I used to be a stripper, my boyfriend can't let it go?

[Anonymous]

In 2012 I started stripping on and off until about June of 2013, I was very upset about a previous break up and was making horrible choices like stripping and doing drugs. My parents finally found out and it ruined my sisters and my relationship, my parents made me go to drug counseling and didn't let me hang out with a certain group of people that I was hanging out with at the time. Me and my sister made amends and my family relationship is now perfect. I am now in a 7 month relationship with my boyfriend and he still can't seem to get over it, we argue a lot and everytime we argue whether it be about my past or not, the arguments always lead to my past, will he ever get over it? I really don't know what to do, the more he says he can't get over it the more I beat myself up over it, if my sister and parents got over it why can't he? He didn't even know me at that time, I just really don't know what to do.

[cheeseburgermafia]

Your drug use is what ruined your relationship with your sister. Your parents just made you honest to her. Your parents also made the right decision to make you go to drug counseling. If you hang out with the same people as before, you will probably start using again.

You're past all of that, and that's good. If your boyfriend can't get over the fact that you used to be a crappier version of the person you are today, that's his problem. You're awesome today, and weren't quite so awesome last year. He needs to get over himself. If he can't, then get over him.

Maybe he's afraid his family will find out he's dating an ex-stripper? I know my friends would be high-fiving me if they knew, but my family would be questioning my judgement. Honestly, it's no one's business but yours.

[Shaggy5150]

He isn't a good match for you. End this relationship. He will never let your past go and will hold it over you always and make you miserable. Anything in your past is just that, in your past. We all have one and all the good and the bad brought us to where we are. Stop beating yourself up over his insecurities.
Set yourself free of his control. Let him see that since he can't handle your past, he can't handle you or your future. His loss. You will find a man that will love all of you and not degrade you for who you are. Move forward not backward.
Good luck.

[The_Boy]

He is maybe scared in the future by thinking about past. I mean when man fall in love with a woman he has strong feelings for her, emotional and sexual and doesn't wants to share that with other mans or that his woman body see every other man and desire her.

I think you should show him his your empathy for him and ask him things like why do you feel that way etc.. he will probably be mad while conversation but try to stay calm and just listen what he has to say, whatever it is. And understand its HIS feelings, so try not to be offended.

He must be clear with his self and realise who you are NOW in this moment and be happy now. :)

[Cowboyclown]

Strippers are sexy I don't see the problem I'd use it if I were you special dance for him. I think he's just being sensitive for no reason

[Tommyjamesfb]

Well try to assure him that it's in the past now and it was a mistake you regret and will never do again... yet if he still can't let go of the past then this won't work

[Anonymous]

Girls always have the urge to cheat, just as men do... the stripper lifestyle is well, kind of always a part of you now

[whitespider10]

give him a lap dance after you guys finish arguing

[The_Boy]

That actually sounds nice! :)
I would love that from my girl after an argument.. it clears mind! :)

[Meedo]

i don't think he will ever get over it.