I'm sure almost every girl on this planet has been with a guy who never called her his girlfriend or he said he didn't want anything serious. Yet the next girl he's with is not only being called "girlfriend" , but in many cases they get engaged or even married.
Recently a friend of mine was sad because the guy she was dating never wanted to call her his girlfriend, he left her and he got engaged to the girl he met after my friend. She was so angry about it, that she never saw what did she wrong..
Why is that? We start asking ourselves "Why her?", "What did he see in her?", "What does she have, that I don't?", "She doesn't look better!!" and so on..
There are two options:
FIRST: he simply didn't want anything serious at the time he was dating you
or SECOND: If you've made it to a relationship with the guy, but then he broke up with you, then here's why he found someone else for getting more serious with...
1. The way she acts.
Have you ever found yourself in situation where you're being too obsessed with a guy? You're texting all the time, you want to be with him all the time.. etc. Nothing wrong with that, I'm sure every girl does it with pure intentions, but this gives the guy no freedom or personal space. If he can have you all the time, he'll eventually get tired of you.
When he, on the other hand, is with a girl and is able to keep his "freedom", going out with the guys, watching sports .. and so on, it's highly possible that he would choose such a girl.
2. She has the same lifestyle.
I, as many other girls, have been with guys who didn't match my lifestyle. It doesn't matter how much you like a guy if his vision of a perfect Saturday night is going out partying and yours is staying home, cuddling and watching movies, this may cause problems at a certain point of the relationship.
3. She doesn't nag!
I find this really important! Many of my girl friends are too naggy and believe me, NO GUY likes that! If you've reacted negatively to every time he wanted to go play poker or chill with the guys with phrases like "Are you going out with them again.. you need to spend more time with me!" or something similar, this won't bring you further.
Imagine the new girl he's with instead of nagging just saying "Oh you're going out with the guys? Have fun, honey and greet them from me!" and then she uses the time without him for herself. He would definitely go for that!!
4. His friends like her more.
Sounds a bit superficial, but it's highly possible that I guy steps further with a girl, who's also like from his friends.
She may not be prettier than you, but don't forget that everyone has their own view on attraction. And sometimes that doesn't even mean "prettier or skinnier". Sometimes the level of confidence plays a HUUUGE role! If the other girl is way more confident than you, this attracts.
6. Being positive.
I know we can't be happy and see everything through pink glasses all the time. But if you were negative really often, or complained every day after work this is a turn off. A positive attitude, when the things are not that perfect is also an attraction. So maybe instead of complaining after work she says "Babe, let's forget about the stress and have a great night together!"
My dear ladies, please DON'T LOSE YOURSELVES when you like someone. Don't forget that you've had a life and were happy before you met him. Don't get too obsessed... just try to enjoy it and don't try to push it!
These are some of the things I've noticed from friends or personal experience that apply almost all the time. And instead of being angry, that someone didn't pick me I really tried to see the mistakes I was making. We all love being surrounded of positive people and good vibes, so try to create ones yourself. Don't be negative, don't hate, enjoy life, grow and DON'T settle for anything less than what you deserve.