Can two damaged people make a relationship work?

[Anonymous]

Is everyone sort of damaged in their own way and still make a relationship work?

[CheesinIndian]

Yes, I'm about to propose to my GF soonish. We have both had very hard lives, she was abused, I was sent to a "special" school for kids with anger issues. She was in an abusive relationship with the man she was engaged to and he cheated on her. I was in 3 serious relationships in college and was cheated on 3 times in a row. We both tried suicide, we both struggled with depression and loneliness. Turns out we are so much alike we can help each other through every situation, we view all the things we have been through as worth it because we met. Just because someone is hurt, does not mean that they can't be healed. Just because someone has a past, does not mean they dont deserve the best that life can offer.

[DeVhre]

If the communication is open and honest with one another and neither one uses insecurities or struggles they have shared against each other I believe any relationship can work.

[Asker]

I hope you're right.

[smokahontas]

Yes, it can work but that doesn't mean it will be easy. The couple have to be open towards each other... communication is key. Since the two damaged people have been through the same thing, they can understand and empathize with each other, which is a good thing.

[rUinSAYAN]

yeah people carry bargage with themselves. as long as the girl doesn't go crazy and burns my house like in how I met your mother (I think she just destroyed everything) everything is good.
as people have their downsides you have to see a pro/con list in front of you. look if you can live with his flaws and in the pro section the pros have to be what you look for (mostly). so your question means:
can humans have a relationship? I never seen someone who is perfect, I don't think I ever will see and people who were made to function like robots are either depressed, alone or boring as hell. even roboters have flaws. I could write a test about it

[Anonymous]

Can? Yes. Will? Not without a lot of patience and hard work