I like a guy at work, but he has a girlfriend. Do I stand a chance? (Page 2)

Anonymous · 2016-08-17T14:14:01Z

I work in a small team and I really like one of the guys on my team. I try flirting with him and he doesn't reciprocate the flirting but he doesn't stop me either. He just makes a joke and laughs it off. The problem is, he has a girlfriend. He talks about her a lot in work, practically cooing over her and it frustrates me. I can tell he cares about her a lot and they are looking to move in together. He's not been with her too long but apparently they were best friends for like a year before they got together. I've seen this girl when she's waited for him outside and she is quite pretty. He's always hugging her when he sees her and kissing her, but could he be doing this for my benefit, to make me jealous? I told him I'd send him a friend request on facebook and he told me that he doesn't accept colleagues, because he likes to keep work and his personal life separate. But I know that's not true, because he has one of the girls who work with us on facebook. So I send him a friend request that night and he rejected it. He's said in the past that he can't believe he got someone like his girlfriend and he feels really lucky because she's out of his league. But I don't know if he's talking in work to make me jealous. hoping I'll overhear him. What do you think? I'm wondering if it's possible that his girlfriend is stopping him from being friends with me. Because we seem to get on ok in work, we can have a laugh, but he won't accept me on FB and he only replies to texts when it's work related. He won't come out with me and another guy we work with at lunch because he wants to go and meet her!! Do you think he's interested in me but won't do anything about it because of his girlfriend? How can I break them up? Should I keep flirting with him?

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pooper89 Follow
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You need to stop being a wishful thinker and accept reality. It's clear that he has a strong relationship already. He is giving you clear signs that he's not interested in you but your lust for him is making you blind. I'm not trying to be harsh but don't make the same mistake I did. I've been there. Not only is it wrong, but it's not worth it. He will NOT leave her for you no matter how much you think he might be into you. If you pursue this i guarantee you will be the one who ends up hurt.

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Anhnguyen96 Follow
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Don't fuck other people's relationship up. Ok there are 2 senarios: first he wouldn't break up with his girlfriend and u gotta move on. Ok fine there's plenty of fish in the world... Second he broke up with his girlfriend and be with u. Now u tell me a guy who dumps his girlfriend for u would ever hesitate to dump u for another girl? Make a wise choice gurl...

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LaurenB98 Follow
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The problem is that for some reason you think you're important enough to him to make you jealous when in reality he has shown zero interest. There's nothing about his actions or words that could be interpreted as him liking you— let alone him wanting to make you jealous. Just leave them alone.

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fanggirl5 Follow
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It sounds like he loves his girlfriend. If he doesn't flirt back I would stop. He probably laughs because it would be flattering to know someone likes you, but if he is not flirting back then that's a sign to stop. The Facebook thing might be true though, I dint add anybody from work as it has gotten me in trouble in the past. If he does have one girl from work, he either doens't know or they are friends also outside of work maybe

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Reallio Follow
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Can you not be a thot? Jesus the guy is happy he found a good girlfriend and you're trying to be that homewrecking thot ruining a perfectly good relationship. Move the hell on. There's a reason he won't add you, it's cause he knows you're flirting, and he doesn't want you to fuck up his relationship. He won't add you cause he knows you're a thot.

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Curmudgeon Follow
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Another problem is that--it's a workplace. "Don't F*** where you eat", as the saying goes. If you or he changes jobs or either of you shift to another department if it is a large enough organization, then you can go for it. Until then, however, I would not.

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tyber1 Follow
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He seems to be aware of the fact that you're into him and he is trying to tell you to buzz off in a subtle way. Stop trying to break them up, it's manipulative and he doesn't want to be with you. Let him just be happy. You're in the friendzone and you're gonna have to deal with it. You have no chance. And you are really deluding yourself if you think that all his signs of affection for his girlfriend are attempts to make you jealous. They aren't.

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Junlian Follow
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Either wait until they break up or move on. Wouldn't like it if you two were going out and he left you for another girl.

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- Asker
  
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  No, you're right I wouldn't like that. It just seems that he makes out his relationship is too perfect, which I don't believe for a second. I just thought maybe he was trying to make me jealous because no relationship is as wonderful as he makes out.
  
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- DaModernDaVinci
  
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  Hey anon. Even if he is lying about how comfortable his relationship is, at least for the girl's sake leave it. Thanks for seeing this view as a wise way to move.
  
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singlebee Follow
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Hahahaa YOU STAND NO CHANCE WITH HIM!!!

Your can't break them up... Cause he is committed to her and loves her for real... That's why he didn't flirt back or add you on fb or go out with you... Lol

So you better move on and stop trying to be a HOME WRECKER... :-D

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BiscuitesSwag Follow
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I cringed so much by reading this post. 😐
Please tell me that you are trolling and aren't this deluded...

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YaBaba Follow
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Please stay away from him lol
he already has a girlfriend.
Quite impressive that he separates his work life from personal life. I like that.

And no he is not making you jealous.
Don't get in between them.

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yucel_eden Follow
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Even if he asked you out and was single.

Say noooooo.

You don't date people fron work. Never never never never never never never never.

There's a million things wrong with it.

If you don't see each other at work. It's fine but, just don't. It starts well but ends a disaster.

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Anonymous
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S you want something that "belongs" to someone else?
Happens all the time. We want other people's careers, money, happiness, and so on.
If you are really sure, I'm gonna say something unpopular here: go for it.
But only if you really feel he's THE GUY, then yes. If you just want to do for the fun of it, don't. Too much drama.

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Anonymous
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Please dont be that girl. This guy is really happy. He is not into you, at all, or else he would definitely not talk about his girlfriend or talk about her negatively. He is about to move in with her. They are getting serious. Just leave him alone and leave him to be happy because he sounds like he truly is.

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Anonymous
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You sound delusional.
How about he's not showing interest in you (accepting your fb request, etc) because he's not interested.
Guys really aren't that complicated.
He clearly cares about his girlfriend.
So why dont you leave the poor girls boyfriend alone?
I mean how disrespectful can you be? Do you have a conscious?
There's plenty of other fish out there to choose from.

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Anonymous
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Women amaze me, you can't stand cheaters or unfaithfulness but you like (and go after) guys that are attached (think if you were his girlfriend and this other girl was after him). By everything you've said, he's totally into his girlfriend and not interested in you. He doesn't stop your flirting because like anyone would (and all of us do, male or female), he enjoys the attention. Stop thinking about him and ways to break them up. HE'S NOT AVAILABLE. Move on!

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Blonde401 Follow
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Don't be an asshole. Don't try and split them up. The dude doesn't like you, he's happy in his relationship. If he doesn't wanna be your friend he's made his feelings clear.

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Kaylyne Follow
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Let me spell this out to you in simple English.
YOU STAND NO FUCKING CHANCE AT ALL, SO FUCK OFF AND FIND SOMEONE MORE SUITABLE.
Now, which part of this does your pathetic little brain not understand?

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JohnDoe3000 Follow
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You listed half a dozen signs that he's totally into her and indifferent to you. I mean seriously...

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MusicMayhem Follow
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He's telling you he's taken and you should back off.

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