I think it's stupid. How can they marry the person they haven't yet seen naked? How can they marry a person they've never experienced sexually? No matter what people say, sex is very important in a relationship and if the parts or desires aren't compatible, then it makes for a very unhappy relationship. Sex is just another way gauge people you're interested in. If sexual desires aren't fulfilled, then there will be a lot of bitterness and cheating, which leads to divorce.
I'm frankly shocked by how many people on here think waiting until marriage to have sex is a good idea. That's a bunch of weird, outdated religious dogma from back in the day when people got married as teenagers. We have contraception now, and most people don't get married until significantly later. There's no good reason to wait, and a lot of good reasons not to.
3) Refraining from sex will ensure that the marriage is based on the content of each other's character. Marriages based on sex are never stable.
4) I'd consider it a good test to see if she really loved me. If she wanted to break up with me solely because I wouldn't let her in my pants, it would be obvious to me that she never really loved me.
I think waiting till marriage is wise and a really sweet/cute idea. No STDs, no unwanted pregnancies, if your a virgin at least you won't regret it because you gave it to someone who loved you so much they married you and etc. It's not for everyone. I'd try to wait till marriage but yknow sh*t happens so I'd just wait till I'm ready, in the moment and I know for certain I love the guy and he loves me back
The right and best thing to do is wait u til marriage that's what God said that's how it should be plus when you mature you'll will see why right now u won get it and feel like it doesn't matter but when you find a good guy that has values and him going out with you depends of your reputation and if you are a virgin or not you will see what you missed plus you will feel proud of yourself that you waited and you have somthing to brag about that means you are not easy
For me, I can't know that someone is 'the right person' without having some sort of sexual contact prior to marriage. Sex is a very important factor in my relationships and I need to know we're compatible in bed before making such a commitment. Having said that I'm not big on the idea of marriage so I'd probably have to abstain from sex for the rest of my life!
A very novel idea , I think... I just think I might be able to do it. After all I have been in the cocoon for 20 years , but just to be on the safe side , I'll need a waterfall. ak9.picdn.net/.../...-waterfall-in-the-tropics.jpg
Honestly, waiting until marriage is a very respectable, great thing to do. It's rare to see in this day and age, and it's an honorable how to try and keep.
I was raised to wait until marriage, but I unfortunately broke that promise, and I'm not particularly proud of it, and I wish I had waited. I believe waiting for the right person is the right way to go.
I was also raised to believe that no matter what you've done, or who you've done, God still loves you, so I believe either way you look at it, you're fine
What is marriage anyway? It's basically only a legal document and there's no law saying you must have this legal document with a certain person in order to have sex with them. I will have sex with who I want, when I want, if I want and if the other person wants it as well.
It would be nice if a good marriage could withstand it... but it often does not! It's probably one of the main reasons why most marriages fail!
There are only so many years a couple/person can endure not being satisfied! If they are enduring it... then they are not totally happy! Life is to short not to be happy!
I am not saying that a marriage should fail... it would be great if people made the effort and reinvented themselves to give each other attention. I am just saying... if the sex life is already outstanding, then it most likely will continue that way into the marriage.
@Skadouchebag - that's a hopelessly naive attitude. Lack of sexual compatibility is a nail in the coffin for many marriages, and I don't think anyone deserves to live a sexless life.
It makes more sense to wait until you find someone who you truly care about and are committing to (marriage) other than to just give it up at a random party or some shit like that. I mean your virginity is something you can never get back.. why waste it on someone you won't care about 2 years from now?
Waiting for marriage. No question. Not even going to wait for my fiancee. We have to be married. That way if anything significant happens, it won't be a big problem because we're married and committed and can help each other. Lots less to worry about if you save it for marriage.
I suppose Vote C is the best answer for me.. I mean not whenever I want but when it is right. Waiting until marriage is not always realistic. It might work for you.. but sometimes it is good to know what your partner likes before you commit for the rest of your lives..
I think it is unrealistic, but I do think that young people such as yourself should wait until you are emotionally mature enough to handle a sexual relationship. I did not have sex as a teenager and I am very thankful that I didn't. There are plenty of fun things you can do with a guy/girl who is special to you at your age that will lead to far less emotional damage/baggage than having sex will.
Im 20 and dont want to get married for about another 10-ish years, and i am sexually active. I think its fine to have sex before marriage, i do not regret not waiting. However i have sooooo much respect for people who do wait, i think it is such an attractive admirable decision, and it so true that when that DO have sex, it will be more meaningful.
I always pictured myself waiting until after we were married, well things got hotter and hotter. One time I couldn't say no, then it was him with all the questions. We waited until after we both knew we were going to marry each other, I think that made the decision to go for it easier. Our intentions were there though. = }
Speaking from my very personal perspective, I'm a hormonal person. I am very physical and goddammit, orgasm just feels good. It's extremely bonding. Plus, if he has any kinks that I find absolutely undoable, I don't wanna find out after I've blown a few grand on a wedding party.
That said, whatever works for other people works for them and I have no say in their sex life.
Personally I'm against the idea and the reason being is that I believe Sex is important for any couple. I believe it is brings couples closer, relieves stress, is extremely fun, builds trust and intamacy, Honestly the list goes on. So I believe a couple should have a fair ammount of sec before marriage because two people should be sexually compatible and happy with their sex lives together before commiting to marrige.
It's a beautiful idea. I personally could not do it. My ex wanted to wait until marriage for sex. We dated for two and a half years. Mind you, I was 16-18 at the time too. Super horny. He was very catholic, I wasn't. This eventually kinda led to our breakup haha...
I'm waiting until marriage. It's mostly because of a respect for myself and because of my religion. I also believe that if a guy really cared for me he would understand and respect my choice to wait. The thing about "How would you know if you are sexually compatible?" If I haven't had sex with anyone before how would I know if it were good or bad or if we were 'compatible'.
I like the idea of waiting till marriage. But, is it realistic or possible feat? Some people date over months or some for years, and never had sex? I think is good if you are protected so once you are married, you won't worry screaming "Oh My God! I am pregnant! What should I do?" Because at least you already married the guy and you are not worried of in some future and break up if it weren't.
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I think it's stupid. How can they marry the person they haven't yet seen naked? How can they marry a person they've never experienced sexually? No matter what people say, sex is very important in a relationship and if the parts or desires aren't compatible, then it makes for a very unhappy relationship. Sex is just another way gauge people you're interested in. If sexual desires aren't fulfilled, then there will be a lot of bitterness and cheating, which leads to divorce.
I'm frankly shocked by how many people on here think waiting until marriage to have sex is a good idea. That's a bunch of weird, outdated religious dogma from back in the day when people got married as teenagers. We have contraception now, and most people don't get married until significantly later. There's no good reason to wait, and a lot of good reasons not to.
1)www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1331149-does-growing-up-in-a-strict-religious-background-make-you-sexually
2) Condoms break. Birth control fails.
3) Refraining from sex will ensure that the marriage is based on the content of each other's character. Marriages based on sex are never stable.
4) I'd consider it a good test to see if she really loved me. If she wanted to break up with me solely because I wouldn't let her in my pants, it would be obvious to me that she never really loved me.
5)www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a7244-10-celebs-who-waited-to-have-sex-or-are-still-waiting
I think waiting till marriage is wise and a really sweet/cute idea. No STDs, no unwanted pregnancies, if your a virgin at least you won't regret it because you gave it to someone who loved you so much they married you and etc. It's not for everyone. I'd try to wait till marriage but yknow sh*t happens so I'd just wait till I'm ready, in the moment and I know for certain I love the guy and he loves me back
The right and best thing to do is wait u til marriage that's what God said that's how it should be plus when you mature you'll will see why right now u won get it and feel like it doesn't matter but when you find a good guy that has values and him going out with you depends of your reputation and if you are a virgin or not you will see what you missed plus you will feel proud of yourself that you waited and you have somthing to brag about that means you are not easy
For me, I can't know that someone is 'the right person' without having some sort of sexual contact prior to marriage. Sex is a very important factor in my relationships and I need to know we're compatible in bed before making such a commitment. Having said that I'm not big on the idea of marriage so I'd probably have to abstain from sex for the rest of my life!
A very novel idea , I think... I just think I might be able to do it. After all I have been in the cocoon for 20 years , but just to be on the safe side , I'll need a waterfall.
ak9.picdn.net/.../...-waterfall-in-the-tropics.jpg
Honestly, waiting until marriage is a very respectable, great thing to do. It's rare to see in this day and age, and it's an honorable how to try and keep.
I was raised to wait until marriage, but I unfortunately broke that promise, and I'm not particularly proud of it, and I wish I had waited. I believe waiting for the right person is the right way to go.
I was also raised to believe that no matter what you've done, or who you've done, God still loves you, so I believe either way you look at it, you're fine
(This is Tinkerbell) I agree that God still loves people who male mistakes of course. But that doesn't make it okay to go against what He says
What is marriage anyway? It's basically only a legal document and there's no law saying you must have this legal document with a certain person in order to have sex with them. I will have sex with who I want, when I want, if I want and if the other person wants it as well.
I have seem some newly weds not so happy because they waited... your sex life is a huge part of your relationship!
It would be awful to wait and the sex is continually horrible... it puts undo strain on a new marriage!
I say try it out and make sure the goods are good lol
A good marriage should be able to work around any obstacle.
It would be nice if a good marriage could withstand it... but it often does not! It's probably one of the main reasons why most marriages fail!
There are only so many years a couple/person can endure not being satisfied! If they are enduring it... then they are not totally happy! Life is to short not to be happy!
I am not saying that a marriage should fail... it would be great if people made the effort and reinvented themselves to give each other attention. I am just saying... if the sex life is already outstanding, then it most likely will continue that way into the marriage.
@Skadouchebag - that's a hopelessly naive attitude. Lack of sexual compatibility is a nail in the coffin for many marriages, and I don't think anyone deserves to live a sexless life.
It makes more sense to wait until you find someone who you truly care about and are committing to (marriage) other than to just give it up at a random party or some shit like that. I mean your virginity is something you can never get back.. why waste it on someone you won't care about 2 years from now?
Waiting for marriage. No question. Not even going to wait for my fiancee. We have to be married. That way if anything significant happens, it won't be a big problem because we're married and committed and can help each other. Lots less to worry about if you save it for marriage.
I suppose Vote C is the best answer for me.. I mean not whenever I want but when it is right. Waiting until marriage is not always realistic. It might work for you.. but sometimes it is good to know what your partner likes before you commit for the rest of your lives..
I think it is unrealistic, but I do think that young people such as yourself should wait until you are emotionally mature enough to handle a sexual relationship. I did not have sex as a teenager and I am very thankful that I didn't. There are plenty of fun things you can do with a guy/girl who is special to you at your age that will lead to far less emotional damage/baggage than having sex will.
Im 20 and dont want to get married for about another 10-ish years, and i am sexually active. I think its fine to have sex before marriage, i do not regret not waiting.
However i have sooooo much respect for people who do wait, i think it is such an attractive admirable decision, and it so true that when that DO have sex, it will be more meaningful.
I always pictured myself waiting until after we were married, well things got hotter and hotter. One time I couldn't say no, then it was him with all the questions. We waited until after we both knew we were going to marry each other, I think that made the decision to go for it easier. Our intentions were there though. = }
Speaking from my very personal perspective, I'm a hormonal person. I am very physical and goddammit, orgasm just feels good. It's extremely bonding. Plus, if he has any kinks that I find absolutely undoable, I don't wanna find out after I've blown a few grand on a wedding party.
That said, whatever works for other people works for them and I have no say in their sex life.
Personally I'm against the idea and the reason being is that I believe Sex is important for any couple. I believe it is brings couples closer, relieves stress, is extremely fun, builds trust and intamacy, Honestly the list goes on. So I believe a couple should have a fair ammount of sec before marriage because two people should be sexually compatible and happy with their sex lives together before commiting to marrige.
It's a beautiful idea. I personally could not do it.
My ex wanted to wait until marriage for sex. We dated for two and a half years. Mind you, I was 16-18 at the time too. Super horny. He was very catholic, I wasn't. This eventually kinda led to our breakup haha...
I'm waiting until marriage. It's mostly because of a respect for myself and because of my religion. I also believe that if a guy really cared for me he would understand and respect my choice to wait.
The thing about "How would you know if you are sexually compatible?" If I haven't had sex with anyone before how would I know if it were good or bad or if we were 'compatible'.
I like the idea of waiting till marriage. But, is it realistic or possible feat? Some people date over months or some for years, and never had sex? I think is good if you are protected so once you are married, you won't worry screaming "Oh My God! I am pregnant! What should I do?" Because at least you already married the guy and you are not worried of in some future and break up if it weren't.