A true relationship is when you make the other person happy

[KhaysunDei]

Whether it's dating, having sex, marriage, or whatever, I've begun to realize that what makes a relationship work is that both people are really happy to be with one another. Now, I understand this should be obvious and EVERYONE should already know this like it's common sense. But not everyone does or maybe only a few people really understand this.

I have never dated a girl before, but recently, I've been trying to befriend women and really see if I can end up dating them or not. Well, so far, not good BUT I've come to realize that I will not be happy because I will never make her happy as a boyfriend. It would very selfish if I continued to pursue her which would make her very uncomfortable.

And so here I'll try to connect this with the "friendzone." Before you ask a girl out, say to yourself "Am I doing this out of selfishness? Just so that I can have a pretty girl all to myself?" What you should be thinking is "I really love her, her personality, everything, and I know I can make her more happy because I know her very well and have tricks up my sleeve." It's just a fundamental conflict between love and greed.

Thank you!

[Rozara]

I agree. When two people in a relationship are on the same page about what makes each other happy, it reduces confusion and miscommunication and can lead to better understanding and, overall, a better relationship.

[Despondency]

You're welcome! \o/

[MariellaRo]

Don't agree with all of this. Your third paragraph is fine, but the headline and the picture are... let's say, it is dangerous to believe in things like this throughout your whole life.
If you will ever be in a healthy relationship with a woman, you will not make her happy. She will be happy without you already and vice versa, and because you two like each other, you will decide to be in a relationship. Not because "Without you, I'm nothing." Not "I love you because I need you" but "I need you because I love you" (that's from Erich Fromm, in case you care).

[KhaysunDei]

hehe, I just needed a random picture and the inspiration was quickly fading. But I totally understand, you guys won't obviously be happy all the time but even when you're angry with each other, you forgive and in their absence, you always miss them. I always advocate a balance.

[phanindra554]

Really the poster was really so loving 😊
Very mice take😊

[KhaysunDei]

aw thanks! (I found it last minute)

[Trini-Rose]

I agree and great advice :)

[SomeHopeLeft]

aye, look another trini

[Trini-Rose]

Ha yeah gyal ;)

[JackKerouac77]

Oh dats nice

[KhaysunDei]

thanks! i really appreciate that