Am I doing something wrong by being in love with my aunt's ex husband? Should I tell her about it?

[Anonymous]

He's not that old, he have a son he's 6 years old and he loves me too. I was baby sitting his son since he was younger because he's mother's kind of selfish. I don't have to explain my whole life but i felt something for him and he felt it too we start getting close to each other more than before and we actually had sex many times. I don't know if i should tell her anything about our relationship and i don't know if we're making something wrong but i was sure that he won't back to her.

[Anonymous]

It's basically weird, let's be honest. And I think that's not what you want to hear, reading some of your comments, and that you don't see anything wrong with what you're doing, which leads me to wonder why you posted this question... But I digress. It's up to you whether you feel your relationship with him is worth ruining your family over, but I wouldn't tell your aunt until it's very definitely official and you know it's more than a secret affair. Maybe tell a different family member first, see how this man reacts to that.

[Asker]

This is isn't about what i want to hear it's about the right thing to do. I'm not asking about if I should break up with him or not I'm asking if I should tell her or no.

[Opinion Owner]

I've actually answered that too, see the very end of my opinion

[jasminB]

You should really consider what might be the outcome.. this is the kind of thing that can tear a family apart, and you don't know who is going to stick by you through it.. This situation involves a lot of other people who will be affected when and if this is found out. You might end up on your own with no one but him, and even the greatest relationships don't always last.. I would put family first.

[Asker]

Would it be different if i was another woman?

[jasminB]

Yes. Almost any guy you'll date in your life had already dated someone so you're always "another woman" but in this case you won't be starting a new chapter with a new guy.. The circumstances under which you met him are extremely unusual and it will always haunt your relationship assuming it will last, think about family dinners birthdays etc. and the biggest problem being that the people who would be hurt by this are your family members and you could mess up relationships that were made for life and there is usually no going back from that.. I don't know if you would date your best friend's ex, but I most certainly wouldn't. There is too much at stake, don't bet on this one, move on.

[Asker]

I didn't choose to love this man it just happened

[Anonymous]

It is not ideal in any way and will only cause drama whatever you choose to do: tell her or not.

I'd be concerned that you are a rebound relationship. Sneaking around and having a secret affair is always exciting and fun but facing the reality and fallout of such actions is tough and he may not stand by you. How do you think this will effect his child?

[Asker]

Are you saying I'm the person here?

[Opinion Owner]

Depends who 'the person' is, but you used 'I' all the way through.

[micheal727jovanie]

An almost similar situation happened with my niece who is 15 years old she had an affair with her aunts husband who is 27. (Her cousins father) her aunt was devastated. Me I knew something was wrong when everybody found out it was a big ass mess. She told my sister she volunteeraly had sex with him and then told her aunts she got raped or what not. It was sick. So if you like drama go for it but I recommend you find someone else because there's literally thousands of guys out there. Why take left covers?

[Asker]

I loved him because of many things besides he hate my aunt so much after he find her cheating on him with another man.

[Bigirl2]

Omg same

[Cowboy6666]

He will leave u as soon as he used u n bore of you like his wife (your aunt). . search for a boy like me n of my age

[Asker]

He won't leave me we might take an important step very soon.

[Cowboy6666]

Yeah I know.. Important step... marriage... But he will leave you after 2-8 years... He will never be with you entire his life.. Don't trust him blindly..
Otherwise as u wish...

[incognito121]

That is not a good idea you coud cause serious argument. He is basically your uncle that in itself is wrong

[Asker]

It's not like this in my country ( you can love whoever you want except your fathe, brother, sister, your actual uncle and your actual aunt).

[incognito121]

I see i still wouldn't go there

[Fontiefoxie]

I'm in a similar situation now dating my aunts ex boyfriend Soi get the apprehension of telling your aunt but in the end the ones who stuck by you are true and you two are both grown.
I say tell her. It would be weird hiding a whole facet of your life from someone you talk to

[Bethany-Louise]

Course it's wrong lol..

[Bigirl2]

I’m in the same boat so I understand thanks for posting this bc i don’t feel alone now

[Anonymous]

How old is he?

[Asker]

30 years old

[Opinion Owner]

It depends on what's your family is like. I personally think if people could choose whom they fall in love with, they would, but in most cases, they can't. If your family is open-minded, it's not wrong, but imagining it, if it becomes serious between the two of you, it will be a never ending awkward situation for the whole family.

[Asker]

My family?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, your family. I'm assuming you will get caught someday. This situation itself, I don't think it's wrong. They're divorced, right? And the two of you happened after he got divorced?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh and no, don't tell her unless you can see this will last for a long time. Does he think you should tell her? If I were you I would tell my mother first.

[Asker]

Yes i was with him after they divorced and after she let me meet him and after she made me promise to take of her son and her ex husband because she told me I'm the right girl but i don't know for what. I didn't mention this in the details because another long story.

[Asker]

She's living in another country very far from us and she didn't come to her son's birthday party or anything because she's living her life there and she's happy like this.

[Opinion Owner]

Umm yep, I won't change my opinion.