This guy pushed me against the wall and he kiss me, should I talk to my boyfriend about it?

[Anonymous]

This guy pushed me against the wall and he start to kiss me i didn't like it at first because i have a boyfriend then we start making out. I stopped it because it's not the right thing to do to my boyfriend. My boyfriend is in a work trip and I'll see him after two weeks.

[FlyingTurtle]

What bothers me most about this is that in the comments you're trying to excuse your way out of this because "you're just a woman", as though it is only natural that because women are emotionally built the way they are, it is excusable to allow a guy to continue to kiss you and even return the kiss, despite the fact you're committed to another. Using that logic, a guy can force himself upon a girl "because he's a man and think about the temptations men feel around pretty women, any man would do the same" etc. That is NOT excusable. When you're in a relationship you are agreeing to your significant other that you are not going to give in to your primal urges to find love/sex/affection/pleasure from anyone beside them.
Yes you should tell your boyfriend about it. A relationship built on lies is nothing but a lie itself.

[Asker]

It's my fault and i need to fix it.

[Anonymous]

If you are around the guy in question and he is not taking no fir an answer what if he takes things physically further next time? If you absolutely love your boyfriend you would not have made out with the guy. I say tell him if you are ready to loose him or you are ready to loose the guy that has been after you since you were 14. Your boyfriend will want to either break up or have you firmly do something to eject this person from your life.

[Prettygurl12]

People don't just go around randomly pushing people against walls and kissing them. You lead this person on. Which makes you an emotionally cheating person - which by extent makes you a horrible girlfriend. Dump the boyfriend. He deserves better.

[Asker]

Oh come on! :( I'm not a bad girlfriend. I made a mistake yes and i'm not going to lie about it or say that wasn't a mistake but it doesn't make me bad.

[Prettygurl12]

In the world of relationships... Yeah it kind of does

[Asker]

I guess it is

[muspelhem_3]

Jeez, lay off her.

[muspelhem_3]

I 'got into' the same situation years back (a woman kissing me at a party). I told my then girlfriend, who promptly broke up with me. (I had 'caught' her kissing another guy a while back.)

I told her because I wanted to be honest. Years later, she actually apologised to me.

I know I screwed up, but honesty matters to me in a relationship. If someone I was with admitted to something like that, sure I would be sad, but at the same time, I would take it as a sign of commitment that they decided to tell me about it.

I guess it all comes down to what you believe in. Which I personally think is more important than any relationship.

[05Jueey]

You did the right thing because her behaviour shows a lack of trust in you and if you don't have that what do you have?

[muspelhem_3]

@05Jueey: Thanks, it's nice that someone agrees. Tbh though, it is understandable to me, I had broken her trust, and it was early in the relationship so she didn't know me that well. And neither did I.

[05Jueey]

Exactly

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[muspelhem_3]

You're welcome :)

[GrownUp]

if this was kind of rape.. than you should report the guy.. and share with your bf.. he would understand you..
if this was a moment which you wanted too and actually you made some moves like inviting him.. this is your fault and there will be a second round probably.. you should share with your bf but probably he will break up with you..

[Asker]

I didn't invite the guy we where in the same place for a reason and it just happened.

[GrownUp]

i mean maybe you invited him with your eyes or with your moves.. =)

[Asker]

Actually we know each other since i was 14 years old he's hot but i'm not interested in him at all and he said it before ( he's not going to stop until he became my boyfriend) and this happened suddenly and i actually freaked out.

[Asker]

I don't know what I'm saying :s

[GrownUp]

you think that guy can do something to you again? or he will stay away? because if he can do some move again.. than you have to talk this with your boy friend.. and never give wrong signal to that guy..

[Asker]

He won't do anything to destroy my relationship but he will still wait for me to be single again. ( his words not mine)

[TripleAce]

yea sure, I do think you should tell your boyfriend that some guy did that to you

BUT make not to leave out the part where only 'at first' you didn't like it and then you started making out and probably enjoyed it...

yes do tell him and let us know what happens please :D

[Asker]

If i lived after telling him…

[TripleAce]

Well lol..

it depends, what did you like about it? The kiss itself OR the person kissing you?

[Asker]

What makes you think that i liked it? :/

[TripleAce]

Because you told us yourself

You said you didn't like it at first... implying that you liked it at some point

so? DId you like the kiss itself OR the person kissing you?

[Asker]

Maybe the kiss

[TripleAce]

Seems like you slipped and let yourself feel good

Id say tell him if your confident he won't leave you OR if your not confident, just let it go and don't cheat on him again

[Asker]

He should know anyway this is how i feel.

[TripleAce]

some things are better left unsaid...

[Asker]

You're right

[zorro8888]

I'm sure you flirted with him before it even started... and on top of that you had plenty of time to push him off of you. Tell your boyfriend and let him deal with this his way... if he wants to break up then so be it

[Asker]

Oh my god NO! i won't go outside and try to find new boys because my boyfriend isn't here. This guy wants to be my boyfriend since i was 14 and he didn't stop it.

[zorro8888]

So you knew his intentions since he was 14 and you led him on all this time until he saw an opportunity
Come on now kiddo let's fess up

[Asker]

Oh come on! I'm just a woman. Have you ever tried this before? I mean imagine yourself a girl imagine how it feels and think about it that way for a while. I was ignoring him for years but that was unexpected.

[zorro8888]

Nahh I'll stay in my male body... I do know that I lose attraction for people in relationships
You didn't ignore him you wanted it lol
Just tell your bf it's the right thing to do

[Asker]

Ok then i will.

[zorro8888]

Finally we agree on something
Good luck there madam

[Asker]

Thank you.

[Huber]

And you secretly liked it. We get it. Why don't you ask the right question "Should I break up with my boyfriend?"

[Asker]

I won't ask this type of questions because i love my boyfriend.

[LousyLoudMusic]

yeah, you should. this is a relationship problem, and he is apart of that and should know all problems and deside what to do. But I think he wil not dump you over this, but he probably would if the guy you kissed told him. Because this guy obviously has no problem doing what he want, even if it hurts other.

[spicesndsugar]

You never stopped it 'at first' wo I think you do need to sit and talk with your fella because you're clearly not commited to him x

[Asker]

How i supposed to stop it and that guy was holding my hands and kissing my lips and other stuff :/ ? you know what it feels like.

[kain7th]

Unless he was forcing you against your will, you could always push him away say no and walk away from it..

[Anonymous]

That is soo hot by. just imagination
im gonna try that on ma gf :)

And I dont think its a good idea to tell your bf about it
and tell that guy to stay away from u or else ull go to police

[Asker]

Yeah that was hot and a big mistake that's why i stopped it because i should do it with the right person.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm ok
all the best

[Asker]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

So you didn't want it, then you did, then you regret wanting it, now you want to cover up the fact that you enjoyed it. Would you want to know if he kissed a girl and latter regretted it?

[Asker]

No i don't. I just thought it's the right thing to do.

[1ian20]

Wouldn't you want your boyfriend to tell you if he did something like that? I think it's only fair to be honest. If I did something like that, my guilt would eat me alive.

[Asker]

Exactly. I can't stop thinking about it and i won't be able to look at my boyfriend after what i did to him.

[Anonymous]

That's not right you shouldn't tell him if you dint want to hurt him... but don't do it again

[Asker]

Of course it's not going to happen again but i can't stop seeing that moment inside my head and i thought that's because i didn't tell him or something.

[Opinion Owner]

Let's be honest if you tell him he's gonna think bad about you regardless you tell him it was against your will now my opinion is don't tell him and time will heal your mind

[Kyndra]

But she said they made out, it started forcefully but she participated afterwards.

[Opinion Owner]

But she regretted and stopped the other guy... now what I would've done is I would cut all ties with the other guy and put him on his place telling him that he was a huge mistake and that I don't want to see him again and to my bf I would keep it as a secret cause is not gonna happen again

[Asker]

Ok i won't tell my boyfriend but this guy told me ( he's not going to stop until he became my boyfriend) I've been ignoring him for years :s

[Opinion Owner]

Threats him that you're calling the cops and that you will get a restraining order if he doesn't back up

[Intothewoods_]

Absolutely! You wouldn't want it to slip out later or find out from someone else. If he did it you'd want to know.

[Asker]

This is going to be so hard :s

[Anonymous]

It's rape, or well at least sexual assault. Report him

[Asker]

This guy is trying to be my boyfriend since years and now he just did this.

[Opinion Owner]

I know, it's sexual assault though

[Asker]

I'm thinking about hiding it from my boyfriend and just move on. What do you think?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, great idea, hide it, and move on... real great idea -_-

[Asker]

She told that not my idea

[Anonymous]

Well what would you do if you were in his position? if he told you that he didn't like it but continued to make out with a girl? Think about that and that should lead you to deciding what to do.

[Asker]

I don't know. I was thinking and i didn't sleep because i was hoping that i can find a solution before he gets back but i still can't find it.

[Opinion Owner]

Just be straight forward and tell him. From a guys perspective he will appreciate it more if you tell him than if you hide it. The truth always come out.

[Ihav2fart]

Becs use you started making out with him you fucked up... tell him and take w/e happens as a life lesson and experience.

[Ihav2fart]

Because*

[MrAtticusLebowski]

Yeah you should. Care to explain how this came about? Was it at a party or out at a club/bar?

[Asker]

Not at a club or bar or even a party it was at a place.

[Klaatu51]

i guess you should.

BUT... if your bf wants to smack him down stop him... YOU should be the one to smack him down!!!

[chrisbigman]

Yes, you should. Tell him that you obviously didn't like it. But tell him to not get crazy. Is this a guy that he will see again?

[Asker]

Yes.

[chrisbigman]

Then you need to tell him, but if he shouldn't overreact. If he does, then he's immature. He can be mad about what happened, but that doesn't mean he should attack the guy. Just verbally confront him.

[kangy]

What do u want ur bf to do?

[Asker]

He should know. I don't want to hurt him but i need to be honest about everything.

[kangy]

It is no different he wld be equally hurt.
If u feel it makes u feel better please do so.

[kangy]

And be honest u make out with that guy.
if I were ur bf I wld end the rs with u

[Asker]

You're not serious. I did a mistake and it doesn't mean I'm going to do this mistake again.

[kangy]

I am being serious. How about you let him kiss another girl?
Then you would understand the pain u inflicted on him.
if you love him u wouldn't do this to him.

[Asker]

I do feel pain too because i put myself in his position many times and it's not an easy thing to do.

[kangy]

huh u mean not easy thing for u to make out with another guy?

[Asker]

Yeah. Especially when I'm in a relationship but i don't know what happened to me this time.

[kangy]

that is nonsense. i am afraid i dont buy that. it is funny to know that a cheater find it not easy to cheat. it just means something is lacking in your current relationship thats why u cheated. best to let him know in details and also be prep for break up.

[wethepeople87]

If you tell your boyfriend tell your boyfriend you also made out with him.

[Asker]

Of course he should know everything.

[wethepeople87]

Good for you

[babu_001]

Why are you so insecure? Handle it yourself.

[Asker]

How? I keep thinking about it all the time and i want to put an end to this.

[Account]

Sure. Tell him you cheated on him. He'll be glad.

[Asker]

Thanks!

[rachel_lee78]

why would you keep it a secret? tell him.

[Asker]

I'm confused

[rachel_lee78]

just tell him right away so it won't cause any big problems than telling him later or something

[05Jueey]

You betrayed your bf. That's saddens me

[Anonymous]

tell your boyfriend, and tell him everything.