Why rejection is a good thing!

melanieeeB

Well I'm on a two hour train ride ... so let's do a myTake. (On my phone, without my research and after years of not writing any myTakes.. may I add)

(Plus additional info: I'm going to stop proofreading and stop changing parts and bits ... every time I almost delete the text and my screen is tiny. For complaints ... let it be, thank you haha)

First of all, rejection is inevitable. It's a part of life. It's normal and common. Yeah, it is hurtful for sure, but very important too and it is NOT, i repeat, will the real slim sh.... ups... it's NOT a failure! Not at all.

Why rejection is a good thing!

1. Rejection in like work, projects or other overall plans:

Not everything that you set your mind on is what you need in life.

Sometimes the thing you think you want so desperately is just not meant for you. Sure, you will not see it in the moment, but later on, because sometimes quitting what isn't serving you will open new doors and most of the time, nearly always, a way better door opens!

It is okay to let go of that job that you hate. It is okay to quit your dream university. It is okay to change your mind, let go and start new.

Rejection is an opportunity to rediscover, reevaluate, and explore different paths, maybe even yourself, and this time better.

Why rejection is a good thing!

2. Rejection in romance and first approaches:

It is a blessing!

Sure you fancied that person that you approached and it is very brave of you to go over there and approach someone! It's great! Keep shooting your shot! The more you do it, the easier it gets.

It also shows strength to be open about your interest and communicate that in a normal, decent way, but let's be real, you don't know that person yet.

You shoot your shot according to your first impression and they say no. They don't fancy you back, no matter the reason!

They just don't wanna get to know you better and that's all you need to know. It's not even about you personally, they don't know you personally, it can be a vibe, a bad mood that they're in or whatever, who cares .. you don't always need an explanation.

Yes it hurts, yes it would have been nice to not get rejected again, but that's life. They did you a favor by being honest and by not playing any games and using you for whatever... they just said no. That's it. You now have the permission to move on and let go. You can now go and fancy someone new.

Not everyone will like you back and that is okay.

You also don't walk into school and immediately be friends with everyone. If you're lucky, you will have 1-4 friends during school.

Not every person you approach will like you back, a minority might have an interest in you and a smaller minority will end up being an important part of your life. That's okay.

3.1. Rejection in healthy relationships:

Someone deciding to end things with you and leave what you had? Man, that hurts a lot!

I'm still hurting from my last break up, but that's okay. I'm doing better and you will too. It's not the end of the world.

Sometimes people are just in our lives for some seasons and good reasons too.

You hopefully had a great time together, it was still meaningful and I hope and guess they were in your life for the good things and the right time too.

Most things don't last forever and people grow up and grow apart. It's okay. Change is good, you grow as a person and so do they. Sometimes you grow in different directions. Sometimes love at first slides away. You can't do anything, you can't control the heart of someone else and there is nothing you can do to keep someone.

If someone decides not to be with you, let them go. They and you deserve someone who feels more strongly about you or them.

Why rejection is a good thing!

3.2. Rejection in abusive/toxic relationships:

And sometimes that person played you, lied and manipulated you and maybe even abused you.

So why should you stay? "Captain, we went in the wrong direction!". I think it's time for a course correction.

Leaving is a good thing. Divorce is a good thing. You don't wanna stay with someone who disrespects and disvalues you that fucking much. Go and find someone who loves you and be thankful that the other person was the one to finally let go of you, cause lets be honest, you probably wouldn't have left on your own anyway. Block them everywhere and finally allow yourself to be happy. Gain some self-respect and don't let them come back in again, cause no, they don't come back out of love, they come back to keep playing their game.

4. Rejection in friendships:

Again, they're doing you a favor and again, people grow apart. We change and we will keep changing forever and that's an amazing experience! Life would be fucking boring without change.

Friends also go and come and again most friends are just here for a season.

Like university friends, past dance class friends, old school friends, old work-place friends and new work-place friends ... the list goes on. It's okay. It's great having them there when you're going through the same experiences, but again, not everyone lasts afterwards.

Why rejection is a good thing!

Don't let rejection stop you or tear you down. Rejection is nothing personal, it's just another path of life and just a new direction to go.

See it as something that is allowing you to experience life, some new chances and opportunities that are opening up to you. If something doesn't work out, it's for the better and even if you can't see the greater plan behind it, trust your God or the universe or whatever you believe in, that there are bigger plans for you. Rejection is temporary and so is the hurt of it.

It's going to be better!

Why rejection is a good thing!
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