1) be there as a dad
2) if they know about each other, make sure they don't grow jealous.
3) make sure the kids know they are siblings, and spend time together.
4) work hard. Men are providers. Work any overtime hours you can get. Work a second job. Do not exhaust yourself, leaving you feeling worn out, like you have no time or energy for other things.
5) IF AT ALL POSSIBLE, all of you should stay living together! Rent, groceries, bills, etc? The money for these things goes much farther if spent on one household, than on 3! Two mothers able to take care of infants makes the work load easier. You will have equal time with both kids, which prevents jealousy or claims of favoritism. They will grow up with each other.
6) turn it into a committed relationship, if you think you can. Remain boyfriend/common law husband to them both. This avoids the mess of you, or them, getting into other relationships, which could complicate things. It is very understandable if this is NOT doable or acceptable by you or them, but if it IS, it will solve problems.
7) thank you for doing the right thing. Too many men run away. too many deny it is theirs. too many beg her to just kill it. you're showing a maturity, and accepting personal responsibility, in a way that it seems frighteningly few people bother to anymore, and that is a bog deal.
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I think you may want to have them go through a DNA testing or something just to verify that the children they are carrying are actually even yours. Because the last thing you want is to be paying child support for someone else's kid until they reach the age 18.
Why weren't you using protection? Why weren't they on birth control? Everybody in this situation sounds dumb. First you must confirm the babies are yours. Never trust anyone. Talk to both of the girls about what each wants to do whether keep the baby or not, and go from there. I would say if you want to do the right thing be a father to both of the kids if you think you can handle it, but if the mother doesn't want you involved then leave it up to her.
Step 1: Fucking stop having sex.
Step 2: Castrate yourself to prevent anymore accidents.
Step 3: Get a job.
Step 4: Pay the support.
If you can't do numbers 1 or 2, then at least learn to wrap it up and use some goddamn birth control. It's not fool proof, but it's better than nothing.
Are you sure they aren't just tricking you to see what your reaction would be?
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Since you're so emotionally mature and open minded/free spirited for 2 open relationships, handling 2 babies will be a piece of cake. After all, your type is SO good at juggling and keeping things professional.
Maybe you'll see the seriousness and stupidity of having reckless emotionless sex.you fucked around and now you're fucked. No birth control on your part... stupid. Hope you have some merrily awkward Christmases
Well congrats daddy! There really isn't much to sat. You're going to have to be there for them both.
See if they would consider an abortion, if not, and if you can't afford child support my advice is to run, change your name set up somewhere else and learn from your mistakes.
Own up to it, daddy. Don't be a coward and run. You may say it's tough now. Well, you shouldn't have had sex if you weren't ready. That's why I have always said that even condoms aren't 100% effective.
Well let them make their choice.. and just ask them what they need.
Get a better job. Learn to use condoms properly.
Introduce them. The resulting fight will probably kill them both. Problem solved.
this screams pathetic, i hope you learn from your mistakes.
First go on "Maury" to make sure you are the father.
If you are then man-up and take care of your children.Stop telling lies on the internet is the first thing you need to do.
Try and win the lotto and then your problems are solved lol :-p
Pay half of the abortions now, or pay lifetime support for 2 children, I would go for the former but since the women also have a say, really depends on them as well.
nice troll attempt though
help them but don't let them abuse you becareful
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