I thought I’d put out there my opinion on this. Hopefully some women will relate and some boys that act in this way will realise how it makes their partner feel.
I really don’t understand what level of thought process goes behind liking a photograph of another one - that isn’t a family member… Yes it is the simple tap of two fingers. But, why do you feel the desire or need to openly display that you’re attracted to them or like their photographs. Honestly, it is the subtle equivalent of walking past a woman when with your girlfriend/wife and whistling at her or telling her she’s attractive. You wouldn’t do that, so why like the photograph?
Many men also get rather defensive when their girlfriend asks them not to do this. Why is that? I’d understand it would seem controlling if they told you not to, but what is the problem with simply asking? What do you gain out of liking the photographs? Do you want these girls to see you have liked them? For them to think of you? Or even for these girls to message you? Then if this is the case, you’re not devoted or fulfilled enough by your current girlfriend and should not be in this relationship.
Men also fail to recognise or reason with the hurt this can make a woman feel. Yes, as women we understand it is natural to be attracted to other people. It is not natural to inform the person of it via a like, as well as all the other people who have access to this account! The first thought that will come into many women’s minds is ‘am I not enough’. Do you really want your girlfriend to question herself like that, just so you can double tap on your screen? If you can’t consider that, you’re not considerate enough of her feelings and should leave the relationship.
A common response is that being hurt by this is only reflective of a woman’s insecurity. This is true, but we all have insecurities, just some people are better at ignoring those thoughts. Think about what drew you to this girl’s photograph… Was it her large breasts, her hourglass figure, her beautiful complexion? These are the same things your girlfriend may hate herself for because she doesn’t have them. Also, the girl in the photograph, she probably doesn’t look like this… she will almost definitely have posted her best angle, the best photograph of many, and many women edit their photographs too. So you’re encouraging your girlfriend to compare herself to something completely unrealistic.
Even if your girlfriend is secure about her body, there are other reasons this may make her feel insecure. She will wonder if you’re viewing other women, and essentially informing them that you are attracted to her, then are you bored of your girlfriend… do you want someone else.
So this is for the boys that do this, I will not call you men. Men would put their girlfriend’s feelings above anything else. So to these boys, are those two taps really worth the torture she will put herself through, the doubting, the comparing. I hope not.
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