My boyfriend is mad at me for giving another guy my number?

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Okay so yes now this does sound kind of bad... okay so a guy from our school snapchatted me. The conversation was short and simple. I didn't flirt with him or anything I'm not even interested in the guy. Then he asked for my number... I gave it to him because I'm really nice and didn't think anything of it. But after I gave it to him I realized I shouldn't have so I never texted him back... I told my boyfriend and now he wants to break up... I can't lose him. He always tells me he loves me and... now I love him too. I didn't mean to hurt him. I will never do this again... what should I do? I NEED him

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

In the future please remember that guys are not friends. Friends are people with a common interest...

If the only thing between you and said guy is you getting attention by some means and him giving it, despite how innocent you can make yourself think it is... that guy is just horny for you.

Guys are particularly sensitive to other guys trying this trash with their girl while girls tend to just ignore or often confuse the situation as "he's just a nice guy" or "he's just being friendly" while not taking into accountability that the attention sort of turns them on. Imagine if they hide it from their guy and allow it... get turned on to the point of doing what?

So don't blame him for being just jealous or just paranoid. If he wasn't jealous he wouldn't care. If he wasn't paranoid he could probably be stupid and/or not care.

HunterGuy15 · Accepted Answer

You're young. Consider it a lesson learned. If you are not loyal men will pick up on it and dump you right away. Men understand loyalty very well. We are loyal to our friends, our sports teams, our parents, etc. If he sees you are disloyal in anyway, with your feelings or with your body, he will get rid of you.

Stacyzee · Accepted Answer

I understand your boyfriend being upset, but I feel he is over-reacting.

You admitted you felt wrong, you were honest about the situation, and he responds in that way? He's acting as if you cheated on him.
I think he should admire your honesty.
If he can't "trust" you even when you are telling the truth, then this leads me to believe what EVER was holding your relationship together? From his response, it seems as if there was never much.

He needs to trust you.
When he does, he will not overreact like that.

PureBliss · Accepted Answer

Yeah you kind of dug yourself in a hole there. Just explain to your boyfriend that you had no intentions on anything other than being friends with him, but also 9 times out of 10 the guy isn't just trying to be your friend. He wants something. Keep that in mind the next time you're in the situation. Also your boyfriend should have a little more respect for you since you didn't lie or keep anything from him. As long as you know you're faithful that's all that matters.

Littleme2 · Accepted Answer

U shouldn't have given your number to someone you hardly know. It would be different it u knew the guy. Only thing u can do is try hard to gain his trust back remember he's hurt i

Apope16 · Answer

Women say he overreacted because they want the freedom to line phone numbers from guys for Male validation or future sex without consequences.

Men respond different because they know that when a guy on an app asks for a phone number the clear intent is romance and sex not friendship.

Women give numbers to guys while in a relationship to play dumb, make an excuse to meet them, and willing put themselves in a situation where "oh i dont know... it just happened."

Angelina25 · Answer

Gosh the GenZ.  "snapchatted", "number", "text" Where are the times when we used to write letters, those sweet words, those times. Ah.

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

hmmm... this one is difficult because you not only did something that offends him but also violated his trust. I would say ask him what he wants you to do. It comes off as if you are really ditsy about the relationship. Its obvious that you care about him, so make him see that. Its going to be small steps that lead to you getting your relationship back.

Anonymous · Answer

Just going to point this out one more time: Anyone on snapchat/tinder/alike asking for your number means "Want to fuck?".

You saying yes when another guy asks you that is obviously not okay with your boyfriend.

misscocobutter · Answer

Just explain it to him how you told us, if he doesn't get over it, I'm not sure what else you could do

Nicu11 · Answer

Well, you two are young, so he is concerned. Try to give him reassurance and make him feel like he is the best :)

Anonymous · Answer

Just let him go. You're still young. Do you really think this will last forever? Its not real relationship at whatever your age is. Seeings how you're under 18. Work on yourself first and know who you are and what you want in your future before dating.

jman46241 · Answer

He has every right to be mad. Why did you tell him?

ArtDent · Answer

Awesome outcome.  You saw that you did wrong, you took it no further, you volunteered the info, you promised not to do it again. Boyfriend forgives.

Sexy_Jonney · Answer

I think he should break up with you. He needs someone who will be loyal and respect as much as he respects you

DBAOracle · Answer

I saw the update, congratulations for solving the problem! :)

Anonymous · Answer

Delete & block the guy, show your boyfriend that you did.

gapminder · Answer

Smh, nothing good ever comes from snapchat.

Jared____ · Answer

You two should talk it out🙂

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