I'm 28 and I really like a 19 year old girl, is it fine?

[HulkAbomination93]

Is it fine for me to have feelings for a 19 year old girl, when I’m 28 years old? I’m asking because I don’t know anyone else who’s had feelings for someone way younger, than them and I’m asking because I know it’s a big age gap. She’s never been in a relationship before and we’re both friends with each other. Also, do I have a chance with someone her age, since she’s still young?

[CuriousJC]

Yeah you should have just made a close relationship with her until she hits 21. People these days including family discriminate others regardless if their family or not. I was in a relationship with an older woman she was 39 when I met her and I was 25 at the time. I was walking down the street she asked for some money I asked what for she said she want to get some coffee and I bought it for her then we bought something to eat then she gave me her number then we kept seeing each other from time to time then eventually went to a relationship but then her daughter kept calling her a cougar over and over and over in our relationship and she decided to break up with me because she didn't want her daughter to call her a cougar or other people discriminate us in a relationship because she was older than me. Long story short, you shouldn't care what her age is as long as your love and her love is stronger for each other, go get her. And if you get arrested you'll figure it out with her when the time comes.

[qwert1234]

Nah it's fine. I've seen 60yo men date 20ish-yo girls.
As long as you are both on legal age to do so, fine.

As for the chance, it will depend on her preference. Is she ok with a more mature guy (I am assuming you are based on your age) or does she want to just play around?

Good luck.

[FlutteringFeelings]

There isn’t anything wrong with age gap relationships; it depends on the context of the situation. If this is a girl who’s still in high school and doesn’t have any responsibilities such as, a stable job or in college this situation would be questionable. At one point in my life, I was seeing a guy and there was a 12 year age gap between us. I thought he was younger when he approached me but he was actually older. What I can say is, at 19 I was still figuring out what I wanted in life and when I found myself I was aware of what I wanted in a man.

[HulkAbomination93]

Thanks for the advice! Did it work out with him?

[SueShe]

Legally it is okay since both of you are adults according to the laws of the US.

Morally, it is a different story because I have the feeling that you are taking advantage of her lack of experience.

You may find a certain pleasure to get under the skirt of a teenager but for how long? Once she lost her status of novelty to you, she will find herself with a broken heart. Relations with such a large age gap seldom work and are likely to be doomed after a few months.

But as I said, legally you are fine...

[HulkAbomination93]

Thanks for letting me know! I have no intention on doing that and taking advantage of her. Those aren’t the reasons why I like her. There are some people who care and she’s been one of those people. The things she says and does shows, that she does care about me as a friend.

[kyleelyn199723]

Would you be okay not having a drink with her at the bar for two more years? This is just genuinely speaking because when I was 19 I dated someone that was 26 and he took full advantage of me not being able to go into bars with him

[HulkAbomination93]

I told her awhile back, that I like her, but she told me, that she’s not looking for a relationship right now and is focusing on school at the moment. I’ve been respecting what she told me and I’m still being cool with her, when we talk. I don’t know, when she’ll be ready, but hopefully she will give me some hints or just straight up tell me, that she would like to be more, than friends. I’m very certain my feelings won’t change for her anytime soon. I completely understand we’re at different stages of our lives and I have intention on taking advantage of her, trust me. I don’t see her as the drinking type. I wouldn’t want to go to a bar with her. I would like to take her out to a nice restaurant. I know every girl is different, but how did you feel about an older guy having feelings for you, if you don’t mind me asking?

[kyleelyn199723]

@Hulkabomination93 I have 23 and of out with someone that is 32, however I think it’s the fact that I’m past the 21 year old mark that makes our relationship a little more realistic. When I was 19 years old I told my ex I wasn’t ready for him because I wanted to continue talking to other guys and exploring my options. This may not be your situation at all, but just something to be aware of. She just got out of high school in a way basically so just be mindful. She may not seem like that type of girl because she isn’t even of age to go to the bar. That may change when she’s 21

[kyleelyn199723]

Go out with someone that is 32**

[HulkAbomination93]

You’re completely right. I have to remember, that she was in high school last year. I’ll definitely be mindful. She’s young, so I feel like I might have a chance, when she’s ready. I’ll continue to stick around and be there for her as a friend. I’ve been thinking about making a Christmas card for her.

[Levin]

That you can't drink in America till you're 21 is weird...

[kyleelyn199723]

@Levin not really. There’s too many DUI accidents because of underaged drinking here.

[DWornock]

Of course, that is fine provided the girls like you but typically 19-year-old girls reject guys that are more than 3 to 5 years older. It is natural for men to be attracted to teenage girls much younger than 19.

Throughout history and, still in many countries it was common for men to marry girls age 14 or even younger. Religious scholars believe the Virgin Mary was 14 when she gave birth, a typical age at the time. Shakespeare's Juliet was 2 weeks shy of 14 when she was to be engaged; and, at the time, people didn't think she was too young. 100 years ago and before, it was common for older men to marry girls ages 15 and 16.

[sullyk1234]

my daughter was 17and i let her date a 28 year old man that had a child he treated her like gold she is an adult the age to me doesn't matter as long as you treat the person with respect you have a chance yes go for it good luck

[sullyk1234]

also you will get many different opions on this subject it up to her she is an adult her on mind you seem to be in love with here and i do understand im in my fifties and have always dated older men i was 19 when i dated a man that was 32 it all depends on the person be there for her let her see that she would be missing out on a good thing when she decides to date

[HulkAbomination93]

Thanks for the advice and the story!

[Assi2k]

When I was 19, I went to a program where I had a crush on this 27 yr old guy. He played too hard to get so I moved on but I really was interested.

[HulkAbomination93]

I don’t think the girl I’m interested in is playing hard to get though. I told her awhile back, that I like her, but she told me, that she’s not looking for a relationship right now and is focusing on school at the moment. I’ve been respecting what she told me and I’m still being cool with her, when we talk. I don’t know, when she’ll be ready, but hopefully she will give me some hints or just straight up tell me, that she would like to be more, than friends. I’m very certain my feelings won’t change for her anytime soon. I completely understand we’re at different stages of our lives and I have intention on taking advantage of her, trust me.

[Assi2k]

I wouldn't put all my eggs in one basket

[HulkAbomination93]

You’re right, but I honestly like her and would like to settle down with her. I have a good feeling about her.

[Assi2k]

Aww but remember that she's young and she needs time and space. I know I do😅
So just be casual and see other people and don't go too fast. Like goo veryy slow. Give her time to make a move too.

[HulkAbomination93]

I completely agree, but I’m almost 29 years old and I’m tired of liking girl after girl. I don’t like talking to other people, when I know I’m not interested in them. I don’t want to pretend to be interested, when I’m not. Plus, I feel a certain way about the girl I’m interested in right now. She makes me happy. Most importantly we have a lot of things in common with each other. I would like her to be the one for me. I don’t mind how long it takes. I’ve been thinking about making a Christmas card for her.

[Levin]

Focusing on school sounds like she's not interested tbh.

Waiting for someone to be interested. You'll be waiting for eternity...

Not trying to be an arsehole, just speaking from bitter and miserable experience. Respect yourself enough for that person to be into you as much as you're into them.

[Assi2k]

@Levin Right!

[DonkeyDan]

As long as you are both happy with it age really doesn't matter.

[HulkAbomination93]

That’s what’s important!

[Djaay]

Oc it is. Anyone who has an abstract opinion on this topic is a loosed.

[HulkAbomination93]

That’s good to know from a trust worthy person!

[Djaay]

She's an added responsibility and pleasurably so. U need to make sure she receives all of her education and all that entailed to her moving forward in her life uninteruptedly. Including medical expenses etc.. Until she can stand on her own two feet respectively. Afford her the opportunity she seeks along with yourself.

[HulkAbomination93]

Will do, thanks!

[barn_stormer]

it's fine. you have a good chance, girls like older guys

[HulkAbomination93]

That’s definitely good to know! I told her awhile back, that I like her, but she told me, that she’s not looking for a relationship right now and is focusing on school at the moment. I’ve been respecting what she told me and I’m still being cool with her, when we talk. I don’t know, when she’ll be ready, but hopefully she will give me some hints or just straight up tell me, that she would like to be more, than friends. I’m very certain my feelings won’t change for her anytime soon.

[noohair]

You are two adults. Screw what anyone else thinks. Don't let another person inflict their moral values on you. It is hard enough to find a compatible mate. Go for it.

[otaku_owl_91]

You're good man. The one's that say you're "taking advantage of her" are misconflating abuse with the fact that some young adults love more seasoned people. I f*cked a 40 yr old nurse at 21, lol

[In_Trance]

if it's not fine, what are you gonna do about it?

[HulkAbomination93]

That’s good news to me! I told her awhile back, that I like her, but she told me, that she’s not looking for a relationship right now and is focusing on school at the moment. I’ve been respecting what she told me and I’m still being cool with her, when we talk. I don’t know, when she’ll be ready, but hopefully she will give me some hints or just straight up tell me, that she would like to be more, than friends. I’m very certain my feelings won’t change for her anytime soon. I completely understand we’re at different stages of our lives and I have intention on taking advantage of her, trust me.

[Levin]

Dude, what you waiting for? Get in that sweet pussy man!

[HulkAbomination93]

I’m not like that. I actually treat girls right and with respect. Not going to take advantage of her.

[Levin]

Who said anything about taking advantage of her?

I just don't see what you're waiting for. If you want something, go and get it. Dithering, worrying what other people think is a complete waste of time.

Most people only have something negative to say.

[HulkAbomination93]

Oh, I understand what you’re saying, but that’s something I wouldn’t do. I told her awhile back, that I like her, but she told me, that she’s not looking for a relationship right now and is focusing on school at the moment. I’ve been respecting what she told me and I’m still being cool with her, when we talk. I don’t know, when she’ll be ready, but hopefully she will give me some hints or just straight up tell me, that she would like to be more, than friends. I’m very certain my feelings won’t change for her anytime soon.

[Levin]

But you might be waiting for all that time when she may have no intention of dating you? Your best option is to get out there and to empower yourself and create a life that naturally generates more options.

I mean, learn these lessons your own way. I just always think people make time and date people they want to be with.

[jimmy2]

Hey you tell me i am 62 and a 19 year old girl would be fine

[Anonymous]

Its fine if she is fine

[HulkAbomination93]

Thanks, that’s good to know!

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Yes, it’s fine

[HulkAbomination93]

Great, good to know!

[Anonymous]

No, it's creepy as fuck.

[Anonymous]

Pedophile!

[HulkAbomination93]

A lot of people don’t think so. She’s in college, not high school.