MyTake - All Alone Again

[Anonymous]

Recent journal entry, wanted to discuss, get some opinions and thoughts, really need someone to talk to.

Did I get left? Am I replaced? We seemed so good but it must've been all in my head or just not good enough or he's found someone new and he doesn't want me anymore. Whats the fun in going for slutty girls? I don't know. I am crazy in the head. I feel so empty and numb. Do I really want to know? Not really. Because I won't be able to handle it.

Let me go then. Don't make me say it. It hurts me more than it hurts you. Let me go if you don't want me. You already know I won't let go. So let me go if I'm not it. You really hate me. Please leave me if you hate me, if you don't think I am good enough.

Without him, I'm in eternal pain. How can anything be that good? Irreplaceable, amazing. Don't want to feel this pain anymore, really does feel like hell. He's lost and I'm in love. Nobody is here for me now. I'm all alone.

[SteveSmith1985]

Hi. Sorry to hear you're in so much pain. Much of the what you describe feeling, I remember feeling myself at one point.

I'm afraid, that I'm not entirely clear on what exactly happened between you two? Do you mind telling me a bit more about your relationship? It doesn't seem like you're quite sure whether things have and it, or why. Did you guys actually break up?

If you can forgive delayed replies, because I'm at work. I would love to have a chat if you need someone to talk to :-)

[myTake Owner]

Hey I’m happy to reply on here or pm, I’ll just answer a few on here anyways, I’m not sure if he cheated, I’m too afraid to ask, and no we haven’t actually broken up, and I have no power to leave, that’s why I want him to let me go

[SteveSmith1985]

Hmm... ok, that's no good. I think you might be better to PM me. I can't PM you unless you follow me first :)

[Matthieu-G]

*popcorn*

This keeps getting better. But for real, you need some... perspective. People come and go and better is around the corner. Whatever he did, someone else can do it ten times better if you let them the time to prove it to you. Just give it time, he will come along (the new guy).

[luvstoned4him]

This guy is not deserving of your love

[luvstoned4him]

thanks for mho

[OlderAndWiser]

It sounds as if you are guided almost entirely by your heart in relationships and guided very little by your head. There are many people that way and I understand why someone would choose to be that way. When I was much younger, I was much more like you. Experience has taught me to use my head and protect my heart and to achieve a balance between being emotive and being rational.

You may not have had enough experience to have lived through something like this previously, but others will tell you that, as awful as you may feel now, this will pass. Your feelings will become less jagged and piercing, your constant loneliness will fade, you will accept the inevitable, and you will will eventually move on.

ALl of our experiences in life mold us into the person who we are destined to become and the molding process can sometimes be painful. Make the most of it by learning some lessons from this experience. Think about how you got into this relationship, what you could have done differently that might have led to a different outcome, whether there were warning signs that you missed. What can you do differently the next time.

The experience is not a total loss if you learn from it and become a stronger person.

Breaking up: you may want to die. . . but you won't, so do yourself a favor and deal with it! ↗

[myTake Owner]

The thing is I know where I went wrong but I’m just in too deep I can’t get out now 🙁

[OlderAndWiser]

Can you take a brief time out?

[myTake Owner]

I can’t leave, that’s why as I said he will have to cut ties with me

[myTake Owner]

Because I’m too in love and crazy about him

[myTake Owner]

It has to be from his side

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you have a close female friend in whom you confide?

[myTake Owner]

Nope

[OlderAndWiser]

Any female friends on G@G with whom you correspond in PMs?

[myTake Owner]

No none

[OlderAndWiser]

Who do you talk to when you need to talk?

[myTake Owner]

I just go on gag lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Feel free to PM me if you need to talk.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you

[lernulo]

Is him the only important thing in your life? May be now it is, but when you realize the important things you have it won't.
When you realize the importance of your parents, it won't, when you realize the importance of your real friends, it won't whenever you find a guy who deserve your tears you are ready to move on.
I understand your suffering, your many questions about if it's you or if it's him, but anything can give back what is lost, just cry and get ready to all what comes, suffering, good things, and better things.
Let him go to whatever he wants to go, because now, you have to realize your suffering, your good things, and your chances.
Future is now, because it's then when we start building it.
Let him go, let your tears go, until you feel you are ready to move feel the pain two days m, no more, realize the important you are now, and see your chances, there are many men on the world, and some of them deserve to be loved by you.
So move on, and be yourself.

[myTake Owner]

I don’t really have much more important things besides my mum, and I can’t let go like I said in my mytake

[lernulo]

Not now, now you must cry, so give yourself permission to cry and clean your feelings.
Talk with your mother about it, and let her hot hugg confort you for a while.

[lernulo]

To let him go you need to feel the confort and hot of the people with value, as your mother, so first:cry and clean
Second: be perceptive to the people who confort you.
Little by little you will start to feel better and use your knowledge to get a better man for you.

[Syrian_survivor]

I still don't get why females do this to themselves lol

Don't follow a random because he makes you feel good, don't attach him to your heart because he seems nice at first, avoid wishful thinking, know your damn value and stop wasting time and energy on people and things which are not worth it! It's standing in the way of your life and future! Grow up and ignore your damn hormones, like seriously! Follow logic, not emotions, emotions will only get you to rock bottom and you should know that!

I hate seeing good women doing this to themselves, it's sad to see how easily manipulated they can be!

[myTake Owner]

It happened a long time ago when I was 15, if it were now I wouldn’t ever get in the same situation it’s just this one I’m stuck in

[Syrian_survivor]

Please don't waste any more time on him, find a way out as soon as possible, it's horrible for a girl in her youth like you to waste her golden years, set yourself free, and improve as a person! You've got a lot waiting for you and a huge life ahead, don't keep it waiting for too long or you'll lose more of it :(

[Syrian_survivor]

I'm rooting for you, and if you ever need to talk or ask questions, I'm here, anything to get you out of this shithole ASAP.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you ❤️❤️ honestly I wish he’d let go but I guess he wouldn’t want to since I give everything possible but it’s just hard you know I’m stuck and I don’t have the power too

[Syrian_survivor]

So he's taking you for granted...

Well then do something unattractive, maybe he'll leave you?
Maybe befriend those other slutty girls? Tell them to have him because you don't wanna be with him anymore?
Think ahead of your future, realize how bad this is for your life, panic, be scared, and do a quick self-defense move to just destroy everything between you and him.

You have wasted 4 years of your life on him now, your menopause is getting closer and you're missing out on better men who are still fresh and are waiting for you, you're wasting your life and abusing yourself, realize the situation, you might not be blessed with kids because of this, you might be played with and get exposed, you might lose friends and family, you might even be in danger because of this one day, your dignity is at risk, everything is at risk.

It's not worth it, so panic! Get your life back! You need it! You're in danger! You're running out of time!

[myTake Owner]

It’s so hard I honestly thought or still think he is the one well I don’t know cause I don’t know how he’s like with kids but yeah

[myTake Owner]

And if I do something unattractive I don’t want to hurt him and it’s not really like me

[Syrian_survivor]

He isn't and will never be the one, that is a fact, trust me, put that in your mind, it is a fact, okay? Logic hun, please, avoid wishful thinking, don't expect anything from anyone.
He. Isn't. The. One.

So think about it, is it really worth it? Don't you feel humiliated to be just a side chick? Don't you feel like an easy girl because you're giving everything to a guy who doesn't gives a fuck? Don't you feel pathetic that you're too weak to let go of a source of extreme sadness because you're attached? :(

Tell you what, could you please imagine a future partner? Imagine a very good man with decent looks, a guy with a well-paying job, a big heart, and a big brain.
Now imagine that this man chose you, this man fell in love with you, he even gives you extra unconditional love because he's kinda sensitive and got attached to you, this man wants to make you happy, he wants a future with you, and is willing to fight the world for you.
Now imagine, what could you offer to him?
What special thing and treatment would you give him that you didn't give to that cheap worthless guy you spent 4 years with? What more can you offer to this new guy who truly loves you? How are you gonna prove that you actually love him and appreciate everything about him when you've already done everything for that sac of shit you gave everything to? While this new guy is willing to give you everything he's never given before to anyone because he realizes his self-worth?

[Syrian_survivor]

Doesn't that make you feel selfish? Think about that man and how he would feel, imagine how sad he could be, how disappointed he might get? If he's attached to you and loves you like his world, those things might really hit him, so it would either push him away from you or it would lead to him being unhappy with you for a long time, he might not show it because he cares about your happiness more than his, such guys do exist, believe me, I'm a living example and I have a hard time with my girlfriend's past even though it's not that bad.

You've given absolutely everything to a guy who isn'f worth shit, how is this new loving guy going to feel special? It would take minimum 4 years and a shitload of work, don't you think that's too long and it would be such a bad experience? To know that you're not making this person who truly loves you as happy as he could be in a relationship just because of your bad decisions?

You're already deep into this problem, but the sooner you leave the better, and the more you'll be able to show how much you love that future partner.

Don't be selfish, please, don't sacrifice everything for a worthless piece of shit, don't abandon your life, your past, your present, and your future for him, he really isn't worth it.

Please, stop abusing yourself and your life, let it breathe, let it happen, let it enjoy being free, I believe in you, save your life, save your future, they're all at risk, and it's all on you, it's your fault and you only have yourself to blame if something really bad happens, which is certain to happen if you stay longer.

Please, know your worth...

[Anonymous]

You're never alone and not replaced either. Tell him how you feel.

[myTake Owner]

I’m afraid

[FrenchyRomain]

yeah i feel that pain, she left me in November and it took a long time for me to start healing

[myTake Owner]

He didn’t leave me I can’t leave him

[FrenchyRomain]

he cheated on you, he didn't leave you and you can't leave him... i never said he left you.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah I know but you said your girl left you I don’t know my bad sorry I assumed

[myTake Owner]

I don’t know if he did cheat I’m too afraid to ask because I won’t be able to handle the answer

[myTake Owner]

I’m so pathetic

[Jamie05rhs]

@Kazzza No, you're not. You're just a passionate person. And you loved him with everything you had. But he didn't deserve you.

[incelposting]

Sounds like someone couldn't get chad to commit

Boo hoo

[Alexis1992]

You need good friends in your gonna need sometime.

[Joker_]

Fantastic myTake

[Anonymous]

Lets talk