How should I tell my soon to be fiance who loves children that I am actually infertile? (Page 2)

Question

I am currently in a serious relationship with the most wonderful girl in the world. She possess all the qualities I would want in a woman to raise my child, and she too has expressed her enthusiasm in our future child, except there is something in the way.
Two years ago, my then girlfriend had cheated on me with my best friend, and in retaliation I beat him up. She called me a violent animal, and attacked me when I confronted her. I did my best to defend myself without striking her, but at the end of it, she managed to get in several kicks and knees to my private parts. There was severe swelling and aching for a few days, and I did not want to seek medical attention out of embarrassment. When I finally did, however, I learned to my horror that what she did to me had ruined any possibility of me making a woman pregnant in future.
I made a report on her assault, and she received 12 months in probation for it, as well as paying for my medical fees, although the fact remains that I am now sterile. I suffered from depression after that, but I met my current girlfriend, and got out of it with her help and support.
My soon to be fiance and girlfriend of the present looks forward to someday building a family with me, and I do not want to stop that from happening by letting her know of my condition.
What should I do?

OpenHonestGuy · Answer

Tell her ASAP. Sit her down and just explain it to her. She needs to know..

Bromanicus · Answer

That's a tough row to hoe, my friend. As with most things in an intimate relationship, honesty is the best route. Good luck to you. All the best.

Anonymous · Answer

Bro honestly just be straight up and honest with her, express to her WHY u didn't tell her and HOW like traumatized u are because or what ur crazy ex caused u. If she really loves u she'll definetaly understand, good luck.

art84 · Answer

If you can't produce children why not bring up adoption instead. It's better to tell her before you marry her as the sooner she knows the better she will understand.

Marrryyyyy · Answer

i think just be honest. there ARE other options while keeping you together. just be honest with her

Soloist01 · Answer

What happened to honesty is the best policy? Are you an adult? Come on man you still have balls. I believe in you

pips11 · Answer

tell her the truth perhaps you can adopt together if you both want children in future but tell her truth

Anonymous · Answer

How about BEFORE you get engaged? Marriage is a contract and she can sue your ass for deceiving her!

HoneyButterCup525 · Answer

Best to tell her now then Never... Im so sorry for your situation... i wish You the best.

watchmen · Answer

Tell her, she needs to know that your infertile now instead of later.

TakenandHappy · Answer

Don't cut any cards. Tell him. If he loves you he will understand. There's other options to go about having kids, if he doesn't want to explore those options with you screw him, he wasn't a good man in the first place.

penetrationstation · Answer

Say aye I'm sorry but I can't give u children Ivan give u my love and we can adopt if u want 2 but I can't proud ice children

Anonymous · Answer

If she loves you for you, she will look past it. Besides, there's always adoption! Sending best wishes.

ontherun · Answer

I say at the end of the day only faith can the impossible possible and u need to let her know so u can talk about other options and if she doesn't except all of u then she wasn't meant for u.

Born2shine01 · Answer

You should tell her the truth. She will accept it I bet.

RayNavy · Answer

Tell her right away, I'm sure she would understand. There is always adoption and invetro.

fiftyshadesof_alyssa · Answer

Just tell her, if she seriously loves you it won't matter. If my boyfriend told me that nothong would stop us from being together. There's other ways to have a child make sure she remembers that.

bigbull60 · Answer

You have to tell her immediately. in my opinion, not telling somebody is not being honest. How can you have a long term relationship (marriage) without trust?

Daunzel · Answer

Either just tell her face to face n let her know she is the one you would want to raise your child at the same time or go see a doctor n let him tell her in a professional manner

kellytheman · Answer

Well i say go for adoption buy foremost u need to tell her also u can look for a sperm donor.

Pandaphx · Answer

I think you should tell her. There are all kinds of ways to have kids these days.

Samelmo1 · Answer

Tell her but break it easy and tell Her no matter what say you could always adopt

Anonymous · Answer

Tell her as soon as possible. She might get angry first but she will understand. Hiding the truth is injustice to her.

Poppykate · Answer

You need to tell her! You still have options.

Durty · Answer

Don't be an asshole. Tell the truth.

lexq91 · Answer

If she loves or cares for you it won't matter.

babygirl41398 · Answer

Im so sorry your ex sounds like a real bitch

veronica44 · Answer

You have to tell him asap I think

swolebookworm · Answer

Tell her man, communication is key!

Anonymous · Answer

tell her right now!!!

zehel · Answer

cut her legs off in a heartbeat.

demonology · Answer

I would hate you.

lusolari · Answer

You could adopt

Your_boss · Answer

You should tell her

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