This is based on an article I was reading online a few days ago and now I can't find it at all, not even in my Google history. But the article was claiming that sex and relationship culture isn't exactly as common as we've always thought and that many adults have never ever been in a relationship or ever had sex. It also claimed that the majority of these adults were females, and that there are actually many women in their 30s and some at 40 who are actually still virgins. I have read quite a few articles about 30 year-old women who are secretly still virgins and how that's not so uncommon, but I don't know. What do you think? Do you think any of this is really true?
Do you think there are more adults who've never had sex or a boyfriend/girlfriend than we really realize?
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I think so, but tbh I think it's also cos lots of people avoid peer pressure and just set themselves standards. I mean to be fair, not every guy will encounter many girls in his schooling etc or even uni. It's kinda situational based.
And then of course, not everyone wants to just bang for the sake of it. sometimes the girls you meet are just taken, nothing you can do. I'd much rather start banging 10/10's at a later age and have some good QUALITY time than giving some attention seekers the pleasure of my company and my sex right?
So say we all bro. I think this is very important. You want to be engaging socially and sexually with quality. Better to be alone than associate with those who are poor in behaviour or not decent people. Only go for what you find attractive, not others who have no manners or standards!
Plenty of men who have never had a girlfriend, but I doubt if there would be too many women who never had a boyfriend.
Dating is INFINITELY easier for women because they get asked out even if they are shy, introverted, have no confidence, suffer from social anxiety etc. But men who have similar traits are usually doomed to remain single forever.
Just because a woman can get asked out doesn't increase her chances if she's saying no to most or all of them. I definitely know for a fact that quite a lot of women - even young ones - have never ever dated or had sex. I still think virginity is much more common in women than men.
Not possible, these are ingrained personality traits. And these aren't 'diseases' as they are made out to be, just that men who possesses these are at a severe disadvantage. I'm amazing at the stuff I do, but socialising in general does not come to me at all.
I also belong to the race/ethnicity of men which is universally loathed. You get the drift, buddy? :P
This is very true. Dont forget the fact that women also have all sorts of products to enhance their attractiveness. Whereas us men are stuck with what we were born with.
@aficionado I wouldn't call them diseases, rather they're quirks that some people learn to let go of or never do. I used to be somewhat introverted and poor at socializing when I was growing up, but eventually I worked on it and got over it and now I'm one of the best socializers you could ever meet.
Men don't need makeup and shit, and I wouldn't wear it if they did make it for us. You could argue that women who wear all that stuff to 'enhance' themselves don't have a lot of confidence in themselves, whereas men don't need it. See where I'm going with that?
I think you're Hispanic. I would argue that blacks are more loathed.
No I am not hispanic. I am Indian. Indian men are known around the world for being 'ugly, dirty, perverted rapists who smell like curry'. We get a lot more hit than blacks, but it just isn't reported in the media and stuff.
Well... some people are able to work things out, but I wasn't able to. I tried though. And at age 30, I am past my prime anyway, and it's too late to 'change' things about me now. I am a spent force, so it's just about survival now, without going insane due to loneliness of not having friends or an SO.
@aficionado Yeah, you look Indian. Every group has their lot and things people say about them. People say some pretty ugly shit about us blacks. For the record, I do know that it's characteristic of Indians to be quiet and not very talkative or social if it's within their own circles. That's neither good or bad. It is what it is.
But you're being far too defeatist about this. Your life is not over and there's still a lotttttt of time and room for all kinds of things to change and happen.
Sigh! I just hope you are right. Because of my 'issues', I almost always end up with the 'wrong' women. I recently got out of an emotionally abusive relationship, where she almost drove me to insanity.
I think it's not just MY looks specifically, but women everywhere just aren't attracted to Indian men. That's the sad part. Those who are, turn out to be emotionally manipulative and abusive women, like those I was with. The 'sensible' women, who are willing to give Indian men a chance, are usually never single.
Indian men tend to be non-aggressive and mellow, so it could be that women like the one you were with can be comfortable with that and take advantage, thinking they can manipulate you. They think Indian men aren't dominant or manly enough. Maintaining your mellowness but showing more assertiveness will help.
Some races do get a bad rap and others really are seen as less appealing. Black women have a harder time getting a mate than black men do, especially in the international scene. It is what it is.
I get what you say. Yes, I know that black men certainly have it much better than black women.
I will be starting with intense therapy soon, to work on my issues. This is my last hope. If this doesn't help me deal with my self hate due to ethnicity, I don't know what will.
I definitely think there are a lot more like that out there than we realise. Virginity isn't the be all and end all of life though and neither is being in a relationship. If you're happy with yourself then that's all that matters really.
@SoFeckinAddicted Well, apply the math: if a lot of such people are on here, that also means they're still the same in real life. We just don't know it, is the difference.
Yea. Trust me middle school and high school can screw with you. They'll have you convinced that everyone has had sex but you. I caught on to that shit in middle school.
Yeah, I definitely do think it's more common for women. I know for a fact that quite a lot of women - even young ones - have never ever dated or had sex. I still think virginity is much more common in women than men, yeah.
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