Why do so many black men abandon their kids/families?

Question

Why is there an alarming number of absent black fathers?

Klara-Hitler · Accepted Answer

Abandoning family is a social behaviour common between the lower classes and poorer groups of the society regardless of race.

It is not true to say black men. if there was no responsible black men we would not have any happy successful black families. and the root of this behaviour between the black society is that before the 20th century the pressure on the African American minority and the social class they have been mostly forced to dwell in, naturally made this issue exist more between them.

whites were a majority relatively privileged with a minority group in the bottom lower class.
black people were a discriminated minority in lower classes discouraged from any improvement in their lives.
so the results was not surprising. It happened and happens almost in every poor group though history or any society when they faced discrimination in a period.

now the effects of those long years still exist in a society like America and it can't be expected to improve in a natural way in a very short period. it needs time. There is still many black families who have not improved from their places and so this is still an issue between maybe (I don't know the statistics) a major group of the minority.

The only cure is that the black society improve more. though this issue might never be 100% cured between any racial group whether white or black or etc, but the numbers can be more balanced.

justbanANNAz · Accepted Answer

i am almost certain you're a white man, hiding behind an anonymous identity, because you know this question is messed

how dare you? you think crappy fathers are limited to a particular race?
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we're all the same. a black man leaves his family. a white man leaves his family. a black man rapes. a white man rapes. black men r gay, white men r gay. black men r religious, white men r religious.

your skin colour does NOT define the things you do. it's a fucking colour and you need to get over yourself.

bunnahies · Accepted Answer

Because... He didn't want to be there/wasn't ready He had no knowledge of mother even being preggers Mother did not want him to be there  Jail

Your_boss960 · Accepted Answer

Because they grew up in the hood and therefore were basically raised to be irresponsible.

Starrk · Accepted Answer

There's no statistics on the number of black men who abandon their children. The statistical numbers says that 70% of black children are living with their mother, with the dad absent from the household. However the misconception about that 70% is that there's no way to tell how many of those fathers continue to remain a active part in the child's life and visit the child on a weekly basis. Just because a father doesn't live in the same household as his child, doesn't mean he stops being a dad.

So with that in mind, abandon is the wrong wording to use in this case. Why black men are less likely to live in the same household as their child, depends more so on the relationship status between mother and father. Most African American parents are cohabiting, which makes it much easy for one of the parent to upright and leave when things go for the worst, as opposed to married couples who will try to work through the problems, since they have more to lose by splitting.

Distant · Accepted Answer

If you're referring to African American men who are in the bottom of the socio-economic system, it's because there are relatively fewer jobs available for these men and they have a harder time supporting the children financially. It could also be an issue of education in contraceptive or family values in such communities. If black men were given the same economic opportunities whether they lived in Compton or Bel air, there might be difference in your statistics.

zorro8888 · Answer

You shouldn't say black men... rather "African American".
I'm not originally from the United States so my father has always been and continues to be a strong influence in my life and I plan to do the same with my family.

If you take an African American studies class... you'll learn that slaves were broken apart from their families and anyone who even spoke their language or shared their cultures were taken away. Even when they got some stability in their new surroundings nothing protected those same slaves from being sold to someone else continuously and nothing protected them from killing anyone you got close o and started to bond with.

So when you go back 400 years in US history all the way to 1619 which is when slavery started and continue to break down the fundamentals of family for each and every black slave... you can see how that can hold serious repercussions even in our modern age the the point where family hold little to no values for those men.

Anonymous · Answer

Because the black women nag them.

RestlessYouth_ · Answer

It's really common for those in poverty who aren't ready for the responsiblity of a kid, mentally of financially. Also number of absent fathers is growing because more and more generations are growing up fatherless, which is a cowardly trait being passed on to the next generation.

mistninja314 · Answer

Lmao why are you posting this anon though man? But I said something like this on Facebook to all of my friends LOL

" on Facebook you see a lot of baby mamas, But where thee fuck are the daddies At," They are always nowhere to be found. So I'm guessing they fuck em and then chuck em --__--- LOL

TripleAce · Answer

I many dark coloured women that I know as friends tell me they don't like dating within their race because men think within their culture it's accepted to be able to sleep with more than one women. This explains part of the reason.

Her dad actually left them

CHARismatic110 · Answer

Why are you only focused on the black men that abandon their children? Would you be asking this question if the "statistics" stated otherwise? Do you care that other races have fathers that abandon their children? Or is it only a problem when black men do it? Why not ask why is there an alarming number of absent fathers period?

Izzex3 · Answer

Just gunna throw this in here...

"In fact, in its coverage of the study, the Los Angeles Times noted that the results “defy stereotypes about black fatherhood” because the CDC found that black dads are more involved with their kids on a daily basis than dads from other racial groups"

thinkprogress.org/.../

justbeinghonest · Answer

It all has to do with people thinking this phrase is ok "my baby daddy" "my baby momma"

Anonymous · Answer

Why would anyone abandon their kids? The mothers are crazy, they don't want the responsibility, the mother was against having an abortion, or financially they aren't prepared.

ThatAsianFellow · Answer

You should look at the guys from Vietnam. My girlfriend never knew her father because he left the moment he found out about the pregnancy.

tinyclit · Answer

Mainly because of poverty. And poverty is getting worse.

Ihav2fart · Answer

It's actually getting better where I'm at.
My shop is about 8 blocks away from the projects "hood". I have 2 regulars that are black and lives in the projects and they always talk about how the community is getting better.

Schnikies · Answer

Woooooooooooooo there! I think beacuse of the news media in the states an the language they use they perpetuate the idea of racism as it is beneficial to the economic elites that finance the country.

NExPats12 · Answer

So racist lol. You choose who you want to be regardless of color and or gender.

atomique · Answer

Not sure. My dad is not from the States. In my family its mom that is absent.

Anonymous · Answer

Some trace it to breaking up the family during slavery, some to poverty, some to black culture, some to welfare culture. Probably a combination.

RationalLioness · Answer

For the same reasons so many white men do it where I live. Hopefully you have enough sense to understand that skin color has nothing to do with it.

Rocky19 · Answer

I blame it on thei shitty music. All they talk about is bitches and money but all the girls they have are ugly fat getto women most of them live of welfare

Tokana · Answer

The asker watches way to many episodes of the Maury show and all of a sudden thinks that its a good representation of what occurs in the black community.

Anonymous · Answer

Why does it have to be black lol all races have deadbeat father's :p

Anonymous · Answer

I assume you're referring to African Americans and not blacks in general. Maybe because they're scared to commit? Or find commitment boring I guess. don't know

koko124 · Answer

For the same reason that white men are starting to pick up the habit.

Anonymous · Answer

It is said to stem from slavery. The family unit was often separated. Once freedom was granted, the trend of absentee fathers stayed. That's the dumbed down version of the theory.

Anonymous · Answer

in my country I never see or even hear about this AlHamdu Lilaah..

been_waiting · Answer

Its a cultural thing I'm willing to bet.

Anonymous · Answer

They didn't have a dad when they were growing up, so they think it's normal.

Klaatu51 · Answer

And white ' s don ' t huh?

Anonymous · Answer

Their families where torn apart centuries ago and the effects are rippling to this day.

pyramid_princess · Answer

Not in my town they don't.

jwhit · Answer

My dad raised me as a single parent.

Anonymous · Answer

Rap music..

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