Okay, so I was doing the usual single thing, getting to know people, going on a date here and there, etc.
There was one guy I had the hots for - I'm very attracted to him (he's the guy of my dreams looks wise but a bit of a dick) and we have the same interests. He was like a better version of my ex boyfriend. But it became clear that he was just looking for sex, and I was looking for more. We have never had sex or kissed or anything.
Anyway. We hadn't spoken for some time, and then I send him a message which said "hey how are you? Xx" simply because it occurred to me at work one day we hadn't spoken in a few weeks. After he didn't reply, I curiously went on his Facebook and discovered he had deleted me. A couple of days later, he sent me a message "Fancy a shag tonight? Xx" and I ignored it. I had made my feelings of being just sex clear. The next day I had a message which said "Oioi". And again, I ignored it. This was last month.
Since then, I have recently started seeing someone. We are in a relationship together. And I was with him last night and I get a message from the old guy - "Fancy a shag? Xx" and I didn't want to tell my boyfriend about it but he said "it's upsetting you, please tell me" and I did. I asked him not to message the guy, I would deal with it.
So. Do I:
A. Completely ignore it and hope he gets the message; after all he deleted me off Facebook, he'll forget me eventually?
B. Send him a message along the lines of "I'm confused why you're messaging me. You deleted me off Facebook which says to me either I did something wrong, or you're ashamed of me. But I think you should know, I'm seeing someone else. I want to be friends, we have a lot in common but I understand if you don't feel the same."
Or C. something completely different.
**Side note, the old guy is a musician and music producer and I'm a musician, so I have a bit of an interest from a work point of few to remain friends. But I'm 21 and he's 20; if that effects it**
There was one guy I had the hots for - I'm very attracted to him (he's the guy of my dreams looks wise but a bit of a dick) and we have the same interests. He was like a better version of my ex boyfriend. But it became clear that he was just looking for sex, and I was looking for more. We have never had sex or kissed or anything.
Anyway. We hadn't spoken for some time, and then I send him a message which said "hey how are you? Xx" simply because it occurred to me at work one day we hadn't spoken in a few weeks. After he didn't reply, I curiously went on his Facebook and discovered he had deleted me. A couple of days later, he sent me a message "Fancy a shag tonight? Xx" and I ignored it. I had made my feelings of being just sex clear. The next day I had a message which said "Oioi". And again, I ignored it. This was last month.
Since then, I have recently started seeing someone. We are in a relationship together. And I was with him last night and I get a message from the old guy - "Fancy a shag? Xx" and I didn't want to tell my boyfriend about it but he said "it's upsetting you, please tell me" and I did. I asked him not to message the guy, I would deal with it.
So. Do I:
A. Completely ignore it and hope he gets the message; after all he deleted me off Facebook, he'll forget me eventually?
B. Send him a message along the lines of "I'm confused why you're messaging me. You deleted me off Facebook which says to me either I did something wrong, or you're ashamed of me. But I think you should know, I'm seeing someone else. I want to be friends, we have a lot in common but I understand if you don't feel the same."
Or C. something completely different.
**Side note, the old guy is a musician and music producer and I'm a musician, so I have a bit of an interest from a work point of few to remain friends. But I'm 21 and he's 20; if that effects it**
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Thank you for all the responses.
I've decided a sort of best of both worlds... I'm a bit torn because the girls are ignore him and the guys are let him know you're in a relationship.
If he contacts me again, I will follow the advise of MH. Ta!
I've decided a sort of best of both worlds... I'm a bit torn because the girls are ignore him and the guys are let him know you're in a relationship.
If he contacts me again, I will follow the advise of MH. Ta!
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+1 y
Hmm. So he texted me again yesterday but just with "Oioi" - can't really reply with "I have a boyfriend" lol. So far I've ignored, shall I continue ignoring?
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