Love: What it looks like, feels like, and acts like

[Wowgirl10q]

Love Explained

I believe that I can answer that question with relative accuracy. But, I need some help from the girls PLEASE....

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@ Anybody I Forgot....

Girls, A very lovely young lady contacted me and ask me to write a My Take for her about Love.

She wrote....

Maybe it's a rare "problem" but I personally never experienced it, not even a crush, that made me wonder what if there is something wrong with me? And many questions followed like if others are like me too?

Most people in my age already experienced it, at least unrequited love but I am like.. immune? It's like I can't find the right guy to catch my attention.I am really unsure how it works, like if you know right from the beginning that you want them, or if it's just about physical attraction? I met a cool guy some time ago but it didn't work out because I didn't feel myself drawn to him. I hope I didn't make a mistake but even my friends told me that if I don't feel anything at the start, I should end it right away.

Girls in your own words, please describe LOVE and how you knew/know you are IN LOVE.

This young lady was very sweet and she was sincerely looking for advice. I thought it would be more informative for her if more than one persons opinion was voiced on the subject matter.

So, Please if you would help me explain LOVE

I understand what early feelings and behaviors most often predict when a new relationship will transform into long-lasting, true love one. Of course, feelings of Love can be more urgent in youth, and people tend to be more wary as life progresses. However, new couples are new couples at every stage of life regaurdless.

No matter when or how they meet, some people do experience clearly magical connections very early on in a relationship that predict long-term commitment and devotion. The feeling of being in LOVE is unique and clear from any other emotion we as humans ever expierence.

My best definition is I knew I was in Love when if something was wrong with my guy I felt like I couldn't move. Not until he was okay nothing was more important to me then him, his feelings, and his well-being. I would have rather been dead then to be without him. He was part of me as a person not so much in time, but in my soul. He was perfect in my eyes and still is.

[CherryRoseChampange]

Well, this is a tough thing to answer because being in love is different for everyone. It comes in many forms and ways so there is no indefinite answer. The only way to help would be to as you did Wowgirl, to describe when you knew yourself. Or assume how you'd feel.

For me, I personally knew when I was in love when I actually felt it inside of me to tell him I loved him all the time. Something I've never felt with any of the guys I've talked to or dated. I never say I love someone and don't mean it.

It also appeared in my actions around him. I hardly ever raise my voice in his presence because I don't want him to feel disrespected. Nothing hurts more than the disappointed feeling he'd have for me if I acted out that way When we argue we are trying to solve problems versus trying to get one over and prove dominance. It never felt like a chore to be with him and I wanted nothing more than to build a life with him. I began to want things I never had because it was about us then, not just me. He became a sanctuary for me. And my family, best friend, and lover all in one when I thought of him. So that's how I knew I suppose.

[Wowgirl10q]

Cherry I knew you would kill it

[CherryRoseChampange]

Thank you, but no one can top yours. They're the words of a goddess.

[Clo917]

This is tough for me to answer as I've never been in love, I can only assume what it feels like.

That being said, to me, love is an easy thing. You don't have to force yourself into it, it just happens. Love is acceptance, it's when you're ready to accept your S/O, flaws and all, because those flaws make them, well, them, and you wouldn't want them to change. Love is futuristic, you include your S/O in future plans/goals and whatnot because you can't imagine your future without them. Love is selfless, as you give your entire self to your partner for the sake of loving them. And lastly, love isn't purely romantic or physical, love is connecting with your S/O on a deep, emotional level and simply understanding them.

[Wowgirl10q]

Thank you

[Wowgirl10q]

Best answer

[juicyjessie]

What a beautiful opinion!

[Clo917]

thank you, glad it was helpful. :)

[Wowgirl10q]

@juicyjessie you never let me down Jessie...
Yes Clo definitely got best

[WhereAmI]

Sadly I've never been there myself. I've been in several relationships but none have lasted much more than a year simply because of this reason if not any others. I've lusted for some and can certainly miss others when they are gone. I care about those I've been with but never have I felt the need to sacrifice myself for another more than I would a stranger.

The feeling of true love is foreign to me and I personally don't know if I'll ever experience it. Maybe I just wasn't hugged enough being the middle unforgotten child? I dunno.

[Wowgirl10q]

@WhereAmI lmao I see pink, pink, pink, and then you are just there with the girls covo on point up in this acircle of woman owning this S#$t and blend like a champion would.

[Wowgirl10q]

@WhereAmI I'm so impressed #creepsquad# 😀

[WhereAmI]

I'm sure there are others like me that don't bother to speak up.

[Wowgirl10q]

You jumped in like a boss

[ATuairiscean]

It might be an age thing but love for me can be rolled into one answer, you are obviously feeling something is it attraction, lust, infatuation or love. For me love starts when the long term prospects start coming in, I want to settle down with her, have/don't have kids and a pet , argue about TV remote in your seventies ( and possibly still want to bed her next time you see her as well or just kiss/cuddle/hold hands) - You feel comfortable, at peace with that person

[Jemini_Crocket]

And when you meet the person who later becomes your partner, what exactly do you feel? Do you feel something right at the beginning of meeting?

[ATuairiscean]

@Jemini_Crocket Yes, I think you do - You feel an attraction that becomes a connection, as you move on from the various stages it develops into "Love" - When people say it was love at first sight, they are probably looking back through rose coloured glasses at the process that grew into love.
I don't know if you mean whether you mean first romantic meeting or first actual meeting - Every couple is different, some people don't start of as a couple, they are friends or workmates/students in same class or acquaintances etc - In a way it is not important how you feel at first or when you feel first "Feelings" once it grows into love.
You could be asking I am with someone now and not sure how you feel - I have a general view on life when I look at any situation is it positive/constructive or negative for me, where do you see yourself in one month, six months.

[Jemini_Crocket]

I mean for example when you spend some short time together and chat regularly, are you supposed to feel something that makes you want to spend more time with them? To continue and get into another "phase"? I hope it makes sense :)

[ATuairiscean]

@Jemini_Crocket I understand - You have met someone and you want to know should there be something there, the answer is every couple is different - A couple of things to look at (1) Do either of you have feelings? If answer is no, possibly it is a friendship developing (2) One person has feelings so its up to the second person has to think could they ever have feelings for the first person or is it going to end up in the dreaded friendzone (3) Someone is crushing not sure of the others feelings, it is a different issue and the person has to find out how other person feels.
I might have gone roundabout way , you want a couple to get to the "Love" stage, it doesn't matter how you get there. You probably don't need to look that far ahead, do you see yourself or feeling comfortable to go to next stage say maybe try a date then keep asking yourselves do we want to go to next stage.
Can you meet someone and be not sure at first then maybe start a process that leads to love.
** TBC

[ATuairiscean]

@Jemini_Crocket It certainly could happen just be sure you want to do and are comfortable doing all the stages up to it. With my current girlfriend I hmmmed and hawwed a lot but I love her now.

[Wowgirl10q]

Awsome answers thank you all she said thank you as well for all the help

[ATuairiscean]

Thanks for MHO

[TonyMetal86]

Yiu want explanations from others while you have given the most accurate details about what is love and how it works...

There is nothing more that can be added to what you have already said...

I was preparing myself to give an answer and it seems that you took the words out of my mind and wrote them before i did 😄

Maybe i shouldn't comment on your take miss owel girl since it's like the wonder woman movie only girls can see, but i'm someobe who doesn't follow the rules very well and always curious and very hard to stop... maybe if you haven't said that you need help from women and it's a question for women, i wouldn't have looked at it...

I wanted to see what the owl girl is doing, since your in a committed relationship, if you have a sister or a sibling like you, a 100% clone of you except that she smiles. Tell her that king tony is waiting to make a girl become a queen...1st rule become a housewife, last rule stay a housewife 😄

[Wowgirl10q]

So sir your just nice

[TonyMetal86]

I'm not sir or a master, i'm just tony or mr. tony 😉
Capich owl girl? 😋

If someone told me that the owl girl is very precious, i'd tell them no she isen't, you know why?

It's because being very precious still have a price but a very high price, that's why i'll tell them that miss owl girl is priceless which means no amount of money can buy her...

I wish if i was a good robber so i steal your heart and hide it where no one can find it 😀

[Wowgirl10q]

I'm southern I call my 4 year old clients sir I mean no offense

[TonyMetal86]

What does this suppose to mean? Is it good or bad? So am i a 4 year old client now, a child you mean? 🤔

[Wowgirl10q]

It's a good habit😀

[TonyMetal86]

Good owl girl 🤔💤

[azzntittiz]

I believe I was in love twice but I'm staring to believe that unconditional love doesn't really exist when it's between people who don't share the same blood.

Love should be selfless, rational and understanding. It should be you being able to call them your friend, you both become one in the context that, his pain is yours and yours is his. You should be allowed to be an individual, but the major decisions in your life should be conducive to his.

Sex is also way more magical when you love the person, I cannot explain it in words, but let's just say he touches you and it goes through your whole body. After falling out of love with this person, sex will not be the same and this is when you'll realize how much of a spell it really was.

[markscott]

Understand that love is not a feeling. Love has feelings connected to it, but feelings are only feelings. Love is a desire to do the best for someone, to be the best for them, to desire to help them be the best person they can be, and to support and nurture then when needed, to put them before yourself when appropriate, and to find joy and pleasure when they succeed. The good feelings of closeness, love, etc., will flow from this.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

For me , love is summed up in one word - Self-Sacrifice

If I love someone, I'll make self-sacrifices for them. Not coz I have to , but because I WANT to

In general, I'm kind, caring and compassionate
and I'll extend my kindness to even strangers. However , I find it impossible to make self-sacrifices for people I don't love

So I know it's love if I'm eager and willing to make self-sacrifices for someone. If I won't, it means I don't love them

[DocilexElle]

Infatuation can last for the first 6mo-1yr; even... it's usually liking what you know about him/her with really strong attraction... as well as ignoring or not knowing their flaws!! They are who you think they are!!

Real love is when you have the attraction but also accept who they are, flaws and all... as well as being 100% sure you want to be with them for a long time. You don't mind their annoying habits because the pros out way the cons. You also have the same goals/similar ones!

[ENTP_EMO]

The best part of the person you're dating you will only experience during the honeymoon period. It all goes downhill from there.

Personal experience

[Wowgirl10q]

Bravo on the imput bravo being the first guy😀

[sarahhcmarie]

Well
i'm not sure if this counts but i'm pretty sure im in love with tom lol
ummmmm i cry whenever i see him (probably because i love him so much but it'd be so unlikely to meet him :'C )
butterflies fo sure.
stalking (lmao)
i'd probably die for him too
i love him for everythingggg he is
affects my life somehow

[Anonymous]

For me, it is knowing I would put my life on the line for him. If only one of us could survive, I would want it to be him.

We communicate all the time. We both say things as they are. No fancy words, just plain talking. We both know the red lines, and neither of us will ever cross them.

[Wowgirl10q]

Thank you my lovely

[Opinion Owner]

Always welcome! <3

[Frankenstein99]

"if you don't feel anything from the start you should end it right away" that's interested i read something once that said a woman knows in the first 5 minutes whether they would sleep with him. Always wondered if that's true. personally i think it's B. S. but your post suggests it is.

[MarilynMansonsSlvt]

Love is when you can't live without someone. It's when you know that if you never got to see them again, you would stab your eyes out with razor blades. Every time you see them, you get this bubbly feeling right above your tits where your heart's s'posed to be (I don't have one).
xx
~ Mrs Manson

[FatherJack]

I certainly love my children , otherwise I would not have taken majority custody ( I'm a single dad ) , but " romantic " love , I don't think I have ever genuinely experienced that , I was once married. Also I have no intentions of ever having any woman in my life , other than arms-length platonic friends. I did not have an affectionate upbringing , more getting hit than hugs !! Maybe that is why?

[Notabadguy]

When I met my girlfriend I had a gut feeling like she was the one and boi I have high standards and she wasn't close to my type but slowly I started getting attracted to her even though I didn't think about her and I became obsessed, I felt like protecting her from all harm, and I fell hard for her in no time, well I asked her out finally with all my guts and she said yes 😀

So love is basically like
If he/she doesn't make you scared then she isn't the one

[abundantlyrich]

I don't believe in the conditional love that can exists in humans

[DJZest]

Paul Joseph Watson made a video on "love" recently. It's very informative!

It's ironic how women, who, really, have no love to give, tend to want to talk about it the most. And I am talking about all women ever.

[cutekid]

Needs to be felt and experienced... words really can't describe exactly what it feels like

[HereIbe]

Looks, feels, tastes like pussy? I know that's not the truth, but, gosh, it would be nice if it were.

[Montana07]

Nice

Pun is a girl 😂😂😂

[Wowgirl10q]

he's One of the girls

[QueenofCups]

That last paragraph is pure gold.

[Wowgirl10q]

Thanks dude

[QueenofCups]

:-) :-) :-)

[Frankenstein99]

Do you really feel that way in your last paragraph? I can't imagine ever feeling that way about a woman (would like to) but couldn't imagine it.

[Wowgirl10q]

@Frankenstein99 yes only one

[beebella]

I've never been in love.

[ThePundertaker]

Love is a mysterious thing

[Wowgirl10q]

I was looking for ya
I did the @ by your name lol

[ThePundertaker]

Lol
Nice job

[Somerandongager]

Your a girl?

[Wowgirl10q]

@Somerandongager he's one of the girls I tried inviting you and couldn't get it to highlight

[ThePundertaker]

I’m a girl

[Somerandongager]

Oh lol it’s fine. Just havnt seen his vag yet so wasn’t sure 😐

[ThePundertaker]

@Somerandongager I keep it in my pencil box ☺️

[Somerandongager]

Hmmm that’s probably why. I keep on checking inside your school bag

[ThePundertaker]

@Somerandongager stahp looking through my stuuuuuffff

[Somerandongager]

But I wanted to make sure you weren’t cheating on me 😔

[ThePundertaker]

@Somerandongager but my stuffffffff

[Somerandongager]

Okay next time I won’t tell you about it

[ThePundertaker]

@Somerandongager buht

[Montana07]

@ThePundertaker lmao. 👩

[ThePundertaker]

@Montana07 don’t bully me 😝

[Montana07]

Lmao nevahhhhh

[ThePundertaker]

@Montana07 yevawww

[Montana07]

🤣🤣🤣🤣