I'm 19 years old and i'm attracted to teenage girls is that wrong?

[Anonymous]

im 19 but i find girls 15,16,17,18 and upwards still attractive. According to society its in apropriate to date girls younger than during my teenage years becuase its frowned upon. I find 16 and 17 year old girls very attractive still. Problem is i look much older than i am. I dont look 19 years old and many people dont believe me when i tell them that i'm still a teenager. I get 25,26,27 when i ask. I have facial hair and a stubble. I dont eat well and i sleep early i go to sleep around 12pm to 1am every night just playing on my laptop. Im very skinny to do you think that plays a part on me looking much older. I want to change looking so much older. Even though i look so much older than i do is it still appropriate to go after girls16 and 17 and 18?

[Anonymous]

Society's thought police are to blame for you doubting yourself. I lost my virginity at 12, and I was extremely sexually active. My partner was also 12. So my point is, some kids are banging away night and day, their parents just don't like the thought of it.

If you like young girls still, no problem, it's only a problem if you act upon it. Keep your hand outa the cookie jar my friend. You'll probably still like them at eighty mate, you just learn to live with it and keep your mouth shut.
If they give you the horn, get on your laptop spank the monkey and feel better. Do that every time and any urge should subside.

Look, don't touch. They are still kids, most of us still are well into our thirties, we just look like shit. Stay strong fella.

Oh and get over looking older, accept it, you can't do much else. And why do you want to look younger anyway, I told you look don't touch, the only reason I can see for wanting to look younger is to date younger women. Understandable but in a long term relationship you'd still be attracted to other people and you still have to control yourself, you can't just flit about, you'll mess up your emotions and ruin lives along the way.

[Asker]

so are you telling me that im not allowed to date girls younger than me. But im allowed to gaze at them lol. I find them attractive and i dont see the problem in dating them. Im just a little self conscious about looking much older because i dont want it to affect me.

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like you've already made your mind up mate, now you just have to live with it. You'll have to learn not to give a fuck what people think. And not break the law.

[Asker]

Its kinda hard though too just cause like with all these girls being short, showing cleavage and wearing make-up i can't really tell their ages apart because they look somewhat grown. do you get confused too?

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like your horney for them, not really asking about dating someone you have feelings for. Not a problem but you need to know that that kind of hunger is insatiable. Date anyone as long as you really like them.
At the end of the day what usually happens is you date who will have you and who will sleep with you regularly and then you end up developing genuine heartfelt feeling for them but what then, they're gonna grow up get wrinkly and saggy, what are you gonna do then? Then she's pregnant then you marry then you have a family all because you needed to get laid. Make sure you really like em mate.

[Anonymous]

It's not weird that you find them attractive, no. And at your age, it's not really odd to go after them (though depending on laws in your area, you might want to try to stick to 17+)

In fact, you'll never stop finding them sexually appealing, no matter how old you get. The idea of actually having sex with one of them, however, will gradually begin to feel creepier, and you'll lack the desire to pursue them.

Well, that's my experience, anyway.

[Asker]

i dont feel creepy about it at all about it as of now.

[RoseBloom]

well as an opinion speaker , i can not command anyone what age to date but now days people attend to date at middle school and also high school yet the partners dont really recall whats the age differences neither thinking about the future or what relationship really meant at their certain age , but enough about that , if you are going to have a sexual connection with your partner (girl ) at the age of 15- 17 then no dont get any close to those girls why ruined their purity , to be honest i have seen much more older men than you are and still find young girls attractive you can also hear rumors about divorce marriage of 30+ years old guy just to get into relationship with a younger girl , everyone has its free well what to do in their own life but im just letting you know any sexual deeds with a 15 - 17 years old you will be doomed and full of regrets , (please do not become a lolicon ) but if you are willing to act like a man and take relationship seriously then go ahead , but like i said before i can't make any of you decide what you want im only giving you information about what you are exactly thinking of doing hope this helps and good luck with that.

[LauraMarx]

nah its fine. I was dating a 16 year old when I was 19, actually. Teens is teens... You should be super CAREFUL, and like, really make sure about consent, if you do end up with a girl who's a little younger, but I think that's fine.

Actually, I'm going through a really weird thing atm which is the opposite of you, lol... Where I'm like... I'm 21 now, right? And like... the past few months, this is the first time in my life I'm NOT attracted to 16-17 year olds. That's like... woah. Like I look at a girl and I think 'I wonder what age she is?' That's totally new to me! I don't know. That's growing up.

But you can't be expected to stop being attracted to girls under 18 as soon as you turn 18 lol. Just, uh... Take things slow, dont rush things, remember to act appropriately. That kinda thing. Which you should be doing anyway. And maybe dont get into a long term relationship with a younger girl cuz you aaare gonna be getting older and she's still gonna be a teen and you're gonna have to deal with that.

But yeah don't sweat it this is part of growing up, lol

[Tiarn99]

just because you look older, doesn't mean you have to date or like girls closer to your age or whatever looks appropriate. I'm 15 and was told by a 19 year old that he finds me attractive, which i thought was fine (and i like kinda older boys too) so you'd be surprised how many girls my age do like older boys ;) but you do need to think about what kind of relationship you want. if you're looking for anything sexual, i advise against dating younger girls as this can cause many problems, which you could imagine. if you want a serious relationship and are patient to take things further, then you should be fine if you can find the right girl. dont let other people tell you who you can and can't date, its your decision. if you like someone and they happen to be 15, and you think she returns the same affection, go for it! hope this helps ^.^

[Rocky96]

Very helpfull advice Ms sweet 15, Good you're going on the right track.

[kheserthorpe]

It's usual to find pubescent and up girls attractive.

It's unusual to exclusively find just pubescent girls attractive. Finding some 15 year olds and some 30 year olds hot is natural.

That doesn't mean you should run out there and have sex with all of them. But it's not strange to find some attractive.

[Asker]

naa definetly not exclusive to just 15 year old girls im talking about all ages. But i feel i can relate to girls around my age and i tend to see a lot of girls that are 15 and upwards everyday. Is it wrong to approach them although i look much older than 19?

[kheserthorpe]

Like you said, you're gonna tend to relate more to girls closer to you in age, so that's who you should be dating. 15 is pushing it. If you happen to relate well to a specific 17 year old, great. You don't date the average, you date an individual.

Note that a lot of the younger ones are gonna be like @Tiarn99, so I'm really glad she answered. Could she be attracted to a 19 year old guy? Sure. Could they get along generally? Maybe, a bright 15 year old will often be quite intellectually compatible with a 19 year old.

The problem is what they're looking for in a relationship. Most 15 year olds are ready for a 15 year old type relationship, NOT a 19 year old type relationship. So you might think she's cute and vice versa, you might get along and flirt and laugh and enjoy hanging out, but one of you might think 'and we can start holding hands' and you're thinking a little different.

[meatballs21]

What is the age of consent where you live? That's the first thing you have to consider before anything else. What are the rules regarding one person being above the age and one potentially being just below it?

Otherwise... you're still a teenager yourself.

[Asker]

18 and above are adults and 17 and below are children according to the book. But problem is that the book does not take into account feelings, love etc i dont see how the law can regulate relationships and love isn't that a matter of privacy that it shouldn't have an impact on because technically it shouldn't and doesn't concern them.

[Asker]

"them" being the law and the law inforcers.

[meatballs21]

That is a whole other debate, Asker. So you don't wind up being charged with underage eating, you need to know what the age of consent is and the other rules around it. In a few years this gap of a few years won't matter at all because you'll be 23 and they'll be 20, but for now you need to be careful.

[Anonymous]

you're still a teenager yourself. yeah thats probably why you look older, because you don't eat well and stay up all night. don't worry about what other people think. it's fine to be attracted to age 16+. i wouldn't go for anything younger than that though.

[DREWSKI1]

17 & 18 you're good bro but at 15 and 16 a lot of girls still look very young and are barely going through puberty

[Asker]

bro its just that i haven't had the opportunity to date girls in their teens and i dont think its right or fair to rule out a girl just cause she's 15. i admit 14 is pushing it and i wouldn't but at 15 if she's mature enough i can't see why i wouldn't date her its really about her personality.

[DREWSKI1]

I guess its morally ok. A lot of people don't see it that way though because society says once you turn 18 you are no longer belong to the "kids" age group and therefore you cannot have a public intimate relationship but if you're a 35 year old dating 30 year olds its ok but i guess thats where science and their brain and body development come into play. If she's into you go for it just be very careful bro

[Anonymous]

Just wait till they're legal in your state. 15 year olds tend to be kids still, so they're inappropriate & a no go all around. There are plenty of hot 18-20 year olds that you don't need to risk trouble.

[Opinion Owner]

FYI: a long time ago when I was your age, I was in a similar situation where I had mutual feelings with a 16 year old. We hung out a lot, but ultimately I decided to avoid a sexual relationship. So I'm not judging. You're close in age, but farther in maturity.

[Asker]

yea but as a 19 year old i dont want life to go by without me having a relationship with a teenager i haven't done that yet. And if there is a girl i want why should age matter? I already look like im in my mid 20's and thats bothering me because im still attracted to teensgr girls and i want to date one before i turn 20.

[Opinion Owner]

Just stick to a legal one and you'll be fine. Younger teens aren't as mentally and enotionally developed in many cases.

Most people's attraction range starts to grow a bit with them, as well. So don't worry so much. There ought to be a legal girl you find attractive without an issue.

[Blondiee2014]

I would say for your age 17 and above is acceptable.
I'm 25 and my gf is 20, we were just about acceptable.

[Asker]

so are you meaning to tell me i can't date a 15 or 16 year old girl under any circumstances?

[Blondiee2014]

Well 15 year old is illegal, she is legally a child and you are a adult.
16 is legal but really she is still a young child, 17 is young but is acceptable for your age I guess.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

It's on the verge of inappropriate with a 15-16 year old. Stick to the older ones.

[Account]

It's not wrong to be attracted to them. Truth is that the majority of men -no matter their age- are attracted to teenage girls.

[Anonymous]

Minors cannot consent. You could very easily end up in prison for a very long time (or depending on your location, worse). If not right away, then years later. Do you want to go to prison and be Big Bubba with AIDS next fuck toy?

[rosesxoblue]

Hmmm.. Kinda I guess. In a way it is, in a way it isn't. Your around the same age, so its not so bad.

[Your_boss960]

I'm 14 and I look wayyyy older.. It makes me sad too

[babygirl41398]

If you look way older than im seriously old

[Asker]

I look closer to 30 then i do 20. you girls will be fine.

[jacquesvol]

Teen girls may be nice to look at, even funny to hear. But what else can you expect? Nothing serious. Anything serious wouldn't be morally acceptable.

[Asker]

why not is it just because i grew a bit. im 19 and is it really morally wrong to feel affection or love for a girl thats 15 or 16? I can't help how i feel if i do end up meeting a girl that happens to a couple years younger than me

[jacquesvol]

She also has different responsibilities, experience, liberty, financial means, insight in people. It's not the years, the years are a clear indication of where someone stands in his/her evolution, learning process, access to independence.

[veronica44]

Hmmmmmm... Not really I guess... Don't know how to answer this haha

[Klaatu51]

at least they're over 15, so you're on the safer side.

no, it's not wrong then

[Anonymous]

It isn't wrong to be attracted to them, but acting on that attraction with younger teenagers is wrong. I see no problem with you pursuing 17-18 year olds (and older...), but I think younger than that is something I'd be a bit wary of.

[Opinion Owner]

How old you look doesn't matter. The problem with age differences is emotional and mental maturity, not be with someone who looks as old as you - so that doesn't matter.

[--clueless__]

17 upwards is okay but i wouldn't say under 17 personally

[Anonymous]

So, what's the difference between 19 and 16,17,18? Come on, you're a teenager yourself.

[Dartanyan]

Yes it's wrong..

[Anonymous]

its fine