We've all been here. Someone comes into your life, whether by your action or theirs, and they grow on you. You start seeing them in a different light, appreciate all they are, enjoy their very presence. Something about them, whether their personality or what you wish to call their soul, is something extra to you, something more special than what you see in others. You start to like them, you spend more time with them, you commit your energy, feelings and dedication to them and before you know it, you're in love.
And as soon as you have it, it is snatched away. The good ol', "it's not you it's me," motivation. No amount of reasoning, assurance or pleading makes a difference. You thought you had something good going on, something that would fulfill a part of you and fill you with life, but it was a facade. And it was simply a matter of time before it fell apart.
Perhaps this has happened once, perhaps twice, perhaps a lot of times. Many would, upon such break ups, fall into an abyss of despair and momentary hopelessness, a festering wound in your heart which transcends into anger, and then dissipates into a void where that someone used to be. It feels unfair, it hurts, and it disassociates you from the very existence of your emotions for the time being. And like me, you might even feel unlovable. As if you're just never quite worth the effort nor the risk.
This very trapping of emotional misfortune has befallen me. But I will neither do what I did the first time it occurred, nor what most do. Instead I will encourage you to not look at breakups or heartbreaks like this, as a finality. Nothing is impossible. And if you truly love someone, it does not have to be over.
This all depends on the reason for you separating of course, but if only because of fear, insecurity, irrationality or low self-esteem, then be instead hopeful. Many relationships are right, just not right at that time. You do not have to give up on something merely because it ends once, and I am of the firm persuasion that a relationship that comes back from an end, will be more stronger and meant to be than ever. Have patience, quell your anger if you have any towards them, and choose instead to trust in God, who has a plan and a path for us all. And a wide door open for us to follow it if we only place ourselves in his grace.
With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.
Love bears all, and is ever hopeful. Let us not live in disappointment and discouragement. There is an alternative. Maybe not now, maybe not in a year, but if you truly love someone, and if you experience that your relationship ended when it should not have, you do not always have to move on instantaneously. Be a warrior, fight for what you want, wait for what you want, pray for what you want. As I see it, something gained with difficulty through sheer will and dedication, is more so indicative of what is meant to be than what comes with ease. And no, I am not advocating for all people to be complete creeps and stalk/bother their exes day and night. I am merely suggesting perseverance and prudence. Maybe you will be friends for the time being, or merely polite acquaintances, if you really have fallen in love with someone, you want them to be happy, in which case you can wait for another opportunity to show them how happy you used to be together. And if rejected a second time or if the relationship once resumed crumbles yet again, so be it. But then you know you did not give up on something that could have been, without truly giving your love's worth to it.
As for myself, if not a chance with the woman I have come to love, then no one. And if so, I can learn to accept that. For that is a choice that can set you free as well!