To My Unhappily Single Mates ❤️

[anon1903]

Things People Ignore While Desperately Wanting A Romantic Relationship :

To the unhappily single people out there, here.

(1) your insecurities are amplified :
Unless you've received education from same sex school where it's a norm to compare yourself with somebody who 100x better than you, Mr or Miss Popular, you haven't seen the ugly head of insecurities, everything that's wrong with your body. I don't mean to body shame here.

Especially if your issues are unresolved. Your boyfriend might say he likes your small boobs and then stare at every woman twice your size... Just an example. And now you're unhappy.

(2) after honeymoon it gets tougher

Forget the cute pics. It's mostly heated arguments, over thinking and relationships challenges once you get past the "talk and sex", initial phase.

(3) they demand time :

Very time consuming. And many couples I've seen yearn to do stuff together, which isn't as cute as it sounds because even twins have their differences.

(4) you tend to have less time for friends :

I know its not true for ever couple, but most of them tend to alienate friends, existing in their own " cute relationship bubble " with friends who are also dating... A wall is erected. You can't help wanting to spend more time with your girlfriend, than your guy mates.

(5) people always assume you'd doing something lovey-dovey :

Taken Gagsters here would confirm this. You might have just wanted to talk to your guy/girl and excused yourself and people would tease you how THEY think you guys wanna make out and more. Cause from the outside, physical intimacy is assured and enviable. Its awkward.

(6) the snooping around :

Some partners have such awry "dealbreakers" that they'd want you to isolate yourself from opposite gender... Be it your boyfriend not letting you wear something new and sexy because "he doesn't want to share the view" or your girlfriend questioning why you addressed a cute girl bestie of yours as "honey".

Jealousy is what fuels a relationship, some say. If you don't argue, you don't care, you don't care.

Bottom line, relationships are hard work. Don't get into them because its glamorized on GAG, TV shows and Facebook.

In some cases, you're better off without them.

anon1903 mini take

PS. Dear "My Boyfriend/Girlfriend" Is Better Than This — sigh, if your partner is above these, why are you reading this? Only to criticize this take right?

#anon1903 #besinglebehappy

[DavidRaul]

Thats a great myTake. I think being single and in a relationship is bittersweet lmao

[the_sinner]

That’s a bit comforting, thanks.

[Guy13]

I would like to take this in a different direction and possibly less critical and more introspective in nature: -Moving too Fast: like especially if it wasn't a friends with benefits to begin with and/or no oral or traditional sex has occurred."I mean only agreed to do this to get in those NICE jeans... I mean because I love you..." --No EX Thinking or commenting: Hmmm... that was not all that good. Damn, I am going to have to train this one... she not like my EX... she about put me in the hospital. Forgetting Who I am in Being Everything for Partner: If I behave this way to meet that Need then he/se will see my Value... and appreciate me AND maybe finally get him to open up to me... it's just one little thing to try in bed ... becoming a Dom/Domina or Open Relationship, that's not who you are, for instance --Clingsters: Aww, I love him/her so much... I know that he wants to be around me more, I can feel it... we've already shared so much and we click so well. We're going to spend much more time together... and think that we both need to know if we can live together. --Being Dishonest To Not Hurt: HOGWASH, never works lying on the front end. Do it now will do it later... I mean Shitte, I am supposed to trust you with my money and bills.. really now !! --Even though it is Red Flag: I think, "the above behavior for instance", is a yellow flag.. proceed with caution. He apologized and I forgive him. --Mind and Behavior Games or Controls: You're right, I do look better in that..."you should let me help with your clothes"..."you're going where... with who... what time should I expect you to get home... call or facetime me when you get there-I would love to say hey to everyone?" "I think we should share passwords" before 6 months etc. He/She just loves me so much!!! therefore Green flag.

I guess that's enough depression before a weekend of dating, says Love Doctor... --

[Rose_84]

I'll rather be single than waste my time on heated arguments, grudges, anger and anxiety.

I got a really short temper so I wanna use that energy somewhere else rather than trying to change my partner.

I'm very good at reading energies so I'll get really mad over any shady shit I observe. (Honesty, love and loyalty is super rare these days).

My weakness is that I won't leave early, I tend to fight to save the relationship by trying to tell them to be loyal or trustworthy and they find this as an opportunity to manipulate me further.

It's more peaceful to be single, at least for my sake!

[CarrieWilson4567]

If you're with a person you truly love you will want to spend your time together. Having friends is nice, but some people grow out of that stage. They see their "Friends" as just sane sex people you pass the time with while you're both searching for your partner's.

[CarrieWilson4567]

*Friends are same sex people you pass the time with when you're single, but not what their priority is, otherwise they never move forward in life.

[anon1903]

Everyone has different priorities

[anon1903]

But I understand your point

[Valso]

Nearly my whole life I've been told by the girls in first grade and then later in highschool that I was ugly and no woman will want me, which is why nowadays I don't upload a picture of myself for a profile picture. I guess these girls were right after all, considering the one who broke my heart was using me to just show off to her friends that she had a boyfriend. Because of her I gave up on dating or even trying to "hit" on any woman for that matter. Eventually I got used to being alone and nowadays I don't care and even laugh at all those in a relationship. Seriously, seeing their every day big and small problems, I'd say I got away with it easily.

[Sixgunsound]

Even after having been married for a decade, I see no reason to try to make other people get into a relationship if they’re not ready or just don’t want to. There is usually a very good reason in both those cases. Ultimately it’s your life, nobody can or should live it for you.

[ethanallen]

I have a supervisor at work. Why would I want a supervisor at home? I love coming home and having total freedom to do what I enjoy. I love hobbies, wild camping, traveling to places that aren't what you pose for on an instagram. Being in a relationship with a woman is like driving a car that impresses everyone but is breaking down perpetually and draining your wallet. After a while you realize that it isn't worth impressing people and you get the car you really like.

[Topaz1979]

Whoever wrote this should know that you are a cool person (✿◠‿◠).

[anon1903]

Thanks so much 💌💞🥰

[Topaz1979]

Thank you as well for thanking me!💞(✿◠‿◠)

[letuswaltzforthedead]

That's absolutely true, plus, all of these are way worse when you have a controlling partner. You have to be extremely careful of who you date so you're not in a bad relationship. Single people dont have to worry about that.

[Kaneki05]

Only hard work if you don't love them I guess and argue over dumb shit. And don't have the same goal to cuddle all the time while lazy watching stuff.

[magiusX26]

some of the points as to why i am happily single and refuse to change that. it ain't worth the hassle.

[love_conquers_lust]

It’s about security and ultimately survival. Your odds of survival go up with a good partner. Good relationship>Single<=>Bad relationship. It’s easier to face life’s risks with a partner. Just don’t become one of those risks.

[GlassTop]

Sex for some is worth all the bad. Not for me but I understand why some put up with so much.

[alance99]

Nice Mytake , right now i am single too, i hope everything goes smooth in future whenever i get into a relationship or marriage

[ASHELY14000]

When you take your single mate to nandos and tear him a new one with savage banter

[Blackcosmo]

Amazing MyTake!

[art84]

Great Mytake.

[VanguardTitan]

This helps, very validating. Thanks