Stripper boyfriend. Should I go ahead?

[Anonymous]

I recently met a male stripper at a bachelorette party. I wrote my number on his chest and he called me back. We dated a few times, he makes me laugh and sex is great.

But I'm wondering if I should go ahead. His shows are wild, even with light bondage and all these girls drooling over his body. He made it very clear he won't stop although he also has a regular job during weekdays.

I'm 30 and he's 28.

[Harleigh90]

I used to work this industry years ago. The harsh reality is, he probably isn't ready for a relationship, and if he is could you trust him?

Iv seen many girls break and take it out on a customer/client resulting in carnage.
Would you be thinking he has other girls writing on his chest?
If you fall in love could you support him with his career?

I know emotions are high because it's a new relationship etc. But you have to be honest with yourself and be strong and supportive. It takes a very strong women to share her man.

If you keep dating now you can build up on that emotional connection, be that someone he can full back on when things get shit, because they do. Some days are amazing other days not so much. Its hard, emotional and physical draining.

Whatever you decide listen to your core, don't think with your heart, your inner strength will see you straight.

[Asker]

He says he does it for the extra cash but I know he's enjoying it. I saw his excitement in the show with having his body worshsipped.

[Harleigh90]

Regardless if its his full-time job or something on the side. That isn't going to change if you can trust him enough.
In regards to his excitement, you generally have to go off the audience, it's a role, you feed what they come to see.

[Asker]

Based on your experience, what do you think about the fact that they also do light bondage stuff, like tying him up, whipping and scrathing.

[Harleigh90]

Honestly? It's part of the role. He is performing a show, he aim is to make everyone in that room want him. But it's a job and this is how you would need to see it. Have you spoke to him about kinks is it someone that part of him or is it just for work?

[Asker]

Yes. It's just a role. But I'm sure he likes it because I've seen it and we talked about it. He probably sees these things as a way to worship his body.

[Asker]

He' also proud when he has marks

[Harleigh90]

Being proud of his scars goes deeper sounds like more of kink. This could be completely unrelatable with his work.

If you really like this guy you need to go into dating him with a very open mind. You see and learn a lot about the darker side to sex or sex appeal quickly.
If you have little knowledge or experience it may seen extreme to you.

I honestly think you should talk to him about how you are feeling and listen to him too.
If he tells you something you don't fully understand pop me a messages, I'll try and help the best I can.

[Asker]

Thanks!

[northerngal]

Well my experience has been dating a male stripper is fine. Maybe a friends with benefits situation is fine. But a relationship is probably not realistic while he still works in the industry. Enjoy his company, enjoy the eyecandy and great sex but have very realistic expectations.

[Asker]

I thought I wasn't jelous but I am

[northerngal]

Yup thats one of the big problems. Its so easy for the green monster to pop up.

[RobT312]

Hmm, I’m trying to imagine myself in your situation. If my girlfriend was a stripper I’d think:
- work is work, I shouldn’t worry about what she does if i trust her
- don’t take things too seriously and have fun

but... the negatives override:
- don’t want my partner having sex with strangers
- don’t want a greater risk of std
- I want my partner all to myself
- it’s too slutty , I’m 30 now and want monogamy and want my partner to feel the same

[Asker]

Yes. And it's super exciting at the beginnings.

But longer term I'm not sure.

[Oigit]

Look you are not the only woman who gave him her number. Also just because you went to a couple of his shows does not mean that nothing happens at the ones you are not at. Hell you also might not be the only women he is dating. Sure you might have feelings for him. But you really, really need to think about the fact that you are dating a stripper and all the possibilities that come with it.

[Asker]

He keeps his thong on the whole time

But the shows are probably too wild

[ChrisMaster69]

I’ve dated and friends with girls working in ‘gentleman’s clubs’, for me it’s not an issue, main thing is trust and what they actually do.

A mate of mine is a part time escort, he does it for a laugh and decent nights out.

It really depends what you want out of the relationship, long term, short term, if it’s exclusive etc.

[Asker]

Yes, but I think he's enjoying the attention

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah exhibitionists tend to like it.

It’s also good getting a lot of attention from girls

[AndrésC64]

Sure, why not? I'd suggest being careful going into it though. Although I've never been to a bachelorette party where they had a male stripper, the impression that I get is that they are much more rowdy then bachelor parties. Girls seem to take things much farther than guys do. If you're okay with it, then go for it.

[Asker]

They get wild and he lets them. He always has marks on hia body.

[AndrésC64]

So you know what he's like going into it. Now it's up to you to decide whether you are okay with that or not.

[blackgaletiger]

Its your call. "He made it very clear he won't stop" so you know his intentions. As long as your not the jealous type or one to take things seriously/ long term then go head.

[Asker]

I thought I wasn't jelous bit I am. All the girls touching his body.

[SnakeBoop]

well how do you feel about it?
if your uncertain of it, then skip it.

[abc3643]

Enjoy it!
Although expect that he will likely cheat at some point, but it would just be sex with another woman - not an actual affair.

[Asker]

That's possible and I'm concerned

[bamesjond0069]

I was a male stripper. The jobs kinda hard tbh and the best part is all the "extras" so if you get with him just know he is at minimum getting sucked off regularly by other women. Especially if he's at Bachelorette parties vs a club.

[Asker]

He didn't't get sucked when I attended the show. He actually kepy his thong all the time. But there was a lot of touching and also light bondage.

[bamesjond0069]

Thats just because thats what they paid for. Or all they asked for.

[Asker]

Were you a stripper for a club?

[bamesjond0069]

Bachelorette parties and bday parties. Did club one time didn't like it.

[Asker]

It also bothers me to see scratchmarks on his body. But he's proud of them.

[AviatorTom]

That decision is up to you. If you don't mind sharing him with random women, go for it.

[Asker]

Do you think he will go out with other women?

[AviatorTom]

I don't know him, you do. He might go out with other women, he might not. It looks like he doesn't mind having sex with other women at bachelorette parties.

[Wise4myage]

Sure, why not go with it for the time being and enjoy yourself?

[Asker]

Right. But it bothers me I have to share him with other girls.

[Wise4myage]

Then maybe he’s not right for you.

[cookiecrusher]

If you are somebody who takes having sex with somebody very casually and end up picking someone similar.

Then why act like seriousness in a relationship actually matters that much to both of you?

[exitseven]

If you are the type that gets jealous of your boyfriend sleepng with other women than you probably should find somebody else.

[JoeBel]

Follow your heart if it makes you happy. You dont have to prove a point to anyone. Happiness matters. Enjoy every moment sweetheart

[Twalli]

If you don't care about girls drooling over him stay with him. That's how you met him in the first place.

[Asker]

It's fine and super exciting for a short term relationship.

But I'm not sure I can handle it longer term.

[Twalli]

Personally as long as my girlfriend stays with me, I don't care how much other guys want her.

[Asker]

Should I go to another of his shows?

[Twalli]

I don't think you need to. I mean if you're invited, you can, but you got him. If you want to see him do something like that again you could ask for a private one that's more intimate.

[Asker]

I think I would have fun with the other girls.

[Asker]

But I might get jelous too. He can be in trouble.

[Twalli]

Do you trust him? That's the bottom line. You know what happens at his shows. If you can accept that and trust he won't cheat on you, there's nothing you need to worry about. He won't go much beyond what you saw and if he's faithful to you, keep him.

[IsoUser]

Let me guess he came twice inside your throat and you fell in love 🍒🍆😍

[Asker]

He was wearing a thong all the time

[Kelly6]

I’m stripper too but also have partner.
nothing wrong with it

[Anonymous]

Girls ALWAYS suck off male strippers.
You date one, prepare for that trashy shit.

[Asker]

That's not what I've seen. I've been at one of his shows and he kept his thong on all the time. But there was a lot of touching, also by me. And light bondage.

[Opinion Owner]

Having been a bouncer at a strip club... Women are disgusting with male strippers.

[Asker]

Any thought on his type of shows based on your experience?

[Opinion Owner]

My thoughts are that women are generally hypocritical when it comes to what they say about men being perverts vs how they act when they assume no male is looking.

[Anonymous]

can you handle yourself when you see other women groping him and trying to fuck him

[Asker]

That's not easy

[Opinion Owner]

then you have your answer

[Asker]

But in the show he keeps his thong on all the time

[Opinion Owner]

doesn't matter. can you live with the fact these women are touching him or shoving money down his thong where his little wee wee is practically groping it and rubbing their hands over his chest. can you sit calmly there knowing other women want to blow him or want to screw him

[Asker]

I know. And it bothers me I can see scratchmarks on his body.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Just hook up with him

[Asker]

Yes, but girls get too wild at his parties

[Gwenhwyfar]

Exactly! He’s not boyfriend material. Meet him for a nice quiet one on one hookup.

[Asker]

Should I go to one of his shows again?

[Gwenhwyfar]

Sure! Get him to notice u

[Asker]

I'll be the wildest girl in the audience

[Gwenhwyfar]

He will defo bang u

[Asker]

Probably. But he might also get in trouble. In his shows girls can tie him up.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Sounds like fun 😊. Go for it girl. Maybe u can ride him while he’s tied up.

[Henry___Blakes]

It's completely your decision

[Anonymous]

if you really love each other then go ahead

[homegardenerisback]

can't cope anymore, LOL at being a male in 2022