A guy who fell for a girl in a friends with benefits scenario. What do I do now?

[Anonymous]

Just as the title implies, I am a guy who has fallen for my friends with benefits partner. we've been seeing each other for six months now. Started off as a hookup turned into a fuck buddies. We're both in college, she's turning 21 this summer and I am 24. (didnt go to college until 3 years after high school) We do couple stuff like hold hands in public, cuddling after sex, go to movies and dinner. She is home for the summer and has told me she has already made out with a guy from there. There was also an instance during the beginning of our friends with benefits relation where she and I were at a party together and she made out with a random stranger in front of me and then cried about it and broke off our relations the next day. a week later she called me back and wanted to continue the friends with benefits status until now. (started in january) She has told me that she is the kind of girl who gets drunk and hooks up with random guys and she has done so in the past many times. I am the only one who she has been with for so long. I really want to believe that she likes me more than a fuck friend but her previous actions and her future ones keeps me doubting. She's just confusing the hell out of me with how she acts when she's with me and when she's not with me. She told me she hasn't hooked up with any guys since the early parts of our fuck friends stages but has admitted that she has hooked up with a guy since being home and away from me, 2 weeks now. I want to wait for this girl to come around but is this just a lost cause? Or do I just need to be patient? Girls are weird man..

Wait for her and keep crushing her with love

Nothing is gonna come out of it. Forget her.

Nothing is gonna come out of it but keep hooking up with her

[lethal23]

She's using you to fall back on when no one else is interested. She likes you but she's in love with intimacy not you. Sorry that is really harsh. She likes looking and feeling like she's in a relationship but wants the freedom of having a good time with someone and when she's lonely she has you in the bank. She doesn't take you seriously. If she liked you she would never hook up with someone in front of you unless she was trying to make you jealous, that is something that usually comes from two people competing against one another. Move on, she won't come around, as long as she thinks you are there she won't take you seriously.

[dominiquois]

I doubt she'll change. Though it might be easier to convince her because she is female and most females like the romantic stuff no matter how hard they deny it. Maybe she does hookup with random people to boost her selfesteem, idk. In which case, it'll be hard to get her to stop seeking validation from other guys. She might have daddy issues, who knows? This is a mess though. God, I hate hook up culture, it's so cheap and reckless. Guess, I'm one of the few. You're best of telling her ASAP before you continue getting emotionally involved.
Good luck amigo.

[goodvibes]

That's the consequence of that type of relationship. I really feel for you but at the same time you have to take the consequences if your choices. She isn't bound to you because of the relationship you chose. And quite frankly, these are selfish types of relationships that will really hurt someone if they want more. I'm sorry about that. I hope maybe next time you'll have better luck and better judgement.

[Erwin]

I think she's just incapable of a monogamous/exlusive relationship at the moment. Even if you're gonna be in a relationship with her, it's just gonna end up in the same way.. her hooking up with random guys occasionally. I'm a guy so I naturally vote C (lol) but depends on you though. Are you willing to tolerate her hooking up with other guys?