People say that life’s harder when you’re pretty mainly because more guys are interested in you. I’ve never considered myself super pretty (I wouldn’t say I’m ugly either, maybe average), but I have heard from other people that I am on the prettier side.
But I guess other people (guys especially) think that I am because all throughout high school there has been at least one guy who liked my each year— from guys who I was friends with, to guys who I was sort of friends with/still getting to know/mutuals, to guys that I wasn’t friends with because hated, to guys I didn’t even know.
The only reason I would think that a guy who I never knew or talked to would like me is because of my looks. So does that mean that I’m considered pretty?
The main reason why this is such a big concern to me is the fact that I never liked any of the guys. I don’t like being asked out by someone I had/have no interest in because then it makes me have to think of a way to reject them without being too mean (especially if I was friends with them prior to that). While I was able to find out that that person liked me before he asked me out (through my friends or by my own senses), I do not like surprises like this or being put on the spot.
I did end up rejecting/friendzoning all of them. However, this makes me seem like a hypocrite because I complain about how single I am and have all these wishes/dreams/fantasies about what it would be like if and when I start dating.
So back to where I began, although others may argue that being pretty is a gift that we should be thankful for and that life as someone ugly is actually harder, when you’re put in the same unwanted situation one after the other, it starts to get almost annoying. I’d rather have a crush who I’m unable to approach than to have unwanted and unexpected people say they like me.
I am not trying to sound rude or stuck up in any way, nor am I trying to brag about being “pretty” or “popular” because in reality I really am not. This is only a small portion of my life, but it has been on my mind for a while now. I only ask such question because I am curious about other people’s opinions on this thought.