I mean, if there's one thing I learned very early on in this life, it's this: CLASS ATTRACTS CLASS.
If yr desire to avoid tacky gold-diggers stemmed from yr own exquisite sophistication, then... well, you wouldn't have a problem in the first place.
Srsly, it's kinda like how people with quick minds just can't hang out with dullards for more than 30 seconds or so. The sharp-minded folks don't have to always watch their backs (lol)... no, the two groups will just NATURALLY go their separate ways.
In the same way... If you were a gentleman of wealth AND CLASS, you simply wouldn't have to worry about this gold-digger infestation problem. Wouldn't have to. In that case, you and "tacky" would just agree to fucking disagree, and keep yr distance from each other.
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Nah, ok. This is where shit gets real, so, get ready for shit to get real.
If YOU have to ask this question... that means YOU are exactly on the same level of (lack of) refinement as the gold-diggers you so fervently hope to elude. And YOU need these fuckin' tactics and cheat codes, because... well, because like attracts like, and yr just as bad as them, and YOU just wanna use somebody before somebody can use YOU.
If this is actually a non-troll question -- Consider the people you know who have both wealth and class. Ask yourself whether they have this "problem". (Answer's no, by the way.)
Then, ask yourself what THEY have, that YOU don't, that keeps the gold-diggers at bay.
Then... work on yourself.
Today is the first day of the rest of yr life.
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This is serious! I have a mentality, that many girls are gold diggers. I have observed some being after wealth than the person itself and I do never want to become their partner. I see it as a bad thing personally. No, I'm not the bad sort. I'm sorting my life out at the moment and questions like this one > I < ask are helping me getting closer to my goals. If you can help more than that, I'd appreciate it very much. Thanks!
Well, I mean... there *is* an easy solution to this, ya know: Don't use wealth to attract women. Done, end of story. LOL
I mean... not really kidding, there. I don't really ever have much sympathy for the "victims" of gold-diggers. Because, (1) lack of class attracts lack of class, as previously mentioned; (2) honestly, if someone sucks at reading people then after a certain age that's really their own damn fault; and, MOST IMPORTANTLY, (3) the problem wouldn't have ever existed, HAD THE GUY NOT BEEN FLASHING THE FUCKING CASH in the first place. I mean... think about the irony here. These guys are complaining, but, 100.00000000000 percent of the time, it's guys who are trying to attract women with... their wealth. I know, BIG SHOCKER, isn't it.
outline of what "classy" is, 'round here. If that is you -- and if you look for the same qualities in a woman -- you WILL NOT have to deal with this gold-digger problem, because you will simply repel the gold-diggers naturally.
But, really, you should start off with "no conspicuous consumption". Because that shit's tacky, anyway. The best wealth is the wealth you never even know... unless it's yr best friend.
I have a friend who made about $36 million from a tech IPO when he was about twenty-three years old. He met his future wife when he was twenty-five. She had NO IDEA that he had more than a struggling student's income... until they got engaged. About 18 months of dating, he drove her around in a rusty '88 VW Golf, took her on cheap dates, lived in a tiny apartment with wind blowing through non-airtight windows (but helped her with her rent), the whole bit... and then, when they committed to spending their lives together, WHAM he bought a $2M house.
I know, that using wealth to attract women or going to clubs in order to get one is a recipe to a disaster. I was looking for other hints like some of the guys said but every help is helpful, big or small! Cheers!
Men can be gold diggers too so I can only speak from my own experience. Look out for a lot of talk around money and expensive stuff. If the person is materialistic. The person might ask if you live in a big house, what kind of car you drive or try to fish out answers that implies that you have a lot of money. For example, what store do you go to when you shop? If you answer any expensive ones, well the gold digger will be satisfied you know. I dated a gold digger ones and on our first date he asked me how big my house was, what type of boat we owned, how large my bed was and he started making jokes about how I was wealthy. His dreams were obsessed with making money and owning a big house so he was constantly around that subject. Now when he found out that my house wasn't that big and I didn't own tons of expensive stuff, I suddenly wasn't that interesting anymore. We're not together today and thank god but he's with a wealthy girl which explains it all.. I hate gold diggers. They're only after money and fortune, NOT love. It's disgusting.
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Gold diggers are a very disgusting sort indeed. I look forward for them to perish in their own pity of gold digging. Gold diggers need to go through a few days of starving.
First dates should always be dutch, if she claims you should pay, walk away. You are just getting to know them. After that it should be agreed upon, of course sneaky me would pay for the check before they knew there was a check.
They should be interested in you, not how much you make, what you drive, blah blah. Those are money items, if they truly aren't a gold digger they will want to know more about your personality, likes and dislikes, and if they are a freak like me, sexual likes and dislikes.
Easiest way to avoid all of that, don't look or act like you have money. It's ok to buy things but save it for special occasions, not everyday. If they complain, drop em, or imply they should be able to pay for what they want. It will clear it up fast.
Money, things, and even looks go away eventually find someone you would enjoy being with when your wrinkled.
When I think of a gold digger, I think she or he only wants to be around when you offer them something involving money like taking them on trips or buying them stuff all the time. They may or may not offer sex for your gift. When you can't provide it, they disappear on you and find a way to not make plans with you. They may also get mad at you out of no where. I also think they never have their wallet on them and you do all the spending. Women and men can pay for themselves these days. If any excuses of "I'm a lady!" Or "My wallet is at home" always comes up then that is a good sign they are a gold digger.
They will leak the signs pretty quickly. Dont buy her drinks or dont buy her anything really. If she realises that you aren't going to spend money on her then a gold digger will leave. If she is genuinely interested in you for your personality and other traits then she will probably stay bc she likes hanging out with you.
They always bring up material things they want if not outright ask you for it. They would also remember very few personal things about you since all they really care about are the things you have and by default will be able to share.
Gold diggers play a fascinating game. They start out wearing the persona of someone who really cares for you while sizing up your financial situation. Then slowly they will begin hinting at you to buy them little things to get a read on if your a free spender or if your frugal with your money. If your quick to buy them things it won't take them long to graduate to higher priced items at sugar daddy's expense , while all the time the lever of care they once showed declines.
Gotta watch for the signs, how she talks and moves, what she likes and what kind of people she's around and wants to date, usually if she's really hot it means she is going to choose rich guys, such girls seem hard to get but they aren't if you have the money they dont seem to give guys the time of the day even if the guy is hot.
Most real gold diggers won't screw around with you unless you make at least 250 grand a year.
All these broke guys are scared of them,
"Omg this girl is a gold digger, she is just with me so I pay for her Dennys meal"
No, don't worry about Gold Diggers, most girls are normal and want to make it on their own anyway.
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Look up gold digger prank on youtube. First, don't make them aware you have money. If they ask about what you make or specific about what kind of job you have... she is looking for intel on your finance... toss that trash. Have a busted ass car that you can use as a decoy... pick her up in it, if she seems like she isn't interested afterwards... she's a parasite.
@idiotmanchild Yeah... you need a decoy for the "first impression" then after a few dates where you know she isn't a useless parasite, you can show up in the audi and watch her cream herself.
Take her on a cheap first date, not shit, just cheap, if you get the impression she's pissed because she'd rather be in a swish restaurant- then she's a high maintenance gold digger. lol
She makes you pay for all the dates. I had a guy do this to me and I dumped him after the third month. We worked at the same job and made the same money. V
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