"Friend" wants to trick her husband into getting her pregnant?

[umngopher1991]

My "friend" who is more of an acquaintance through my grad program is married. I've met her husband, and they could not be any more different. Husband is 10 years older with a high-paying job and a quiet, nerdy-ish but kind personality. Wife is your typical South Beach/Jersey shore-like trophy wife who thinks the world revolves around her.

They're married, but she's unhappy. Usually she's out splurging and shopping and flirting with other guys while her husband is away at work when she's not in school. He's paying for her education, so I'm guessing that's why she's still with him. Recently through one of our mutual classmates I heard she wants to have a kid, but her husband does not. So she wants to trick him into getting pregnant with her kid, divorce him, and get child support/alimony through him.

I think this is so fucking evil on the wife's part. The husband works hard and is a nice guy (I've met him a few times) and is about to get divorce-screwed. Should I speak up and try to save him or just leave him and his unhappy, doomed marriage alone?

Updates

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For all of you saying this is second-hand info, it isn't.
I studied with her today and during one of our study breaks she told me the same thing that I just shared with you guys. But now she told me not to share this info with anyone or else she'll sue me for sexual assault (I've never touched her ever, she's threatening me). Point is, what I told you guys is true. She will have the kid and divorce him, if she has her way.

[JudgmentDay]

All her husband has to do is get a vasectomy or something and it would be impossible for him to ever impregnate her through sexual intercourse. Still better safe than sorry and getting screwed over by someone like that with that kind of divorce scheme or plot.

I think you should speak up and tell him about it, but it's best he get a vasectomy and then when his wife can't get pregnant, have him ask her if she's mad about it LOL

Even if they eventually divorce, he won't get screwed over having to pay child support for a child he does not want to have. I mean she's mainly using him as a means to an end to help support her for the costs of her attending school. That's just so wrong to begin with, she should have never married this guy in the first place since she's only taking advantage of him financially and using him for her own personal benefit and gain.

[N192K001]

I'm not sure about you, but, if I were in your situation, I would warn him. I would give him a disclaimer, since it's not 2nd-hand info, which could be wrong, but I would at least share the information, so that he can assess it himself. But, that's just me. I'm not sure if it would work for you.

[N192K001]

Correction: "... since it is 2nd-hand info, ..."

[N192K001]

Holy sh--! You have a confession. Did you have it recorded? If so, present the evidence to your friend.

If not, use anonymous e-mail to warn him. (I use StartMail, and I can gift you an account, if you'd like.) She must be stopped or she will destroy him. Or better yet, try to get a recording for proof (and for your protection).

[lilac_flowers]

Dude contact him anonymously!!! This selfish psychopath should NOT be having kids, let alone with a plan to make that kid fatherless. You'll be saving a childhood. Just think about that please..

Write him a letter, a mail and put it in his car, something, anything... Just let him know anonymously that you're doing this for the sake of the child, for the sake that he's an innocent man, tell him she is trying to conceive. Let him know what she's capable of, tell him she flirts with other guys. Tell him you don't expect anything, have no agenda and wish him only well... Only ask him to keep the condoms away from her, or if he doesn't want kids, to get a vasectomy ASAP. Just to be careful from now on.

[lilac_flowers]

I would tell you to put this in your letter of warning to him. That she threatened she will accuse you. But now I get how you may be scared for your own good.

This woman is a sociopath. Unfortunately, he probably already knows that. This poor man must have been raised by people like that to put up with this.
If you could somehow record your convos with her it would be great, but that's a great deal of effort and personal risk on account of a stranger and his unborn child. Could not judge you whatever you decide. Good luck.

[lovydoey]

Yea speak up, because the poor child will be born only to be a tool, because I doubt she will even take proper care for the baby. I would tell the husband, in a way he can digest easily. But have the "testimony" of other people so he can have proof of what you are saying. Like she is not going to school and she flirts with guys. If he can afford a private investigator will be nice too as he could give the evidence when the divorce paper comes up

[Blonde401]

This is a tricky situ. It's kind of non of your business really but morally you wouldn't be wrong to say something to him. I doubt he'll thank you for it but it's up to you if you want to say something. I think she's a bitch for even saying that but I'm glad I'm not in your position.

[Izumiblu]

so imagine the scenario where you tell him, what do you think his reaction will be? Oh thanks buddy!! Or maybe, "hey she's my wife wtf are you doing involved in my private life"? And on top of that, you are getting second hand information.

Is there really a way to be right in this situation?

Leave it alone, stay away from her, i don't even know why you would be friends with this woman.

[Tdieseler]

She's trying to lock down her position/future. If she divorces him, she only gets half (if anything depending on prenup) BUT if she has a child with him, thats constant child support, the money will never run out... oh hell no, i would dump this bitch QUICK. better tell that to him.

[Joti_Harrison]

Tell him man, save that guy. Even If he doen't believe you, it will definitely come to have a place in his mind, and he will be more wary and careful of any of that girls sexual antic to get pregnant. Please, help him out before he turns into another MGTOW, and comes over to GaG and starts complaining how all women are gold-diggers when he could have chosen better. Save that guy, I beg you please.

[Glue-Sniffer]

I don't think it's any of your business. You should stay out of their lives.
Don't you have a life of your own?
If a guy is so stupid and doesn't see all the red flags he hast to learn it the hard way.

[Idonthaveausername]

I'd tell her husband if I were you. This girl is evil and will ruin his life.

[Rissyanne]

I dont know... the guy wanted a trophy wife. Now he has one with all the trimmings. He has to take the good with the bad.

[Jersey2]

They are expensive.

[redeyemindtricks]

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I noted that OP said SHE's unhappy... but hasn't even said that HE's unhappy.

Boy knew exactly what he was signing up for.

[Jxpxtxr]

It doesn't seem like you're close to him so he probably wouldn't even believe you if you tell him. Think about it...

[NYkid27]

I think you should tell the guy. He might not believe you but he doesn't deserve to get fucked over like that so you should at least try to stop it

[zombiebabe]

try and speak to him... i can't believe that chick is so mean

[JustFired]

what would he do if it back fired and he got pregnant instead?

[blunttalker]

lol i wouldn't want to get involved in that if i were you

[Walrus_au]

I see it as downright parasitic and ultimately self involved and lazy.

I'd be inclined to tell him, but that may not go well, as that interference he may not welcome.

[lumberman9]

Tell him, don't worry about being nosy this guy should not be fucked over in that way by this bitch!

[rjroy3]

If you're going to tell him, then get proof first

[NoFcks2Give]

Tell him and inform him about vasalgel.

[xxrockmexx]

I would warn him!

[JaneShame]

I doubt he would believe you.

[ManaX]

Speak up

[Intraluminal]

Tell him.

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