Is it possible to mend this relationship?

[Anonymous]

Without going into my whole life story, basically I met a woman online from Turkiye. We meant nothing from ot except as language partners. We clicked so well and I thought she was flirting with me, so I asked her directly. She denied it though. Later we somehow became sexual. I certainly had feelings the whole time, but knowing what she said in the past and our great distance from one another I choose to just continue with what we had, and let the feelings fade. Well the past week things have been breaking down. She has a history of refusing to express her feelings, but finally she admitted to me that she had feelings for me in the beginning. But she says they are long gone. The worst part is that she had no idea about my feelings either. We were perpetuating a toxic relationship. And I made her feel worthless. She thought I was just using her for her body. It breaks my heart thinking about how she felt taken advantage of by a man she adored.

Well looking past that to the now. We are currently not talking. A break I think is the best thing for us now. She thinks it should be permanent. She says I am obsessed (I will admit I am clingy). Last we talked I said I would take a break and try to control my emotions more.

Some of my friends think that this relationship is salvageable, some think that only a friendship is possible. What do you think? Can we mend our relationship either romantic or friendly? And how would I go about doing it?

If you need more information feel free to ask. Thank you

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn, that's a really tough situation you're in with this girl from Turkey. It sounds like there's been a lot of misunderstandings and hurt feelings on both sides. I can understand why she might be feeling taken advantage of and thinking you were just using her. That must be really painful for her.

At the same time, it seems like you genuinely have strong feelings for her, even if you tried to keep them under control. The fact that you're so torn up about it shows how much she means to you.

Honestly, it's hard to say whether this relationship is salvageable or not. On one hand, the fact that you both had feelings but didn't realize it creates a really complicated dynamic. And her wanting to make it a permanent break is a major red flag.

But on the other hand, the fact that you're both willing to take a step back and give each other space is a good sign. And if you can both work on your communication and be more open about your emotions, there's a chance you could rebuild some kind of connection, even if it's just as friends.

My advice would be to really take this break to work on yourself. Focus on controlling your clinginess and managing your feelings in a healthier way. Maybe even seek some counseling to help process everything. Show her that you're serious about respecting her boundaries.

Then, after some time has passed, you could try reaching out again and seeing if she's open to at least talking. But don't pressure her - let her set the pace. Make it clear you just want to reconnect as friends, no strings attached. See if you can rebuild some trust and understanding.

It's gonna take a lot of work, and there's no guarantee it'll work out. But if you both truly care about each other, it might be worth trying to salvage at least a friendship. Just take it slow and be willing to accept whatever outcome she's comfortable with.

I know it's not easy, dude. Matters of the heart never are. But hang in there, and don't lose hope. Wishing you the best.

[Asker]

Thank you for the kind words

[Oliverlogan263]

@TwoToTooTutu2 You’re welcome man, I really feel for you going through all this. Relationship stuff can be so freaking complicated, especially when there's been hurt and miscommunication on both sides. It's great that you're taking the time to really think it through and consider all the angles.

I know it must be killing you to think that this could be the end of things between you two. When you really care about someone, the idea of losing that connection is just devastating. But you're right to respect her boundaries and give her the space she needs right now. Trying to force it will only make things worse.

The most important thing is that you both take this time to focus on yourselves and figure out what you really want, you know? Counseling is a great idea - having an outside perspective can make a big difference when you're so wrapped up in the emotions of it all.

And you're totally right that if you do try to reconnect, it has to come from a place of genuine care, not neediness. Rebuilding that trust and understanding is going to take time and patience. But hey, if it's meant to be, maybe you two can find a way to make it work, even if it's just as friends.

Either way, the main thing is that you both come out of this in a better, healthier place. You deserve to be happy, dude. And I'm always here if you need someone to talk to or vent to. Hang in there, alright? Brighter days are ahead, I just know it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I believe it's possible, but it needs time.

[Asker]

Thank you for your input

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the tangled webs of digital romance, my friend! 🌐 Love is complicated enough without borders and time zones, isn't it? If you want to mend this, start with some genuine self-reflection. Can you truly handle being just friends? If so, start fresh, respecting her boundaries and showing her a different version of yourself. Communicate openly, but don’t overdo it—nobody likes a lovebombing. Ultimately, listen to your heart but respect her decision. Remember, love grows in unexpected places, and sometimes, a break is exactly what both need to find your way back to a better beginning. ❤️

[Jove79]

Go cold on her and let her crawl back. Guys are leaders, not followers. The more you chase and be clingy the less she’ll respect you. Stop contacting her, go completely no contact.. when she wants to see you, she’ll tell you.

[V1ka5h]

No I don't think so bro

[Sluttt]

It’s a playboy and play girls world

[Asker]

How do you mean?