Do you know what love actually is?

[TracyF]

Love is said to be many things by many different people. Some say love is familiarity with a person, to the degree that you don't want to be apart. Some confuse love with lust. Some even think that love is their desire to be with a person and the thought of a future together. But these things are only called love because they make US feel good. They are entirely one-sided in their love. But true love is not any of these, true love is an action. True love is a choice. To wake up and say this person I will love not because of anything they have done, not because of the way they look, not because of what they can do for me, love says I just love you because you are you. Love is unconditional, truly. Love is always giving, never taking. This is why so many marriages and relationships fail, A lack of true love. When one partner gives and loves unconditionally, yet the other has conditions. The two quickly fall into dismay because of this. So I say find someone who understands love, and how to love. Because without love for each other, unconditional love for each other, why are you together? To fulfill your emotional needs, physical needs, mental needs? This only holds you together till you're fulfilled in Those needs. Then you realize you are only together because of convenience. Or maybe they can't provide you with those things as much as you want, so you look to others to do them for you, and soon you just cheated on your partner. When you live only for yourself, you will never know what love is. When you put yourself before your partner, problems follow. You are to love them as much as you love you. And you can't love someone unless you can love yourself.

[mobiusforniner]

Pretty much as you say, and ill add that love is sacrifice. Its putting someone elses needs before your own. Human beings are almost universally self serving, so when you observe someones put themselves through pain to ensure your happiness, you know they love you. Even if that pain means letting go

[strateguy632]

needs? no, just sacrifing a preference for me.

[LiamJHayden]

"Love is unconditional, truly."

I have only perhaps seen that from parent to child. Otherwise, there have always been conditions. Don't cheat. Don't murder my family. Some condition that if violated would end it.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I told my ex first time when he came home and was very discouraged and sad about failing at something at work, and thought he was a loser. I said I loved him and would be next to him to celebrate how he’d win next time.

[KrakenAttackin]

@lafemmefatale_1. But... he's an Ex, so you dumped him.

[Babygirl_S]

Love is to have butterflies in your stomach when you think about a man 😌

Daddy when he was younger

[TheMadLad]

Seems like someone watches a lot of korean drama..

[Babygirl_S]

@TheMadLad They're good.

[TheMadLad]

They aren’t.
Your eyes are mesmerizing but your thoughts are a bit off.

[Babygirl_S]

@TheMadLad Thank you! I'd suggest you to watch Boys Over Flowers 😍

[inhua]

romantic love is a man-made concept designed to give spiritual meaning to biological impulses between two sexual partners which require a two-way street at least in a traditional/conservative sense

familial love is the bond between parent and offspring which can be a one-way street because a parent is obligated to love their offspring even if the offspring doesn't love

these days, modern/liberal romantic relationships are completely one-sided to feed one partner's narcissism and ego at the cost of the other's dignity and self-respect. when the neglected partner expects some semblance of equality and reciprocation, they are gaslighted into being shamed as "entitled" or "oppressive" or "insecure"

[strateguy632]

very wrong. love is emotion not choice, nor decision nor action. "always giving never taking" too extreme and not love.

love causes loyalty and usualy will fade so search for new lover. love causes a desire to give bit not only give.

[TracyF]

No your version of love isn't love. It is a choice you make. Example, think of a convicted criminal guilty of the worst crimes. If his mother still loves him after what he did possibly to her and certainly to others, was that based on emotions only? No, because love is not based on weather or not this person is nice to you, or loyal to you or bad to you or anything. The truth is a mother will love their child no matter what that child does, because her love is not based on conditions, it's unconditional. True love is unconditional, and is never asking for anything. Your version of love is most likely lust. This is probably why your relationships have failed. Learn what love is, learn to love, learn to make a choice to love.

[strateguy632]

hahaha "that is why your relationships fail" i am speechless r. o. f. l. :D

[strateguy632]

now that i caught my breath... open a friggin dictionary paper love is a strong affection... that is the word.

[TracyF]

Not true love my friend. And there are many different definitions of love from many different languages. So the white supremacist idea that just because the English man wrote it it must be true is very stupid.

[Lara_Croft]

God is Love 1 John 4 vs 16. John 3 vs 16 For God so Loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.

[KrakenAttackin]

"Love" was invented by Madison Avenue to sell consumer products.

[Lonestar13]

Love is putting someone elses before self.. simply.

[Äxlbäksölöl]

Love is a release of dopamine and oxitosin.

[TracyF]

No it's an action. Dopamine is released because of several different things or stimulants, and the same with oxitosin. True love is an action, and unconditional.

[Äxlbäksölöl]

Ok essay writer no need to wright sentence longer than the great wall of china