You can just leave. You do not have to routinely stay with him just because you can't think of a better solution. The best approach is to leave. Anybody who abuses people is a wuss and deserves to be locked up and not in another relationship. They don't deserve love from anyone.
Sometimes we think people will change, we don't realize the situations we are in, and not sure how to get out of them. We are scared to say anything to anyone or don't have anyone to say it to. Good job, thanks for sharing!
Thank you for sharing this! Very brave of you! I hope this serves to educate people as to why victims stay in abusive relationships and warns people of the signs to look for in their loved ones if they suspect something is going on.
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Nobody talks about it but some women actually like it. I know I used to get off on it.
Some people can't leave simply for not being financially independent, not having an income to rent a place and live by theirselves. At least that's very hard that in the country where I am, unless the person has a college degree or rich parents who provide them their own place
"Why you can't just leave" because they chose to also because "I love him". Most of it are emotional reasons I hear every time. It's not like they get blamed and can lose 1/3 of her money if she leaves because everyone assumes the woman deserves it and the law. I don't see men saying "She hit me first" to justify things and everyone turns on his side. So yeah you can leave anytime. What's stopping you? Your feelings? It's not like the law and society is stopping you.
littlelofty ; Thanks for this in site into this persons life. Yes it is a very hard place to be with sum one like this. And if there is kids involved it is were. Be course they are the ones that end up being heart, or killed. There is a lot of triggers like, drinking Alcohol, Drugs, stress, Thinking he is all ways right, And just can not site down and work throw it that is setting him of? It is very hard and I am truly sorry for any one that lives this way. Good luck. Lofty.
Sorry but it's nonsense. Someone who treats you like that deserves nothing other than being in prison. If you give him one second chance and he doesn't change he's actually a criminal who deserves to be behind the bars
This is a real problem. My country has less people than London and since the year started we already have 12 women killed by their husbands. Its 4 a month in a small yet developed country. This needs to stop.
Bollocks. "This video includes people losing limbs" protects people who've lived in war zones. "This lecture discusses rape" protects people who have been raped.
Think about the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you (safely assuming you haven't experienced anything seriously damaging), and imagine it being explicitly and in great detail spelled out in front of you, and a hundred other people.
@goaded... Okay. Why would the topic of ME PERSONALLY be discussed in front of a hundred people, dude? I think what you meant to say was, *a situation in which I have toiled and been negatively exposed to but no one knows it but me* being discussed in front of a hundred people. And yeah, uh... that's called life. Trigger warnings are not rational. They're stupid. No, not discussing rape does not "protect" people who have been raped. *Discussing a serious subject with care and class* is what protects people who have experienced that subject.
I didn't mean the exact event that happened to you personally, just something that might trigger an episode in someone with PTSD. Just because you don't suffer from it, why not make a slight effort (or at least accept other people making that effort) to help people who do?
Are you against wheelchair ramps in buildings, too?
@goaded "Are you against wheelchair ramps in buildings, too?" The actual fuck are you even talking about now? What does that have to do with anything, at all, even remotely related to this subject? I am many levels of confused.
The "make a slight effort" that you're referring to is indeed what ^ I already said-- it is prudent for serious subjects to be discussed with care and class and with peoples' feelings in mind. Saying WHOOOAAA DON'T TALK ABOUT IT AT ALL, TRIGGERED! ! ! ! ! ... is not the way to do that. I can't make this any simpler. Pandering to Internet popularity bullshit is not what real people do in real discussions about real subjects.
I'm just as confused! I don't know what you think trigger warnings are, but they are simply warnings about what people are about to discuss and/or see. It gives people the chance to avoid a subject in order to avoid a potential breakdown. Usually being prepared by a warning is enough to allow them to take part. Like you say, it's just part of discussing something with care and class.
Some people assume it's better to be in abusive relationship... Than be single and miserable!. I mean!. Yeah I would put up with an abusive relationship too.. It's better than my current stage.
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You can just leave. You do not have to routinely stay with him just because you can't think of a better solution. The best approach is to leave. Anybody who abuses people is a wuss and deserves to be locked up and not in another relationship. They don't deserve love from anyone.
You can (usually), but it is hard, I think.
Sometimes we think people will change, we don't realize the situations we are in, and not sure how to get out of them. We are scared to say anything to anyone or don't have anyone to say it to.
Good job, thanks for sharing!
Thank you for sharing this! Very brave of you! I hope this serves to educate people as to why victims stay in abusive relationships and warns people of the signs to look for in their loved ones if they suspect something is going on.
Nobody talks about it but some women actually like it. I know I used to get off on it.
I am completely shocked. Do you seek a healthy relationship now?
Yes but I'm not ready.
I dont think direct violence should be the norm in any kind of human relationships. When things like a knife is coming to play its not good.
Thank you I've been through this myself and its been really hard to accept it and move on but thank you seeing this helped you feel less alone
Some people can't leave simply for not being financially independent, not having an income to rent a place and live by theirselves. At least that's very hard that in the country where I am, unless the person has a college degree or rich parents who provide them their own place
"Why you can't just leave" because they chose to also because "I love him". Most of it are emotional reasons I hear every time. It's not like they get blamed and can lose 1/3 of her money if she leaves because everyone assumes the woman deserves it and the law. I don't see men saying "She hit me first" to justify things and everyone turns on his side. So yeah you can leave anytime. What's stopping you? Your feelings? It's not like the law and society is stopping you.
littlelofty ; Thanks for this in site into this persons life. Yes it is a very hard place to be with sum one like this. And if there is kids involved it is were. Be course they are the ones that end up being heart, or killed. There is a lot of triggers like, drinking Alcohol, Drugs, stress, Thinking he is all ways right, And just can not site down and work throw it that is setting him of? It is very hard and I am truly sorry for any one that lives this way. Good luck. Lofty.
Sorry but it's nonsense. Someone who treats you like that deserves nothing other than being in prison. If you give him one second chance and he doesn't change he's actually a criminal who deserves to be behind the bars
The most annoying part you've left out is where most of the women who do escape find someone else that is the same way.
This is a real problem. My country has less people than London and since the year started we already have 12 women killed by their husbands. Its 4 a month in a small yet developed country. This needs to stop.
"Trigger warnings" are stupid and no one should use them. No offense. Other than that, good post.
Bollocks. "This video includes people losing limbs" protects people who've lived in war zones. "This lecture discusses rape" protects people who have been raped.
Think about the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you (safely assuming you haven't experienced anything seriously damaging), and imagine it being explicitly and in great detail spelled out in front of you, and a hundred other people.
@goaded... Okay. Why would the topic of ME PERSONALLY be discussed in front of a hundred people, dude? I think what you meant to say was, *a situation in which I have toiled and been negatively exposed to but no one knows it but me* being discussed in front of a hundred people. And yeah, uh... that's called life. Trigger warnings are not rational. They're stupid. No, not discussing rape does not "protect" people who have been raped. *Discussing a serious subject with care and class* is what protects people who have experienced that subject.
I didn't mean the exact event that happened to you personally, just something that might trigger an episode in someone with PTSD. Just because you don't suffer from it, why not make a slight effort (or at least accept other people making that effort) to help people who do?
Are you against wheelchair ramps in buildings, too?
@goaded "Are you against wheelchair ramps in buildings, too?" The actual fuck are you even talking about now? What does that have to do with anything, at all, even remotely related to this subject? I am many levels of confused.
The "make a slight effort" that you're referring to is indeed what ^ I already said-- it is prudent for serious subjects to be discussed with care and class and with peoples' feelings in mind. Saying WHOOOAAA DON'T TALK ABOUT IT AT ALL, TRIGGERED! ! ! ! ! ... is not the way to do that. I can't make this any simpler. Pandering to Internet popularity bullshit is not what real people do in real discussions about real subjects.
I'm just as confused! I don't know what you think trigger warnings are, but they are simply warnings about what people are about to discuss and/or see. It gives people the chance to avoid a subject in order to avoid a potential breakdown. Usually being prepared by a warning is enough to allow them to take part. Like you say, it's just part of discussing something with care and class.
@goaded Yes. It is. Conversations don't need a disclaimer before conversing. That's not what "care and class" is about.
well that's why you should get help when you're in this. nobody expecty you to make it on your own.
Of course you can't "just leave". You have to get rid of his body.
HIS body because men deserve it.
My boyfriend says it's normal and that all guys hit their girlfriend. I got used to it after a while.
You gotta be strong & smart enough, and leave... Even if it means stealthily
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Some people assume it's better to be in abusive relationship...
Than be single and miserable!.
I mean!. Yeah I would put up with an abusive relationship too..
It's better than my current stage.
These are many reasons why a person might make the wrong decision and choose weakness over strength.
Bottom line, these are all shitty ways to think and all these excuses need to be disregarded, do what must be done and do not hesitate
Many of them are scared of leaving because of what he could do to them