What are some unwritten rules to being fwb?

[Anonymous]

First of all, I'm actually 18. I chose the wrong year when I made this account.
i recently decided to be friends with benefits with this guy, but I've never done anything casual like that, so I was wondering if you guys know any 'unwritten rules' for this kind of relationship?

[SomeGuy37]

It doesn't seem like they have a clock on the age thing.
friends with benefits are really not. It's just a ruse, usually, when one feels more for the other, and the other is single at the time.
I've NEVER known anyone that it has worked out with!!
how can it?
You are being so close, so intimate, how can you not care, and love, if you have any kind of feelings as a human being?
I struggle with not falling in love with my female friends, as I get to know them, over several years!!
It is supposed to be like that!! You like someone, you get to know them, you spend time together, and you like them as a person, BEFORE ever having any kind of sex!!
I think that is partly why so many relationships and marriages fail, today!! People don't take the time to get to know all the things about the other!!
I NEED to see her, at her ABSOLUTE WORST, on HER WORST DAY EVER!! Not because I am mean, and I don't want her to have to endure that, but that day, being with her, seeing her at her VERY WORST, and still thinking, 'I REALLY LOVE HER' is what makes a solid relationship, I think!!
Who does that, today?

[aficionado]

The 'unwritten rule' is - NEVER fall for someone who is your friends with benefits. If you do, stop having sex with them immediately and never contact them again.

[akadatank44]

Yeah don't have them. Someone catches the feels.

[hotstuffSRD]

No feelings
Only sex and mutual satisfaction :P