My boyfriends ex girlfriend told him she's pregnant?

[BrunetteBombshell07]

I need to know what to do, he doesn't know if he should break up with me or not, this girl is crazy, they were going out for seven months and they broke up about two months ago, well she won't let him go and she tells him all the time that she stil in love with him, he told me that he will always love her but he's not in love with her, we are in love, and I don't wanna lose him.

what do I do?

what do I tell him?

whats a good solution to this problem that will make both of us happy and hopefully still together?

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He told me that he bought her pregnancy tests and he saw the results, they were positive. but also he told me that she said she was on birth control and she had taken plan B the next morning. is she just a lieing *****? she also doesn't know he has a girl

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hes 25 btw and I'm 18,but all besides that, he was really drunk last night said that he was so confused and he said he shouldn't be together, I think this is becasue his ex girlfriend doesn't know about me, and he doesn't want to have to deal with it when

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she finds out, but I want to be with him during this situtation, I just need to convince him that he needs me, I told him that if he was getting back with her that I understood, but he texted back and said I'm not with anyone, so I don't know if he wants

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to get back with her

[Anonymous]

Wake up already. He is WITH her for the next 18 years. It's so funny when women "think" that if we "have a person with a chlid" this IF they allow up to BE CONFUSED and accidently fall inside of them that we won't? UNLESS we are WILLING to exercise self control, you will always be second on one day, and she will be second on another day and the cycle continues. You're young already. You're a prize- not an option, a gift, not multiple choice. He came into your life with muddly shoes and now NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM, HE is RESPONSIBLE for making sure this pregnant woman's needs for the child are met for the next 18 years. Find your center and figure out that you're better off OUT of a mess. Don't borrow trouble.

IF on the other hand, he is willing to hire an attorney, or get a court appointed lawyer and handle all dealings with his "ex" legally so as to make it clear the all ties are over and done with because he is now in love with you and he WILL be a man and take care of his child- well? THEN you have someting. If not, you are allowing yourself to be a part of a world that is not "ready for you." Sounds like he has much to sort through. Pray and use wisdom. I have seven sisters. Been there, done that, grew up. Move on if he's not willing to be HONEST WITH the ex about you.

Period.

[infinitypro]

Has she been tested? Is it confirmed his?

what do I do? You can't really do anything, he should have been smart and wrapped his soldier.

what do I tell him? Tell him you want him to figure out his situation and find an answer, not sure of your exact age but having a kid in your life can and will change it dramatically, do you want such a change.

whats a good solution to this problem that will make both of us happy and hopefully still together? I'm going to be the ass here and say that it if the child is confirmed his, you need to break up with him. I realize that sounds really hard and terrible but he made the decision not you. Also, whose to say that the same thing won't happen to you or that he could have told the same stuff to her.

I apologize, I don't normally tell people to break up but in this situation he has stuff to work out and you don't need that kind of tension in your life, trust me I was in your shoes before and breaking up with her (she had a kid with another guy) was the best thing I've done.

[Denareru]

This is a terrible situation. First, your boyfriend should find out if she's actually pregnant. If you say she's crazy, there's a chance she's faking pregnancy to win him back. And then, "oops! miscarriage." but he's back with her. (Being on birth control AND taking plan B make the possibility of being pregnant very low. She still could be lying--but if he's seen a positive pregnancy test, she most likely is.)

Now, if she's actually pregnant, he doesn't have to get back together with her to be a supportive, loving father. You two can most definitely stay together and your boyfriend can still be there for her. He must talk to her about it, be there for her pregnancy and the child, but not with her in an intimate relationship.

You should talk to your boyfriend about what he plans on doing. Tell him that you love him--and if he chooses to go back with her, you shouldn't get angry with him. This is a very stressful situation for everyone involved and if he believes getting back with her is best, that is his decision and if you truly love him, you'll understand why he's gone back. But the truth is, a forced relationship for any reason (especially pregnancy) typically doesn't go well and those involved are usually unhappy.

[BrunetteBombshell07]

Thank you, that actually really helped :] I'll update on what we talk about today

[jacquesvol]

He dumped her (or only told you he did), she doesn't know about you ("she also doesn't know he has a girl ") , her birthcontrol was sloppy and now she appears to be pregnant. ("he bought her pregnancy tests and he saw the results, they were positive. ")

"is she just a lieing *****? "

IMHO no: "he saw the results, they were positive. " (the only thing she maybe lied about was her birth control and plan B)

An ugly situation for both.

He knocked her up. They both will have to face the consequences. He can go with her to the Planned Parenthood Federation: link if she wants this: link

There's nothing you can do, except not loving another girls' girlfriend.

[Dela1111]

What you do: Stop dating a guy who has another girlfriend

What do you tell him: I'm done being a skeez and done with this

Solution: End it

Solution2: Try not to involve yourself in this type of drama.

[Dela1111]

Just listen to yourself, is this something somebody who is not trailer trash would do? Ur dating a guy much older than you who had a girlfriend and now she's prego. What more needs to be said?