How to Cope with a Friend's Death

[Kittyshoes1000]

That friend made us laugh. We got into fights, but we made up in the end. We kept each other company. We were there for each other. We listened to each other. We loved each other. It was a dark time when I heard the news that she left this world forever. If this happened to you, you might have felt that the world was ending. You fell into a dark hole and you can't get out. Well, I'm here to help you cope.

Rember, you're not alone

There are plenty of other people grieving over the loss of your friend. Of you comfort them, they will comfort you. No one wants to grief alone. Also it will make you feel better that you aren't the only one grieving

If you're going to the funeral, give a small speech

This way, you can get all of those sad feelings out of your system. But be warned, you might cry when talking about your friend.

Don't isolate yourself

Spend time with family and other friends. They know you are grieving, and they will help you through. Your family and other friends might not be able to make you forget about your friend's death. But they can help you forget about grieving. Also if you isolate yourself for too long, you might become depressed or worse.

Keep a picture of your friend

Make sure the picture has your friend smiling on it. It can be a picture of when you and your friend were relaxing at the beach, or when you and your friend sang karaoke together. Otherwise, make sure you two were having fun in the picture. That way, you can see your friend's smiling face. That way you know they are happy, wherever they are.

If you did activities with your friend, don't stop doing them

Enjoy that activity for your friend. They wouldn't like it if you just quit. Don't give up! (I stopped my activities and now I regret it)

Keep a journal of what you and your friend did together

That way you won't forget those special memories. When you think about the loss, open up the journal and read what you two did before he/she died.

Visit the cemetery

Sometimes we have to confront the truth. When you go to his or her grave, bring flowers and maybe some tissues. You can talk to their grave, he/she will listen, even if you can't see them.

If your friend was cremated, visit where their ashes were scattered.

I hope these tips help you. I'm very sorry about your loss. I hope you feel better. God bless you😊

[nert73]

Some close family friends of ours lost a family member. His two sisters and best friend went to his grave and had a snowball fight. They said "he was the easiest one to hit!" And they laughed about it! They came up with "what would Ty do?" And they started doing things that he'd do or want them to do. Like at church during the children's message, they went up to the front with us kids (they're in their late 20s) because they said he was always the star of the children's message and that that's what he'd do.

[Kittyshoes1000]

That is a very touching story. I'm glad you shared it😊

[nert73]

:-) 😊

[joefryer]

its really hard
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[Anonymous]

I lost a friend when I was much younger. It was very hard to deal with but luckily we were all a very close group of friends and grieving together helped so much. Even though it didn't seem it at the time. We all had so many questions and were so angry... but we were all in the same boat and feeling the same.

Thanks for sharing this, I hope it helps some people.

[ConfusedGrocer]

What if you don't believe in heaven? The fact that your friend is rotting and her flesh is getting eaten by bugs would be harder to accept than they're in some dream place where they live happy forever.

[Anonymous]

So sorry if you have lost a loved one. Another lesson I learned is to let yourself feel emotions even if you don't understand them. You may feel angry or guilty along with sad. And that's ok. Just don't internalize the feelings.