My entire life I've always thought "true love" was between lovers because that's what I, along with a lot of people have been taught. You fall in love with people you want to make-out with or make love to. You fall in love with somone you want to build a house and a family with. Pretty girls with big eyes and even bigger smiles. Talls guys with nice hair and witty jokes. These past three years of my life have really been eye opening to how that isn't the only case, they've changed how I look at the world and how I look at people. If I could name those years, I would call them my best friend because that's exactly who has changed my mind. She's a girl I met at my very first real job, her and I hit it off instantly. I told myself I would become friends with the next person who started at my job and she just so happened to be that person. Ever since she's come into my life, I've looked at relationships differently. Friendships. Romantic relationships. Family bonds. My best friend made me realize that there are amazing people in the world whose lives I want to be apart of and moments I want to make with them. Whose houses I want to have dinner in. She's led me to becoming friends with other people I wouldn't ever think I could. I love all of the people in my life. A lot. I think about them often and how full my chest and life feels because of them. I love learning about the small things that make them. I love listening to their laughs and how some of them quickly become dear to me like one of my favorite songs. I love learning about their significant others and their families, their cars and what they went to school for. I think about how my life is going to be impacted by these people regardless of how long they stay in my life.
They're like missing pieces to my puzzle. My friends are people that have helped me with my confidence. Been there in dark times. They're people who call me out on my bullshit. They don't allow me to be destructive because being someone's friend doesn't mean sugar coating shit. It means telling them when they're wrong. Correcting them when it's needed.
I've experienced and traveled to new places because of my friends. I've bought spur of the moment plane tickets, driven a truck twice the size of any vehicle I've ever driven, watched the sunset in locations I couldn't fathom existing. I've dipped my feet in the ocean for the first time and got sand in my shoes. I've laid on docks while staring up at stars close to midnight. I've been pulled over for a busted headlight past midnight. Gone to New York and seen my favorite music group live, which changed my life. Stayed up at night and talked for hours. And all of these moments made me fall in love with these friends.
There have been people who have come and gone and I always try to look at it as a lesson and try to cherish and enjoy the times we've shared together. Just because their parting was messy doesn't mean you have to hate the person or forget what they meant to you. It's so easy for me now to love people, love strangers. Fall in love with my coworkers and their backgrounds and stories. I find solace and comfort in their faces and hearing their voices. Even if we don't talk very often, they're still apart of my day and I enjoy seeing them.
This year has also made me cherish people more.
Appreciate the closeness we can have to one another.