Why are relationships meaningless in today's world?

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can anyone answer that?

thetundrawolf · Accepted Answer

Because today people are deceived into believing that sex is the end goal (men) and then devotion and true love will follow sex (women). Both are lies. Women chase men, giving them sex without any sort of commitment, and wonder why, after he gets what he wanted, he loses all interest. It leaves her confused, broken, and alone.

For him, he has blindly followed his urges, which are between his legs, and considers sex to be the goal. Not her heart, not her companionship, sex is always in the back of his mind. He wonders why, after she allows him to have sex with her, why his subconscious realizes there's no going any higher than this. For a man, unless there is a years- long bonding process (Without sex!!) he has nothing left to fall back on. He literally hit the peak of the mountain- now what? There's literally nowhere left to go.

He was deceived. Deceived by godless society, deceived by television shows, deceived by movies, deceived by his friends.

So he ignores her calls until the burning returns to his loins. Then, he goes after another woman, because the first woman won;t have anything to do with him. She now believes all men are shallow and only want sex.

He sees a woman who is prettier, and he knows, if he can just get inside of her body, then she is the one. Except she has a bitter heart, because she has seen ten other guys just like him. She uses him, and discards him. Now he believes all women are shallow and wicked.

The process continues and has continued since the dawn of time. Every society has a type of courtship, the relationships that last the longest and mean the most are the ones not based on sex, but where a relationship is established first. If you have sex, you destroy everything you have worked for, up until the honeymoon, then you can have sex and see her naked. One to three years of courting is good.

Women, if he wants sex, deny him. He will probably run, but then that shows you what he wanted in the first place. If he does not run, and he is willing to court you, to establish a lasting foundation, perhaps you have found the one.

Men, learn to deny your built in biological desires. If you find a woman worthy of your heart and devotion, she is worth denying yourself and fucking it all up with sex. You KNOW sex gives you heavy attraction for her. You also KNOW that it will deceive you. It will take sacrifice and agony to not take things further with her. But in doing so you will

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Because simply put, women. Basically, and this is not to say men do not play apart in this, women have treated men pretty badly currently. You can see it in media and in law, men are viewed as the enemy which of course makes a man less inclined to want to be in a relationship with a woman who looks at him as a potential rapist abuser cheater liar or as the media likes to portray men as a bumbling idiot who can barely function through his stupidity. This is probably why women are far more likely to abuse men verbally and emotionally and more likely to abuse men physically then the other way around because women are just constantly bombarded with media and social rules that let them get away with what ever they want while men are expected to just take the abuse. So that deters men, then you have laws that only benefit women to the detriment of men like divorce laws (women are responsible for over 70% of all divorces) which always favor the woman, its nearly impossible for a man to get custody of children or avoid paying alimony/childsupport, in fact over 80% of the time they are the ones paying childsupport/alimony (when the woman is not eligible for alimony it is usually lumped into the child support) which robbes the man blind then he is almost never allowed to have access to his children, men get full or partial custody of children only about 40% of the time, women over 90%, that means that men get full custody of their children less then 5% of the time and partial custody is also taking into account supervised visits or phone calls to their children. Thats a terrible situation to be in. Meanwhile women are far more likely to give up sex without a relationship so if they don't get into a relationship they avoid all of those bad things while also still getting sex which means he can get at least some of what he wants with little risk or at least controlable risk (men also have no reproductive rights but they can at least use a condom and they tend to be far more inclined towards taking risk for sex). Meanwhile women who sleep around are actually more likely to divorce, more likely to cheat and more likely to be depressed which makes for bad relationships so even guys who want a relationship are not looking because their are fewer and fewer women worth having a relationship with.

BaeBeeee · Accepted Answer

Where did you get the idea that it's only in today's world?
Tons of people before this era have been doing the same thing. The only difference is that now we're more open about it.

I'm in a relationship, I'm a teenager. It's not meaningless to me. I am so grateful for my boyfriend. He listens to me when I need to vent, vice versa, we talk about our issues, we aren't rushing into sex, he's patient with me about it, etc. We appreciate each other, truly.

I think you're referring to those who don't want a serious relationship, only a fling, hit and go.

ElissaDido · Accepted Answer

Because our criterias for a potential partner are flawed. We focus on external shallow factors, (it's good but they are being over emphasized) instead of focusing on important qualities and compatibility.

Not to mention that people aren't taking the time to really get to know each other before jumping in relationships, they have sex so fast and get together so fast instead of waiting to see if they are truly compatible and not only lusting after one another. This leads to fast breakups and superficial/weak relationships.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Why have a relationship? You can still go on dates have sex and not get your heart broken. You don't have to spend money, worry, or get let down. You don't have to put effort or feelings into anything. Perfect right? I just stay single.

XRabbitHeartX · Answer

Who said relationships are meaningless? There are millions of couples out there...

UnknownXYZ · Answer

Relationships are not "meaningless" but they are not sort after as much as before. Thanks to further strides in feminism and general attitudes changes towards gender roles, casual sex is seen as more acceptable. No longer are women seen as "weak" without a partner as they don't "need" men to function in society. Men were more enticed to enter relationships for a secure to sex but the sexual liberation of women makes men less inclinded to do so. This reinforces a more self-centered and entitlement culture where many would be less willing to compromise for a long term relationship. From bombarding stories from the media, we hear a lot about high divorce rates and bad divorce settlements (for men usually) scaring people that long term relationships are doomed to fail. Western society has told us to look for red flags and dealbreakers that many people are looking to break the relationship rather than look to make them work and that the person they are in a relationship can be easily replaced with another. Lastly, people have unrealistic expections from relationships. People tend not be in the driver's seat when it comes to being in a relationship. People fail to realise that it requires a lot of commitment and effort to make them work. Many believe relationships aren't worth the effort and would just be satisfied being part of the hookup culture. There a lot points I could have touched on but we are further climbing away from the neccessity to be in relationships. They aren't "meaningless", but they aren't the be-all end-all for many people.

Anonymous · Answer

1. Because people are superficial as hell today and only care about these 3 things: LOOKS, MONEY, SOCIAL STATUS. They pick SO's not for companionship but for trophies to show off to other people on social media and make them jealous.

2. People don't look for incompatibility first and only care about physical attraction first then sort out everything else later down the line when you acclimatise to your SO's looks.

3. People confuse lust for love.

4. People leave at first sign of conflict because we have a generation who like to replace things at first sign of trouble rather than try to fix them.

5. Thanks to social media many women can find a next upgrade at first sign of trouble.

SovereignessofVamps · Answer

Because they don't lead to anything? It's sounds pessimistic, but if you aren't marrying or having kids why even bother. You can fall in <3 but lots of people fall out of <3 within a few years. And marriages end all the time too.

Jager66 · Answer

Feminism fucked over the social balance between men and women, they replaced it with chaos, so in that void fuckboys created PUA through trial and error to find the best strategy to get women to fuck you without the INSANELY! high risk relationships now carry for men.

lostgirl_searching · Answer

At one time I was thinking that relationships were meaningless only because guys will break up or stop talking to me as soon they find out I want to stay a virgin.
So I think maybe if he/she find someone they can be comfortable and happy with, they won't think it anymore. Even if they break up, they will have hope that it can happen again.
That's how I feel about my boyfriend, if something happens and we break up, I won't give up like I did before I met him.

AleDeEurope · Answer

Because nowadays it's so cool to have a "side chick" or "side dude". People cheat all the time. People don't want to work out their problems, they just want it all easy and chewed up for them.

ouchthathurt · Answer

A hundred years ago, it was "If you cheat and/or have premarital sex you will burn in hell for eternity" etc etc. Nowadays, most people don't believe in burning in hell for eternity, so they do a bunch of crazy shit and the world falls apart.

Sometimes it's better to control people through fear.

truthbeknown · Answer

Because even simply asking someone out on a date doesn't mean you are dating that person and society seems to think it is acceptable to see other people.

Anonymous · Answer

Well people started playing hard to get (to boost their ego) and in response the other people who had to do the "getting" got frustrated and angry and gave up on relationships altogether and would rather just do casual. As a result online dating sprung up which capitalizes on this new mindset so now this way of casual dating is here to stay.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because nowadays you do not have to commit to get what you would normally get from a relationship, people are more open minded and they have realised there are other ways of getting what they need, and society is more accepting of those practices, it is also easier, and much less drama and hurt, I gave up on relationships a while ago, and Im doing greater than ever

ZellRocx666 · Answer

in this age and time, we have too freedom.. to literally do anything possible.. A century ago.. People wouldn't have considered divorce as an easy choice but now it is so easy to end a relationship. Yesterday when people got into relationships they rarely thought of ending the relationships.. Their deciding of marriage was always made with extreme caution. But today.. So you can see.
Just as easy it is to end a relationship.. Is to start it.. Even as many as u want and no one would frown..

Djaaaay · Answer

Yea... there're not meaningless , only some meaningless people who engage in a relationships find them meaningless. You reap what you sew !! A relationship is a meaningful relation between two who engage together to make thier dreams happen , if you're not into others this way... then get your own and be your own !!

Eternal_Flame · Answer

... because there's too many selfish people around. They are too self-cenred, and don't consider their SO's feelings, needs and wants

Phoenix98 · Answer

Relationships aren't meaningless, people today just don't value, deep, meaningful relationships. Especially when you have things like the media, social media trying to dictate things and feminism poising our youth making them think things like that.

llcool · Answer

i just haven't met the right man yet, so i have meaningless relationships until then, but usually i like being single. but for the right person ill give it all and probablt really good blowjobs

like the best he's ever had

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't say that relationships are meaningless but with the way online dating and dating has become in the modern world, it's been difficult for a lot of people to find relationships that way. Especially with all the options that come along with it.

annie2016 · Answer

Because there is no true honest man this time. They will say they are but actually they are not. You will be just surprised that you are not alone in their life you are just one of them.

bthomas1988 · Answer

They're only meaningless to the people who don't take them seriously. Not too many people take relationships seriously these days, and if one isn't, there's really no point.

chriss · Answer

people have been separating ever since human nature has been into existence. go look at divorce laws in the Babylonian king era thousands of years ago

GraveTruth · Answer

Because women choose guys based on their height, money, popularity, skin tone, etc.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Because people are taking utilitarian views of relationships now. They have been increasingly so for a long time.

Arsi9 · Answer

For some people relationship is meaningless not for everyone, and its because of the reason that females have lost their value, they are easily available everywhere so the people don, t care for her with whom he is in relation :(

Tony1974 · Answer

They aren't; it's just most people today don't value, deep, meaningful relationships.

The last 30 years of feminism has turned in marriage into a fucking joke and resulted in a few generations of broken families.

Anonymous · Answer

They're not meaningless if there's a real connection. Tomorrow will be 3.5 years with my first boyfriend and we're as happy as ever. We respect and support each other no matter what.

mooky06 · Answer

Some people value it, others don't. Just depends who you ask

Anonymous · Answer

Because women have lost most of their value to men with the exception of sex and childbirth. Since men get screwed over when it comes to parenting rights, that just leaves sex, and a relationship isn't really needed for that these days.

Sara413 · Answer

They're not. Plenty of people I know are in steady, long term relationships...

Mrwoo99 · Answer

Feminism has destroyed the family unit and traditionalism. Now its an epidemic of single mothers with kids all from different father's.

Anonymous · Answer

Because people are so quick to cut eachother off. And far too many people hold grudges.

capturemyheartnow · Answer

Because man/woman have learnt to live alone.

echoaj · Answer

This question holds many fallacious problems therefore, I can't answer it.

Itsmeyay · Answer

No one gets taught to respect others, only to respect yourself.

HeinousBiitch · Answer

People are ALWAYS tempted by someone else they cannot have...

Anonymous · Answer

Because it's SO much easier to get into another one than it used to be! Or if not into another relationship, it's SOOOOO much easier to meet and hook up with someone new.

Anonymous · Answer

Cause sex is available ready and free... And all those stupid apps... Women are solely responsible for that

warsevf · Answer

Wells they are always meaning less and never have any logic

red324 · Answer

It seems everyone is in a relationship these days, I don't think they're meaningless.

OrangeBoy · Answer

Not in my world :) From where did you get that idea?

Teenagekid16 · Answer

Because girls get too much attention from other men and can't resist to cheat these days

Anonymous · Answer

They're meaningless to ignorant people who follow other ignorant people

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not really sure. But i'm not really interested in being in a relationship either. I prefer being single

smartman12 · Answer

women aren't women anymore

kaylaS91 · Answer

You say that based off of?

Browneye57 · Answer

They're not meaningless. Why would you say that?

es20490446e · Answer

Because people lack the courage to make decisions.

TheFinalFrontier · Answer

Why would you say this?

lumberman9 · Answer

A lot of people only want causal flings

HenriJamesJr · Answer

Why are *your* relationships meaningless?

CancerianMan81 · Answer

because people what it to be that way

YungOracle · Answer

everyone is broken and stay detached emotionally

moonpie89 · Answer

too much temptation

G-Daz · Answer

Lefty liberalism

Anonymous · Answer

people are not serious anymore

Anonymous · Answer

cuz people are meaningless in todays worrld.

t_time · Answer

nope not meaningless

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