Is it wrong to ask your boyfriend for money?

[PrincessJennyfer]

im not asking for much just like 20$ every few weeks is that bad D: i feel like im a cheep whore every time i ask but im not asking for money when i have money i only ask when i need the money.

[Anonymous]

Are you still in school? Can't you ask your parents for money? Generally, I think it's not right to ask your boyfriend for money. If he pays something for you once in a while because he makes more than you then that's ok, but to ask him for cash every few weeks is more than a bit odd in my book.

I've also read your comments below and saw this: "if i get money from him he calls the shots an get whatever he wants that night". That is wrong. In your own interest, find a different source (parents, job) for money.

[PrincessJennyfer]

you sound like you think every one has parents. and its easy to get another job.

[PrincessJennyfer]

best not to assume i have parents or i can easily get a another job when i have a job that lasts from 8am to 2pm then have to head to class from 3pm to 6pm

[Opinion Owner]

Most 18-year-olds have parents. So yes, most people are going to assume that you have parents somewhere and didn't just appear on this planet. It was also a question "can't you ask your parents for money?".

So you already have a job? (since you say "another job").

It doesn't sound like you really want to change much about your situation and are very defensive. You stated below that you're not a whore, you semi-attacked me for suggesting that you could ask others or get a job. Mind you, it's not unusual for your age. But why come on here and ask a question if you're not actually interested in opinions that don't tell you to depend on a guy and pay him with sexual favours?

[PrincessJennyfer]

i do like others opinions but im not here to listen to a self inflated person pretend to know exactly what people are going through

[PrincessJennyfer]

if you come here an tell me to go ask mommy without asking if i actually have parents kinda annoys me

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

You should've asked if she had a mouth too, in order to ask her parents. Otherwise that would be so presumptuous of you to just assume she was born with one!

[Elzie_Sky]

Yes its wrong. It's like your a kid getting an allowance. I've read some of your responses, so it is apparent you are not going to change.
Also, you mention how you have a job and go to class so you can't get a second job. I myself have two jobs and attend college, and I have multiple friends that do the same, and some who even have full-time jobs and attend school full-time. Good luck with your sugar daddy.

[PrincessJennyfer]

at least you had the decency to actually read my comments be for you put an answer

[MaskedSanity]

I must have missed a shitstorm somewhere, since I see nothing wrong with your question.

I lend my boyfriend money when he needs it and he lends it to me when I need it.
How is that taking advantage of anyone? Or is the concept of borrowing beyond everyone's comprehension?

OR is money altogether a completely taboo subject in relationships now?

[LoseMyself]

Money isn't a taboo subject now @MaskedSanity. The reason there was such a response to this question is the fact that the Asker initially said that she regularly asks her boyfriend for money

"im not asking for much just like 20$ every few weeks"

This part by itself demonstrates her inability to be financially independent and manage her spending within what she earns. Later on she explained that she "pays him back by letting him call the shots". This no doubt aggravated some people because sex with your partner is about love and bonding rather than 'paying'.

[Anonymous]

I think you're taking advantage of him.

Boys grow up knowing they're expected to pay for things for girls. Okay, fair or not we do it. It's the way of the world.

But when a woman just asks for a handout? That's wrong. I suspect he's already paying for most things anyway.

No. It's wrong. You know it. He's your sugar daddy. You're an embarrassment to intelligent independent women who've fought for years to change the perception that women can't or won't take care of themselves.

[PrincessJennyfer]

im not just asking for handouts he knows exactly what i want an he tends to get one himself i have money but he make a lot more then me an i dont tend to have any left over after shopping for food an paying rent.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

Totally agree, you are an embarrassment. If you don't earn enough then work more hours or stop living beyond your means.

[PrincessJennyfer]

lol i can't work more hours the only time of the day im not actually at work is from 6pm - 11pm
hell im at work right now XD

[PrincessJennyfer]

so stripping me of only 5 hours i have to myself an to spend time with him just because its wrong to ask for a couple bucks every once in a while seems like every girl here was raped constantly they act like i can't just ask for a few $ i never as for more then 20 at this point im just reading this shit an laughing my ass off XD

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

Stop living beyond your means then. Stop spending money you don't earn. You know what happens when I run out of cash? I stop buying stuff. Learn to budget.

[Popples]

You're laughing your ass off? That's cute. You won't be laughing your ass off in a few years when you'll realize what a loser you are and how you obviously can't make ends meet. You sound like an absolute losers. Good luck with the whoring.

[LegitimateOdin]

to quit the competitive bitch talk its fucking ok to ask a man for 20$ every few weeks damn if you pay all the rent an for all the food an shit by yourself it the least he can fuckin do, jesus getting attacked by all these he bitch looking mother fuckers.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

What exactly is competitive about the comments? People have got an issue because she's a grown woman asking for handouts in return for sex. She needs to earn more or spend less, like the rest of the population have to do.

Getting attacked... Ha!

[PrincessJennyfer]

damn bitch you be putting shit to gather like it was said in that order i read the damn comments she said on sex night do you even understand that she will be having sex regardless an she pays the fuckin bills an for the food he eats your just some egotistical girl trying to think like a man so let me be the first to say STFU you cunt.

[PrincessJennyfer]

so please tell me how i fucking said shit you dumb bitch

[LegitimateOdin]

O. o

[LegitimateOdin]

im gonna change my account from machoman to scared man

[Popples]

Well well, suddenly it's become blatantly obvious that @legitimateodin and @princessjennyfer are the same person. Next time be careful which account you're using to post your comments. Burn!

20$ ha!!!

[PrincessJennyfer]

oh i know

[LegitimateOdin]

actually it became blatantly obvious princess wasn't a girl the moment i posted my first post but since you are on the subject ya im a bit late but your a bit stupid to be thinking you know how a guy feels about things an jesus never seen such female hatred i know i pick simple an easy to aggravate questions an answer people that way but y'all are sumthin special

[bomba78]

ok first off WOW
I was just reading some of the other comments and your reactions to it and, girl, your username fits you perfectly...

Well whatever, yes it is wrong to be askign your boyfriend for money and then paying back in sexual favors. That is a very sick and strange dynamic you've got going on...
But dude, whatever makes you happy...

[PrincessJennyfer]

<.< i only pay him back like that on sex nights

[bomba78]

still... you are acting like his own little prostitute.
What if one day he wants to do something in bed you are not up to and asks you how much it's gonna cost him... I bet that's gonna be a fun conversation...
Make out your buget with the money you do make and stick to it. Don't spend more than you don't have.

[PrincessJennyfer]

so when i said on sex night he can call the shot you completely ignored that nice to know.

[bomba78]

what's the difference?

[PrincessJennyfer]

you also make it sound like every guy who gives his gf money is a fucking douche why?

[bomba78]

let me refrase that then:

still... you are acting like his own little prostitute.
What if one day ON SEX NIGHT he wants to do something in bed you are not up to and asks you how much EXTRA it's gonna cost him... I bet that's gonna be a fun conversation...

[bomba78]

why would a BF have to give money to his GF in the first place?
Giving each other gifts is one thing, but just handing out money is just beyond my comprehention... my man is not my sugar daddy and I am not his sugar momma. Everyone should make their own money.

[zorro8888]

I think it's somewhat wrong, you could be putting him in a difficult situation if he doesn't have the money.
On top of that, you said in another comment you pay him back sexually... that doesn't sound good.

[PrincessJennyfer]

well its not like im whoring my self around we have sex night an if i get money from him he calls the shots an get whatever he wants that night

[zorro8888]

Sex shouldn't come with a condition in the first place. It shouldn't count as a reward but rather a bonding experience. So really the only fair way is to actually pay him back with money.

[PrincessJennyfer]

dog if you think its wrong to lend your girl 20 then you should be rethinking your shit she be dealin with yo shit when it stresses her out

[zorro8888]

I don't think it's wrong spending money on my girlfriend but I am not her dad nor her sugar daddy.
You need to set up your priorities and budget.

Wasting money on games like League and World of Warcraft is exactly why you're begging for money. I can handle my own things, I don't depend on people.

[PrincessJennyfer]

but im not asking like every week just every like 2 or 3 weeks i won't always have money an these skanks think im constantly asking for money

[zorro8888]

At the end of the day, it's your relationship. If he's okay with it then it couldn't be any of business.
You asked my opinion on it and I answered how I'd see it if my girlfriend did that. If you guys are happy with your arrangement then don't let me stop you.

[LoveMyMan52314]

I've been with. my bf for almost a year. And I never ask him for money. He sometimes gives me money out of nowhere. But I've never said "Hey babe can I have money" of course he's always buying me stuff but I usually don't let him. I don't like him spending too much money on me, even if he says I deserve it. But then again that's just me... all girls are different. I know some girls that go out with guys just cause they have money.

[Meowgoesthecat]

Your boyfriend is not your personal atm. If you feel like a cheap whore then imagine what strangers would think. If you dont have money , work and get paid instead of asking ur boyfriend to give you money.

[LoseMyself]

Yes. What if HE doesn't have the money? Kind of putting him on the spot then.

I know there is the age old saying that the guy takes care of the girl. This is stretching it though, and that saying is about a married couple, not a dating couple.

[PrincessJennyfer]

well i never ask when he doesn't have enough to give around but when i do ask its mainly when he gets his second check which he uses for random stuff

[LoseMyself]

For curiosity's sake, why do you need money from your bf anyway?

[Anonymous]

Well it fine to ask once in a blue more. Also it depends what you buying ? Also it annoying when girls have money then they say want to something and expect us guys to pay then put pressure on you to by something that get something that more needed which you could got if you didn't take them out. But if you didn't take out they get grumpy angry for not doing what they want. If you got a shopping accidiction then support your own and dont ask guys to help. Good nice guys will offer to pay they have some money to spend but we not monry machines.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

Go earn your own money!

Why are you begging money off of him? You're plenty old enough to get a job.

[Your_boss960]

I think it's wrong to ask, you should have your own. If you don't, you should make your own.

[PrincessJennyfer]

i do make my own money i pay for the food we eat an the rent so we can live in this house its just getting a second job would mean i wouldn't have any time to might self

[bomba78]

@PRINCES: in that case you should make him pay rent. this way you don't have to be asking for money randomly. He has to go 50/50 on the food and any other living expenses also. Anything else is unfair to you

[PrincessJennyfer]

:O someone gave an actual good response

[PrincessJennyfer]

if you responded like that normally i would of made you the most helpful

[bomba78]

I meant to tag @princessjennyfer

[PrincessJennyfer]

i am princessjennyfer

[bomba78]

well @princessjennyfer if you would have considered putting that, pretty much relevant, part of the info in your question to begin with, then this whole thread would have gone really differently for you :-) and thanks for the theoretical MHO lol!

[Anonymous]

I like to do things for my gf and I hate that she thinks she's becoming a gold digger. It's not like that at all. I just do it because I like to. I don't want her to pay me back with money or sex either. I'm her boyfriend not her bank. Also it'd kinda feel like I'm paying for sex.

[TruthsAnAshtray]

I think you should try to earn your own money. Being financially dependent on someone seems lame.

[Anonymous]

A favor is worth more than money.

How do you want to use the $20?

Instead of asking for the cash, why don't you just explain how you're going to use the cash and ask him to buy it for you?

[PrincessJennyfer]

thats pretty much what i do an i rarely only ever ask for money once ever few weeks. iv power lvl'd his characters when he needed it iv never been bad with paying back

[Opinion Owner]

The important thing is what you're going to do with the money.

[PrincessJennyfer]

i use the money to by something for a game or buy a game on sale but it helps were both gamers so when its a game he plays it too.

[Opinion Owner]

Why don't you just tell him to buy the game for you or get a job like everyone else?

[PrincessJennyfer]

ok someone who hasn't been reading comments begone with you

[Anonymous]

Why don't you get a job instead of using your boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

If u can ask your friend for money why not your man? Especially if u pay him back what's the problem

[violettasanchez]

It's not bad, you could lend him money when he needs it, too.

[Popples]

Yes it's wrong. Stand on your own feet.

[Izzex3]

Money for what?
Do you give him money too?

[PrincessJennyfer]

yes i give him money when i can i also give him stuff in games we both are active league and warcraft players an i tend to ask for money for those games

[Toadette]

Does he ask you for money?

[PrincessJennyfer]

No he doesn't

[LoseMyself]

A one-way street. Hmm... could end in a fight one day. Never know

[IMADETHIS]

I'll buy you skins bb

[Omar5881]

Nope its not wrong or anything

[ChickenBear]

Hahaha @GirlScoutsRevenge

As for "self inflated person" and the general behaviour you've exposed on here, dear PrincessJennyfer, I'd suggest you make sure you keep this boyfriend of yours because it doesn't sound like you'll find a new one easily.

If you get annoyed by people assuming that an 18-year-old has parents, you should probably go see a specialist because I can assure you that 99.99999% of all people who don't know you personally are going to assume that. Maybe next time try to somehow mention it in your question if it annoys you so much.

[PrincessJennyfer]

the did you comment on this guys comment

[Ulyss]

Do you pay him back?

[PrincessJennyfer]

i pay him back sexually or with money :o

[Ulyss]

Oh then that changes everything he's a lucky guy lol