My boyfriend is mad at me for giving another guy my number?

[Anonymous]

Okay so yes now this does sound kind of bad... okay so a guy from our school snapchatted me. The conversation was short and simple. I didn't flirt with him or anything I'm not even interested in the guy. Then he asked for my number... I gave it to him because I'm really nice and didn't think anything of it. But after I gave it to him I realized I shouldn't have so I never texted him back... I told my boyfriend and now he wants to break up... I can't lose him. He always tells me he loves me and... now I love him too. I didn't mean to hurt him. I will never do this again... what should I do? I NEED him

Updates

+1 y

Nvm I got him to forgive me !! 😓😄

[D_Bone_Steak]

In the future please remember that guys are not friends. Friends are people with a common interest...

If the only thing between you and said guy is you getting attention by some means and him giving it, despite how innocent you can make yourself think it is... that guy is just horny for you.

Guys are particularly sensitive to other guys trying this trash with their girl while girls tend to just ignore or often confuse the situation as "he's just a nice guy" or "he's just being friendly" while not taking into accountability that the attention sort of turns them on. Imagine if they hide it from their guy and allow it... get turned on to the point of doing what?

So don't blame him for being just jealous or just paranoid. If he wasn't jealous he wouldn't care. If he wasn't paranoid he could probably be stupid and/or not care.

[Asker]

Yes, you broke it down perfectly. That's exactly what happened.

[HunterGuy15]

You're young. Consider it a lesson learned. If you are not loyal men will pick up on it and dump you right away. Men understand loyalty very well. We are loyal to our friends, our sports teams, our parents, etc. If he sees you are disloyal in anyway, with your feelings or with your body, he will get rid of you.

[Asker]

I have been loyal

[HunterGuy15]

what you did looks like cheating. It doesn't matter if you like it or not.

[Asker]

How is it cheating? I never even texted the guy back !

[Apope16]

She was attempting to cheat. Snapchat is not for making friends. its for sending nudes and sexting strangers. This guy went on there to fliry, asked for her number, then she planned to cheat by giving her number away. Women play dumb but they know what they are doing. "I didn't think much of it."🤣 everyone knows a guy asking for your number wants sex not friendship. You are a lucky lady. He forgave you. But your actions warranted a breakup. Giving your number to a guy w/o mention of breakup is... strategy to examine a guy before cheating.

[Stacyzee]

I understand your boyfriend being upset, but I feel he is over-reacting.

You admitted you felt wrong, you were honest about the situation, and he responds in that way? He's acting as if you cheated on him.
I think he should admire your honesty.
If he can't "trust" you even when you are telling the truth, then this leads me to believe what EVER was holding your relationship together? From his response, it seems as if there was never much.

He needs to trust you.
When he does, he will not overreact like that.

[Sexy_Jonney]

He's probably not overreacting.. She did that sober... Imagine I a cute guy tried to get frisky with her about 3 drinks... Now you are talking poundtown

[Asker]

Thank you. Check update 😊

[PureBliss]

Yeah you kind of dug yourself in a hole there. Just explain to your boyfriend that you had no intentions on anything other than being friends with him, but also 9 times out of 10 the guy isn't just trying to be your friend. He wants something. Keep that in mind the next time you're in the situation. Also your boyfriend should have a little more respect for you since you didn't lie or keep anything from him. As long as you know you're faithful that's all that matters.

[Asker]

Thank you. I'm like freaking out right now. I'm going to go crazy right now if I lose him

[Apope16]

How do you give someone your personal number with intention behind it? No no hunny. Lets wake up and not be silly

[Littleme2]

U shouldn't have given your number to someone you hardly know. It would be different it u knew the guy. Only thing u can do is try hard to gain his trust back remember he's hurt i

[Asker]

Yes, your right I shouldn't have. I didn't text the guy back tho

[Littleme2]

Think he's over reacting Hun... Has he spoke to you yet?

[Asker]

Yes, everything is fine now

[Littleme2]

Good :)

[Apope16]

Women say he overreacted because they want the freedom to line phone numbers from guys for Male validation or future sex without consequences.

Men respond different because they know that when a guy on an app asks for a phone number the clear intent is romance and sex not friendship.

Women give numbers to guys while in a relationship to play dumb, make an excuse to meet them, and willing put themselves in a situation where "oh i dont know... it just happened."

[Angelina25]

Gosh the GenZ.
"snapchatted", "number", "text"
Where are the times when we used to write letters, those sweet words, those times. Ah.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

hmmm... this one is difficult because you not only did something that offends him but also violated his trust. I would say ask him what he wants you to do. It comes off as if you are really ditsy about the relationship. Its obvious that you care about him, so make him see that. Its going to be small steps that lead to you getting your relationship back.

[Asker]

😔😔😔 I don't know what to do I'm not going to be able to sleep

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Been there before. Hmm perhaps draw something like a sorry note. At least to keep your mind busy. Write about why you are sorry BIG ONE! just write and you will pull your thoughts together so at least you can highlight everything to help build an apologie and make a better relationship for both you and him.

[Asker]

Check update 😊

[OrdinaryGentleman]

He didn't forgive you.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Here is what most likely happened...
>you kept texting him sorry
>saying you were sorry and crying or freaking out
>he felt bad that you felt sad
>he then forgave you

When girls do small infractions like what you just did, it wears on guys, making it harder for us to trust you, so if you keep doing these things that crack will get bigger and bigger until the inevitable happens.

You are not out of the woods yet. Now of course be happy because any immediate danger to your relationship was thwarted, however unless you repair that crack... it will slowly get bigger.. So work to fix it now.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Im saying he forgave you because he felt bad not because in his heart he forgave you...
its just something to think about.
I could be completely wrong

[Asker]

He told me he forgives me ❤

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Lol I doubt he does mean it.

[Asker]

I'm not going to mess up again

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Not just messing up miss but you have to repair the situation as well. Relationships aren't just repaired in a second.

[Asker]

How?

[OrdinaryGentleman]

care and devotion.

[Asker]

I am trying to be the best girlfriend I can be now

[OrdinaryGentleman]

You are going to burn out.

[Asker]

Why do you say that?

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Because you will exhaust yourself being the perfect girlfriend.

[Asker]

I'm okay with that

[Anonymous]

Just going to point this out one more time: Anyone on snapchat/tinder/alike asking for your number means "Want to fuck?".

You saying yes when another guy asks you that is obviously not okay with your boyfriend.

[Asker]

Yes, I won't do it again

[misscocobutter]

Just explain it to him how you told us, if he doesn't get over it, I'm not sure what else you could do

[Asker]

He got over it once I told him I would block and delete the guy

[misscocobutter]

Okay good, just don't do it again...:-)

[Asker]

I won't... apparently he was still mad about it and almost broke up with me again last night over it

[Nicu11]

Well, you two are young, so he is concerned. Try to give him reassurance and make him feel like he is the best :)

[Asker]

That's what I tried to do, ig it worked

[Asker]

😊

😊

[Anonymous]

Just let him go. You're still young. Do you really think this will last forever? Its not real relationship at whatever your age is. Seeings how you're under 18. Work on yourself first and know who you are and what you want in your future before dating.

[Asker]

No... I'm not letting him go. I love him

[Opinion Owner]

Then you have a hard road ahead of you. Good luck and I hope you're happy in the end.

[Asker]

Okay. .

[jman46241]

He has every right to be mad. Why did you tell him?

[Asker]

I know he does... and because our conversation just got into it. If i was hiding something I wouldn't have even told him tho. I don't even care about the other guy. Like what tf do I say to him to get him back?

[ArtDent]

Awesome outcome.
You saw that you did wrong, you took it no further, you volunteered the info, you promised not to do it again. Boyfriend forgives.

[Asker]

😊😊 yes, everything worked out

[Sexy_Jonney]

I think he should break up with you. He needs someone who will be loyal and respect as much as he respects you

[Asker]

How was I being disloyal... ?😐 anyways check update

[Sexy_Jonney]

Giving another guy your number... How would you feel if he exchanged numbers with a pretty girl?

[Asker]

Check update

[Sexy_Jonney]

I saw your update. I think he made a mistake in taking you back

[Asker]

Well he didn't. I never cheated on him and I never will

[Sexy_Jonney]

Best of luck

[Asker]

Thanks ig

[DBAOracle]

I saw the update, congratulations for solving the problem! :)

[Asker]

Thank you 😊 I would have gone crazy if everything we had would of ended over this

[DBAOracle]

Yeah, I would have felt pretty bad for you too. The problem you guys had is so minuscule compared to the other problems we see around here.

[Asker]

I agree and everything was just going so perfect. He has been everything I wanted. He's the guy who popped my cherry. I would have died if it all ended so soon. He tells me he loves me almost everyday

[DBAOracle]

Oh, I wouldn't have doubted that he might end things. You guys have a beautiful relationship, he wouldn't let that go. And many girls wish they popped their cherries to decent guys like your boyfriend. I think both of you are appreciating what you have and that will definitely keep your bond strong. It's definitely great to hear about relationships like yours. :)

[Asker]

Thank you 😊

[Asker]

I just hope it stays that way

[Anonymous]

Delete & block the guy, show your boyfriend that you did.

[Asker]

Okay I will try that

[Asker]

This worked !😁

[gapminder]

Smh, nothing good ever comes from snapchat.

[Asker]

Lol not always

[Jared____]

You two should talk it out🙂

[Asker]

Check update 😊

[Jared____]

Good for you love🙂

[Asker]

Thank you 😊