There are a lot of people who believe that any and every situation can be worked out if you choose to stay/fight for a relationship be it with a partner or with family or friends, but this should not always be the case especially if your relationship is negatively impacting your life, happiness, physical and/or mental health.
If you are in a relationship where whenever any little thing goes wrong, you are thrown ultimatums or the person actually says they'll walk out on you, and does but comes back until the next fight and the cycle repeats, this is toxic behavior. This is someone who cannot adult enough to hold a conversation and try to work things out. They resort to threats and gaslighting to keep you effectively running back to them, and changing only for them, while elevating themselves to a position where they literally have power over you because you are so desperate to have them remain in your life even though you are suffering.
It is easy to fall victim to this cycle especially if you have abandonment issues from childhood where a parent or other important person left or repeatedly left you when all you were seeking was their love and a relationship with them. So of course, you may find yourself in similar relationships with partners and friends where you would do anything to have them stay in your life because the alternative in your mind is only loneliness and pain.
It can be incredibly hard to convince yourself that you are enough, you will survive the pain of their departure, and you will find people who absolutely want to be in your life for you. You must make a plan on how to end it, and stick to it. Don't go in blindly because you'll renege.
Tell yourself you can move on from this and that if someone wants to walk away bad enough, let them. You will surprise yourself when you let go and start to fill what you thought was something fulfilling, with something else--be it a hobby, socializing with friends, or a new relationship. Just remember to give yourself grace and time to heal from letting someone leave your life or walking away yourself, and lean on people who actually matter who can help lift you up so you can eventually move forward to bigger and better things.
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