If a girl just dumped her boyfriend, how long should I wait to ask her out? (Page 2)
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Depends on what you want from her:
1. If you're just trying to hook up then it's best to fly in as fast as possible before the other vultures get a chance; or her heart begins to heal and she's able to move on.
- Be cautious but quick for this to work. Also be ready to listen to bunch of bs about her past relationships.
2. If you want a relationship then you should definitely wait. Rebounding is rarely ever a good idea. I'd explain more but it's my reading time.
I would say neither. You do not want to be part of that just breakup relationship. At that moment women are vulnerable and would be offended or readily accept but that won't last long. As soon she is sober she would leave. If you wait she might get someone else. Be the crying shoulder! Yes, get through that mood and be with her and when things seem okay, ask her out.
Otherwise you'll end up being a rebound dude. Let her rebound with other people, stick around and she'll get over them (trust me).
But also depends on how long they were with the person, so?
reply and I can give you more tips c:
They were official for 3 months but had been seeing each other for a few months before that
Nah he can get over her :P
Should i still wait a few weeks to ask her then?
yeah like 2 or 3
don't swoop in too early to the point where you look like a douche. but don't wait too long. y'all should start like low-key talking but i wouldn't ask her out for a little bit. but overall do what your heart tells you
I guess i have the feeling of not wanting someone else to get there before me lol
then do what you gotta do. but you could just always talk to her about it and tell her how you feel.
You want her to wait and think with a clear head. Look at her as off the market until then. Not until she is ready and unbiased in her choice. If you she needs help, help her if she can't find any. Don't dare take advantage. If she is still reeling from her breakup, she's not ready. It would be the same for you. Luckily, girls get over girls faster than vice versa. So, be wise.
I'd say to continue talking to her but don't rush into things either. See how she reacts to your advances and wait for things to slowly build up. If things begin to progress make sure she's fully over her previous relationship, so you're not just a rebound.
I'd say 3 weeks to a month. Most women will tell you to wait until she is fully over him. That's vague as fuck and will most likely leave you a day late and a dollar short. So give her the month to process then ask her out with an open ended offer if "I loved to take you out when your ready to date again." Something like that.
flirt with her. she how she reacts to it. get a bit more closer. like telling her about you day and stuff in detail amd just be really close friends with her.. see for a week or two and then ask her out.
Wait for a couple of weeks. You don't want her to think you're taking advantage of her vulnerability, and you don't want to be just a rebound either.
You will be a rebound if you date her next unless she has had enough time to deal with the breakup, and that amount of time depends on how long she dated her ex. But if you want to ask anyway then a week after or a month after doesn't really matter.
when the grieving process is over.
if the grieving process is not over then you will be disappointed.
it can take up to a year for the grieving process to be over.
since she broke up with him, it can take at least 4 to 6 months
Don't jump in right away. Make sure she's over (she might be trying to fill the void) you never know, but at the same time do flirt to let her know you're interested. When you feel like the time is right jump in.
She's over it*
Considering your update, I guess it wasn't a painful breakup or something, but still don't ask her right away, aand don't ask her directly about her past relationship. Keep talking to her and ask her out when she stops mentioning her ex.
Go for it now, before she starts looking for a rebound... But keep it casual at first... Make sure your the person she's spending time with, even if it isn't an obvious date.
Maybe a flirt lightly and wait a couple of weeks. It makes all the difference that she initiated the breakup and was done with the relationship before then, but you still have to wait a couple of weeks for her to collect her thoughts.
If she said it should have ended awhile ago then it's acceptable to ask now since there's nothing for her to get over basically.
Ill talk to her about it then gauge what to do
Ask her now because each girl takes a different amount of time to be ready for a new person to date. Some might dstd someone for years and withim weeks are into a new person and others date someone for weeks and take years to move on.
Is there a respectful way to handle this then? Obviously i wouldn't ask her on a date straight away. But maybe asking her to meet up to do a fun activity like bowling or ice skating, then getting some food after. If she accepts to meet up i wouldn't try anything romantic with her. Maybe some light flirting.
Light flirting so you put yourself on her radar for sure. Be someone she enjoys being around.
Ask her now before someone beats you to the punch. If she isn't ready at least she will know you are interested and when she is ready if she is interested in you she can seek you out.
As a girl, I appreciate if a guy doesn't try to rush in especially if he knows I have just gotten out of a nasty breakup. I need time to heal and to grow a little.
Don't get with her just now as ahe might just be looking for something or rather somebody to takenher mind off of things. However, stay close and take care of her.