Alright, Gentlemen, while Valentine’s Day is meant to celebrate ones undying love and devotion, Valentine’s Day can quite easily become a relationship disaster. I do agree at times that Valentine’s day should be like any other day where you show your love to the one you love but this is a day specifically set aside to show those feelings, those emotions, show the One how much they really mean to you. As such, do not under estimate the power of Valentine’s Day, no other holiday can so abruptly turn love from sweet to sour. The good news is that with some thoughtful preparation and emotional powers, you and your partner can have a fun Valentine’s Day that's passionate and exciting for you and her, you and him and most importantly, the both of you together.
On Valentine’s Day, it is true that nothing else matters. Love takes centre stage and this is its moment to shine. Both you and your partner will play a role in shaping how the day turns out for you. Gent’s this one’s for you; here are a few tips on how you can show up as the knight who sweeps his love off her feet filling her with overflowing adoration for you.
1. Take the Day Seriously.
Guys, take the day seriously. Feeling the pressure that comes with the intense commercialisation and marketing of Valentine’s Day, there are guys I know who end up battling the day altogether. They really do hate having to conform and meet the ‘standards’ that determines how much they love their partner.
I can understand this reaction and at times will agree with it, it is guaranteed to make trouble in paradise. With this attitude, nothing you do will go well and your partner is sure to be disappointed. DO NOT fall into this trap and if you do, keep these feelings to yourself.
Better to accept it is what it is than to fight against it. Embrace the day; do not treat it as an imposed obligation. Muster up your enthusiasm and excitement to show how much she's loved by you; it will count just as much if not more than any gift you give. If you are at a loss and cannot come to find a way to be positive on this day then do it for her, to see that smile on her face and know you’re the reason behind it.
2. The Day of Love
Remember it's a love day. Of course Valentine’s Day is about giving gifts to one another but the gifts are only expressions of love and affection. How you are with one another is far more important than what you give one another, remember that! Just buying a gift won't cut it, the gift is a just a part of a manifestation of feelings of love and affection that have already been made so make sure you show it. It's your day to be a romantic lover outside the bedroom if you aren’t already. That means being affectionate, paying attention to her with caring and tenderness and a willingness to make her and the day feel special. As I said above, if all else fails, do it for her!
3. Of course! The right gift
For a lot of men agonising over the right Valentine’s Day gift or any special gift for that matter takes all the fun out of things. Don't let this happen to you. Remember you're celebrating your love for the love of your life. Love, yours included, cannot be defined and captured by a material gift. So don't get paralysed with indecisiveness.
A good solution is to get more than one gift. Flowers and chocolates are the time tested symbols of love on Valentine’s Day. They should be a part of your offering. Having flowers delivered at home or at work (unless she's extremely shy) can be very romantic. Gauge the situation, know what she likes, what she dislikes, pay attention to her, the little things you remember mean the most to her!
If you wanted to go further you could factor in a personal expression of your love based on what you know delights your partner. For many women this is jewellery. You should know what that is for her, if you don't, ask someone close to her. (Guys, not knowing is a sign you're not paying attention to the most important person in your life, she doesn’t need to tell you what she likes, watch what she wears, looks at her photos, you notice a lot, just watch. So, not knowing is terrible, start paying more attention.)
Now, say she isn’t a jewellery person, no worries, don’t fret, find out what she likes in place of it. Again this is something you should already have a good sense of. This love gift reflects your caring and thoughtfulness and the time and attention you've taken to please and make her feel truly special to you.
All in All
All in all, I reckon things will work out great for the two of you this Valentine’s Day. Just pay attention to her, her needs, what she wants and know that this is a very special day to her. Be yourself, show your love and your care and when it’s all said and done, know she loves you. Why? She chose to spend this day with you!
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