I've been back and forth with whether or not Tinder is a good thing for the dating world. I'm still leaning towards no for the major reason as it acts as a crutch to guys who fear walking up to random girls. I've seen guys swiping while girls are literally in the same room just sitting there. This is the true power of the comfort zone as these girls were way hotter than anyone they were matching with. As such, instead of just talking what girls like in a guy and how to be confident, I think it's important to go back to basics: how do you get yourself off your scared, lazy ass and actually out there with real girls. The problem? Rejection. So mentally we must ready ourselves with the best mindset so that we can have a quick bounce back when it happens. And, boy, does it happen.
1. I Learned.
Every rejection is a learning lesson. Very cliche but very true. Even if the learning lesson is that trying to talk to a girl when she has her earphones in or trying to get at a girl who has a boyfriend who's bigger than you and getting your ass kicked is a lesson all the same even if it doesn't actually help you get better with girls. You will accumulate massive information skill that not I nor anyone else could ever help you learn.
2. Way Worse Things Happen To Other People Everyday.
People are starving, people get attacked for no reason, people lose their jobs, people have their partners of years cheat on them, parents lose their kids to diseases, etc. In the scheme of things, you getting burnt and even god forbid getting embarrased by a harsh rejection is not that bad.
3. It’s a long term game.
You aren't trying to get the girl. You're trying to get this area of your life more handled. You're trying to learn how to best connect with another human being. It's a process. You will take years maybe to get where you want to get with the opposite sex, but the best part of it is the journey itself so don't fight or rush it.
4. You can’t help but hit eventually
Law of averages means you will inevitably be successful unless you are being obviously too bold or too passive. Yet at some point statistics work for instead of against you and you will eventually find acceptance among that rejection and that will be what you remember.
5. You're only some to some.
You will also learn that who is into you generally has little to do with how hot you consider them. People you consider average may not respond well to you and people you consider too good for you will want to have long chats with you or even hook up with you in the club bathroom. This comes down to a number of factors including your looks, your personal style with the opposite sex, and timing, but ultimatly rejection teaches you that it's mostly senseless and shouldn't be overly analyzed.
6. Good Stories
Yes, guys will sit around in attention when you are the guy with all the great hookup stories (especially if they've seen some of these in action and so know they're true war stories.) Yet, there's nothing quite like the hookup story gone horribly awry to make you the real life of the party amongst your boys.
7. Time Heals All
Simple, you will not remember any of this in a few days. We men tend to have the special power of selective memory and will remember our successes over our failures. This may be because we assume it's going to be harder than it is. In any event, even your most brutal rejection will be forgotten.
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