I gave a guy my number but have a boyfriend?

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So today I did something really wrong, though it didn't feel wrong at the time and gave a guy my number knowing good and well I just started a new relationship with another guy. Im 23 and have never had a boyfriend before so he would be my first. We just started dating about 2 weeks ago, he is awesome and I really like him. Today I was talking with this other guy and we had a really good conversation at work. He then asked for my number, I should have told him I had a boyfriend but he was really nice and I actually liked talking to him. I know I led him on and I feel horrible. I'm planning on telling him if he ends up texting me and suggest to be friends. What should I do at this point? Should I tell my boyfriend?

the_esculater · Accepted Answer

I think your inexperience with relationships is quite apparent here. It's only been two weeks in your first exclusive romantic relationship (congrats on that).
This guy you met is just one of many guys who are good at first impressions and will sweep you off your feet. You can't admit this to your boyfriend though as he will get the impression you are loose/easy.
In time you will come to appreciate these few things:
Other guys are going to get your number either from you or from someone/somewhere else, it happens. Just turn them down when they want to get sexual or romantic with you.

Keep guys who look like future potentials as distant friends (they can't be texting you all the time and should respect you are with your boyfriend), you might need them some day in the future when you become single again.

Don't let your boyfriend know that you give other guys your number, or that you actually enjoy convos with other random blokes. That will just make him insecure.
Instead, tell him about a few of the creeps who get your number using dodgy means and try to text you. The ones you shut down immediately. It will reassure him that you respect him.

Mexicoman101 · Accepted Answer

It was a mistake to give him your number without telling him, but I mean if you just tell him now and apologize for potentially getting his hopes up chances are he would understand. Most of the time the thing I hear is women who are single refusing to give guys their number by lying & pretending they have a boyfriend, I don't hear about a guy getting a number only to hear that she has a boyfriend Afterwards.

ambbrush · Accepted Answer

Okay, I definitely don't think you "cheated."

Tell your boyfriend that you gave a guy your number because you guys hit it off as friends. Say that in the moment you forgot to tell him you were in a Relationship but next time you talk with the guy (whether in person or over text) you will tell him that you are in a serious with relationship and you only want to be friends.

Not telling your boyfriend can lead in the wrong direction and make thing so much more complicated. It was a mistake and you forgot in the moment to tell him. Your boyfriend will understand.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Personally unless he says/does something to show he's interested in you I wouldn't worry. Not all guys are out to get every girl.
But I would explain that to my boyfriend, that you made a new friend and gave him your number. It's up to him what he does with that

DaveDavidson · Answer

Just tell the guy you can't actually see him. "Let's just be friends" would just be annoying, he wanted your number because he wants to see you romantically.
As a guy, girls really need to stop giving me their numbers when they have no intention of actually dating me. You know why I asked for your number, just tell me no then.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

No don't tell your boyfriend. Do you like your boyfriend more, probably? Then stay with him, and yeah tell the other guy. He may get upset and feel like you led him on, but it is what it is, he'll get over it. It is possible to like more than one person at once, obviously, and it's pretty normal. If you're into the idea of an open relationship, tell your boyfriend about that, but if you're not into that idea then so be it.

LinguistRick · Answer

Let me ask you this girl. How would you react if he did the same? If you care about your boyfriend and want things to go somewhere, I'd suggest you reconsider maintain contact with this guy.

mwanduczr · Answer

Really, there's nothing wrong with that unless you know for certain that he wants to be more than friends as well. But thats up to you. If your boyfriend is offended then talk it out. But you should know what you want to do

youngralph23 · Answer

No way do you tell your boyfriend. Besides nothings wrong with meaningless conversation what I’m supposed to expect your friends to be brick walls some guys is different.. all you can do is give attention that’s what your eyes are for

Shaft50 · Answer

If he messages, tell him that you want to clarify that it's just as friends... nothing more will come of this, just so he knows...
(it sounds like you were still in single mode when you gave your number)

burpzzzzz · Answer

Boyfriend/girlfriend and only dating 2 weeks? I'm confused you're moving that quick? I think your "boyfriend" should date other women since it looks like you want to date other men or least get their attention.

Myquietsoul · Answer

Sorry. You messed up. Now you'llh ave to break this guy's heart potentially and tell him you have a boyfriend. Don't do this again

RationalMale · Answer

This happens to me soo much, apparently girls are smitten in person then pull that "lets be friends" bs

chrisbigman · Answer

Why the hell did you do that? Unless you intend to only be friends with him, you need to lose the other guy.

Fritz__Davoe · Answer

I think if you're worried about it, it would be most fair to let both of them know. You didn't intend to be malicious though, so it really shouldn't be a big deal.

poop89 · Answer

As a guy who rarely gets a girls number, this happens way to often, it's annoying, cut it out

jersos1 · Answer

This sucks. However you can tell him that you want to be friends only!

Anonymous · Answer

You are obviously not committed. You should probably have a honest discussion with your boyfriend before someone gets seriously hurt.

Anonymous · Answer

Girl did this to me a couple weeks ago. Her boyfriend banned me from talking to her

boochie0 · Answer

You should really think before you do things

mistershaytan · Answer

Come clean with your boyfriend

Anonymous · Answer

So you cheated. Good job

kayakkyle46 · Answer

Yolo. One in the pocket. Leverage

Anonymous · Answer

U did wrong tell ur boyfriend

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