My boyfriend got scouted to be a model and I feel weird about it?

[Minxxie]

I'm not sure how to feel because I am super proud and happy for him but also like scared? and I feel a bit like I'm not good enough for him? He's been scouted before but that agency wasn't very legitamite so he didn't go for it, but this time he was on vacation in another province and he got scouted AGAIN, and it's a really big international agency. They want him to sign a three year contract and a breach of that contract is like $7500 dollars. The thing is we were planning on going to university together and living together and we already both got into the school, and he doesn't want to put off his education because we already took a year off to work after high school. He's going to ask if they will still sign him after a year so we can have time to transfer to a school in that part of the country. I kind of want him to take it even if he has to spend a lot of time away from me and even if he meets a prettier TALLER model girl and leaves me at least I won't feel like I held him back. I feel like I'm not good enough for him and I never want to think like "how far could he have gone if he never met me?" I might be ovveratcing but this is huge! I was scouted too when I was like 16 but I'm only 5'5 so I could only be in makeup ads and stuff I could never do runway and be an actual model like my boyfriend can because he's 6'1. Plus they like younger girls, they like to sign 13-16 year old girls they only like it when guys are in their late teens or early 20's. And I will be 20 in July so I am far too old to be a "good investment" for any agency. Sorry for the long rant but I think I'd rather him leave me to be a broke university student on my own so he can jet around the world and have a good life.

[evilrubberduck]

If I were in your shoes, I would take this opportunity to do an open relationship!!

Like, you know, a healthy, communicating, open relationship where boundaries are set and respected. Where its ok to make mistakes and choices like this because you have nothing to loose?

Think of all the hot men you will meet who will be open to the idea (its modeling, tends to have open minded people) Think of all the pretty girls he will be meeting! THINK OF ALL THE PEOPLE YOU TWO CAN SHARE IN BED TOGETHER. (safety, you know. Wear a wrapper, get that paperwork and check up done, make sure third+ party is mature and respects the boundaries of your relationship.)

If you or one of you is heterosexual. Dont sweat it. Hell I'm straight. I don't mind copping a feel from a book here, or kissing there. It just doesn't sexual stimulate me. Whatevs. Thats cool.

If you aren't into that type of stuff or he isn't. Ignore this entirely and instead think of all the opportunities you will be getting on meeting people in the fashion industry! you will get a glimpse of the inside look. If he becomes successful, you can even meet people in positions that can help you thrive in your career choice. Any experience is good experience!

Dont let your insecurities hinder opportunities for both you and your boyfriend. :)

[Minxxie]

yeah I'm positive he hates the idea of an open relationship, he's demisexual which means he needs an emotional connection in order to be sexually attracted to someone, I know he'd never cheat he'd at least break up with me first. I guess I hate myself and I don't understand how I deserve him it's weird, I'd break up with him as soon as I started to hold him back in life even though I love him. He's super devoted to me and he'd do absolutely anything for me and he'd give up absolutely anything for me and that scares me. He always says I'm his number one priority in life above everything else and I know he wouldn't even think twice about turning down huge opportunities if he had to be away from me all the time to do so. I guess in some weird way I'm HOPING he will find someone better than me because I'm so scared of holding him back in life. But that won't happen because he thinks I'm perfect.

[abundantlyrich]

That's nice of you to set him free just like that! Hope he sees that you care more about him than ever before.

[Minxxie]

thanks

[Minxxie]

he's so head over heels for me I'm afraid he'd give up any opportunity just to be with me all the time which is scary. I don't want him to give up a great life for me.

[JohnBelluci]

He will probably meet a lot of girls but that doesn't mean they will be like you.

I remember being hit on by a girl much better looking than my girlfriend in the past. She was so hot it was a real good test of my faithfulness.

But I realized she was also fucking dumb... So I told myself "man.. if I cheat with a bimbo like that, I'm gonna regret a few minutes of sexual pleasure for a loooong time.."

so... I hope you're smart lol.

[Minxxie]

well I'm going to university so I hope I'm smart too!
but I also hope I'm not ugly :s

[Dtegesd123]

don't leave him because you think you are not worthy, leave him if he cheats. Which by what you are saying " Plus they like younger girls, they like to sign 13-16 year old girls, like it when guys are in their late teens or early 20's" that would be illegal.

Every man needs a good woman behind him.

[Minxxie]

Ewww NOO! I didn't say he was going to cheat on me with an underage girl!! I meant that's the age modelling agencies prefer girls to be when they first sign them, because that way they get a longer career and more money out of her so she is a better investment than a girl who is already 20 years old!

[Dtegesd123]

oh sorry for misreading. But yea, male models usually don't have careers over 2 years. You should stay with him.

[Dtegesd123]

but nowdays many models switch careers into acting. I used to be a former actor in China, it was preferred by agencies for actors/actresses to be single.

[Minxxie]

Yeah acting is what I want to do and also what I am going to university for (also with teaching for a fallback career) but he wants to be a cellist. I used to be in all the school plays and musicals in high school and my drama teachers and a few local stage directors who saw the shows told me to do this in university. And I thought they are building a huge Hollywood film studio in my city, and the local stage directors like me so even if I can work locally it would be a career I can truly enjoy.

[Dtegesd123]

I like it, you should always be a multi-dimensional person. But it's a harder road.

[Dtegesd123]

but successful people usually go all out on one passion before they pursue another.

[Minxxie]

yeah I think it's the thing I'm best at, no one has ever been so impressed with me for anything else other than when I get up on stage. I feel like that's where I belong even if it's hard there's a lot more opportunity in my city than there was only 20 years ago when I was born! So many Hollywood movies are coming here to film because we have so much room they can build any set they want!

[Dtegesd123]

in your free time like summer vacation go audition for a roles in a movie :).

[Minxxie]

yeah I don't have much free time because of work but I could at least be an extra just to get the feel of how a movie set works!

[Dtegesd123]

yea, thats a good idea, but even being an extra takes a lot of your time. You will be most likely recommended that you stay on set while the actress you are an extra for is filming.
If you make it , please don't change anything about your face :)

[Dtegesd123]

wait, nvm extras are just background people.

[Minxxie]

Yeah I'd just get to walk around and react to stuff, see the behind the scenes set up, and get a couple hundred dollars and leave haha

[Dtegesd123]

LOL yep, that's fun!, Good luck with your studies!

[Minxxie]

thanks!

[SunDevil11]

You should not feel that you are not good enough for him, he CHOSE to date you and is still choosing to be with you for a reason or reasons! You should still talk to him about how you feel though :) Best of luck

[Klaatu51]

weird y>?

and if u r 5'5" then u r not "only" by the way...

[Minxxie]

girls have to be at least 5'8

[Klaatu51]

really?

i thought height didn't matter

[Minxxie]

models have to be really tall

[Klaatu51]

seen many models under 5', in modelmayhem actually

[MachoMexican]

Your pretty girl with beautiful colored eyes any guy would want to be with you, now to your question yes he will meet a lot of women if he decides to take that model stuff but if he leaves you he's an idiot and didn't deserve you in the first place

[HereForTheDay]

That is good. Be happy for him.
Don't worry about him being a model, all the men are gay and the women aloof.

[BertMacklinFBI]

d00d just go with the flow. you can't know the future.

[Nahidpie]

best of luck on this :-)

you should try to talk to him about this as this is how you are feeling.

[Anonymous]

be happy for him!