusive relationships where the controller has a hold on their prey, there are people who just take what they can get their hands on and leave because anywhere is better than where they are. I know people who've been in both situations.
@loveslongnails I actually do agree with what you just said actually. There definitely are a number of people who are in abusive relationships who can get out when they want to. The thing is, it's hard to tell who knows they can get out, and who thinks they are stuck.
Your original comment was that ALL abusive relationships are (much) more simple as this myTake makes them out to be.
@GuyWannaHelp Gotcha. Thanks.
great take thank you!
Nobody should be in an abusive relationship.
Nobody should stay in an abusive relationship.
Obviously not. Its not like people WANT to get into an abusive relationship or WANT to stay.
try once, you will easily understand