Why men hide there feelings to a girl that they like?

[Rafaela]

why some man/men are hiding their feelings to the girl they like.

[neos7m]

This is a very complex question. There are many situations in which a guy would want to do so.
First, fear of the infamous friendzone. I've been friendzoned only once in my life, and it's the most painful experience ever. There's no escaping it, unless you try to rebuild everything from scratch, and that most of the times means not seeing each other for months, maybe years. So, if I fell in love again with a friend, I'd never tell her, not even if I'm sure she likes me back (in that case, I would just go and kiss her, which has always worked in my short experience).
Another reason might be the "out of my league" reasoning. I've never believed in such things - as I say, we're all the same when we're laid and naked: rich people, famous people, and people out of anybody's league - but some people truly believe in it. Their biggest fear is that, if they told the girl, she could go around mocking them with her friends, and that would be even worse than the friendzone.
Last, but not least, like I said before some people just don't believe in telling their crush they like her. I'm one of them. I would constantly hide my feelings up to the very moment when I'm sure I have a 100% chance of succeeding, and then I would kiss her, taking her by surprise. It's not the kiss alone that usually works: it's the combination of kiss and surprise. That also gives me a backup plan in case my calculations were wrong: in that case she'd just ask «Why did you do that?», and I'd answer «I don't know, I felt like doing it. It was the heat of the moment». That might even convince her to kiss again... all of this, of course, only works if I've been good enough hiding my feelings.

[GoodManDave]

I've been taught by women that showing any sign of interest is something they don't want me doing. I get screamed at or sneered at for trying to flirt. I was screamed at for 5 minutes for calling a girl "a cutie."

It's survival. If you say "Hey, I like your glasses" and you get treated as if you have the worst fashion sense in the world, or you get sneered at, or an eye roll, or get screamed or laughed at for relatively innocent things like that... then you learn not to do that stuff.

Part of it can be "fear" of humiliation, but it's also a part of just not wanting to go through the hassle because it's not fun. It's like if you bring up something unimportant, and it always starts a fight, you eventually stop trying to bring it up because you want to avoid the attitude.
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[Mikaychay95]

Maybe the same reason why some girls hide their feelings? Do you mean they hide them in general or if someone asks if they like them and they deny it? I had a friend who was obsessed with this guy and when he asked if he liked her she said no. Like, you could have missed out on something truly special!

[7partparadigm]

As a fairly handsome and nice man, I find what you just described there really frustrating when I see it whilst dating women. Its more obvious than people think, and it makes the scared person look foolish. Very hard to see someone that you like, and who clearly likes you back, push you away for no reason, or because they are scared of you. There is nothing you can do when this happens, because the person who hides cannot then go back to the person they foolishly rejected without feeling ashamed... I need an older woman.

[MargaritaPeach]

I don't think they hide them, necessarily. I think they just show them as opposed to voicing them. My man doesn't say that he loves me all that often, but his actions prove it. I'd rather have that than the other way around.

[sunshine_2300]

I wish I knew my ex is very confusing and will not talk about "us" but does things as if there is an "us" :(

[findingdreamland]

They want to be sure their feelings are responded. Like all of us. No one wants to get hurt.

[DamanMannn]

We take too long to think of " THE PLAN " to succeed with the girl, and end up
fucking ourselves over. ( kidding ~ )

Lets say, If you were a cat, Would you just go up to a dog ( playfully ) pat him on the head and expect the dog to not bark and chase you til your up a tree? most men , or rather, humans are raised differently, our environment usually determine our personality, also our balls to say things and the way
"GOOD parents raise us" but that's the gist of it.

Were afraid to take risks with a woman's heart.
we might be the cat ending up on the tree or we may be the dog continually harassing the cat.
it goes both ways.

[Nik1hil]

The fear of losing her is the top reason. one of the reason the guys today's use p*rn to satisfy there need instead of a getting a affection from a real lady If she says no we might even commit suicide if the guy is more sentimental. We would rather bury our true feeling for her then to tell her our exact feelings and hear no from her in exchange. If girls start saying later or like set up another time for it. Then maybe boys will gladly start showing there true feelings and trust me you will amazed by the fact that how good some guys are.

[nadimzahery]

If a man see a girl just outside, super-market, anyvr. if he likes her on the spot or he feel something for her, he is not going to tell her
If a Girl is Class-Mate, Work Family, or else. Now He knows the girl, he will be judging her every movement he will try to have her attention by representing some gestures, body language, or will try to look at her. and he will be waiting for 1% interest from her so that he can start talking to her. if a guy is very flirtatious. and he knows about the girls, he will simply understand and will get her attention easily if he is new will be hard for him

[nadimzahery]

Sometimes he will think of being a creep or freak. but he will try to be funny for you to get your attention.

now your answer more briefly. boys are not really scared of rejection now adays. its 2015 now come to the common terms no buddy ask the name in the bar they will have the kiss and sex than ask the name.

They hide their feeling because they think if i tell them that i like her she will get on the top of me, now adays boys wants girls to tell them that they love him or like him its since 2010 or earlier,
i have my mates they go out hang out. but if i tell them that i told that girl that i miss her or love her they will laugh on me cause they say man you are gone... now she is on the top of you.

[nadimzahery]

just posted in parts... read this at last... 3 of 3
Just to bring the woman one layer lower than them they try not to say their feelings a lot. so simply they want girl to beg them.

I don't wanna hide the reality of the boys because this is how the question is asked.

Now adays boys don't respect the girls like before they were doing it. now they call it just a sex machine use it when ever you want it and than throw it away. i am not saying all the boys are the same but this is how they are after. when i met most of them and talked to them

well its abit creepy but this is the reality, girls after only enjoyment really don't care about these all but a warning for those who are looking for long term relationship please.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

What the actual fuck are you on about...

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[ArchivalMars2]

It's for a number of reasons mainly because we assume too much. We judge the girl thinking that she wouldn't even consider being friends let alone being a girlfriend, and sometimes if it's really bad it's that she's with someone else who we view as better than we could be. I of all people know this because I've been there. I had a chance to the girl I love that I was in love with her and I still can't. All because I thought she wouldn't even look twice in my direction. I still think about her even today when I see her.

[Alex_from_mcdonalds]

Lots of answers from other guys. I hope this one is the shortest but best. Guys hide their feels because;
1: they are scared of what you'll think.
2: that it'll ruin the whole friendship and the both of you stop talking.
3: is just really nervous to even talk about it.
4: they don't hid their feelings and the get it out piece by piece at a time> they basically tell you but you have to be paying attention to notice. Body language. Emotions. Actions.
Tell me if this helped?

[7partparadigm]

Agreed, and I have the same question about girls. I think people in general are often too chicken-shit to talk about scary things.

[Mysterio421]

You have it wrong it's not hiding it. It's just not showing it. Typically it's a turn off and makes you look weak in a woman's eyes. Society says that guys shouldn't express our feelings and emotions. Besides, when you put in emotion into a relationship or any kind and typically when it goes wrong, it may hit hard. I don't waste my time doing that while emotional stuff and then get an emotional blow to the face. No thank you

[godfatherfan]

Because women stomp and trample on mens feelings. they belittle the guy and make him sorry he opened his mouth. Or then they see the guy in a different light and it could end the relationship.
If a woman see's a man crying... she will then not see him as the tough "protector" and loose respect for him. So now she feels he cannot protect her and the relationship is gone...

[OpenClose]

I told a friend of mine she had a cute smile once. Her friends started spreading rumors that I was a sexual predator and I received death threats and an assault.

I'd be perfectly fine telling a girl she is attractive if it wasn't goddamned hate speech.

[Voice]

... for protection of being Damaged psychologically... or do you prefer a whole genda of rain mans walking around' it's not called hiding it's called guarding' we need to protect or I should say I need to protect myinvestment called values so we or I can be good husbands, fathers, providers, and teachers... now if we are all punked out by bad experience and or relationships how can we do that... right?

[ChivalryExists]

Personally girls like when i show emotion. They aren't use to it, its just not the social norm. My guess is because girls dont find a kind guy as attractive they like the feel and attitude of a macho man. Like i can hold my own probably better than most, im not small. Im just very blunt and speak my mind. I don't know, dating is a game and our generation is fucked because of the social norms.

[DarkHumorRUs]

Why some women hide their feelings to the guy they like?

[Unit1]

I second this!

[Jakesusername]

I third this!!

[Heathrowguy]

Not sure sometimes if the feelings will fade I suppose. Some guys need to be full-on like close to 100 percent that their feelings are on max level.
Sometimes it's too late & the girl is unobtainable.
Sometimes don't want to express feelings as might loose the partner/friend.
Sometimes it's just we know the girl kniws our feelings & we don't need to express them any further.
Can't speak for all guys.

[Sattymike]

Some of it is probably fear of rejection. But there is an element of playing it cool. Some women find it more attractive when a guy pays them less attention. It sounds counter intuitive but it's sort of like how many women give little interest to the 'nice guys'. No challenge, no respect I guess.

[bloodmountain1990]

Because were worried it might come off strong and ruin it. Sometimes girls don't give off hunts that they like a person and if us guys say something that comes off strong were seen as needy. Then there's times where girls will show interest, and once we show it back they ditch us because were not a "challenge" rolls eyes.

[Bugiman]

When I do this. It is mostly because i think the girl isn't interested in me at all. So why show feelings to get rejected anyways and be awkward after. Better to stay friends and get over your feelings, they'll fade away anyway.
Other times I do it to look a bit cooler then i truly am ;). And not to scare the girl off if you start talking about feelings and shit too soon

[DeltaDanner]

They are playing it safe. Rejection is one of the top fears us guys have, and you can't be rejected if you don't try. Also we are worried about getting hurt. Showing emotions put so much on the line, and some guys can't handle that.

[Hawkeye6736]

Because they don't know how to act on those feelings. They know the feelings aren't mutual. They feel it would make things awkward. Or he's scared he's going to end up hurt
It's usually one if those from my experience

[M_A_X]

It all comes back to fear of rejection, period.

[Applefan1]

A lot of times I admit my feelings to many girls NOT all but many of them I end up wishing I never did.

[ogutbomb]

I've to be doubly sure, before I tell her. I've to minimise my risk of rejection, for I fear it a lot and may not be able to take it very well. So, I hide my feelings, keep entering into casual talks and only once I'm fairly certain that she also has feelings for me, I'd express mine and not hide it anymore.

[Schoolman]

If a guy expresses his interest in a girl in the first few months, 9 out of 10 relationships go sour due to this. We can deny it all we want, but dating is a game.