My boyfriend doesn't compliment me anymore?

[nevermoregirl7]

We have been dating a year. We live together. And i know he loves me, but i just notice he doesn't really compliment me like he used to. He doesn't even like pictures on facebook, which if my ex lovers find the time to like a picture, why not him? It just feels worse because i did send him a cute picture in my new dress, and he just changed topics. I just don't know if i am being too sensitive or if this is a problem.

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I won't see him all day. Should i just text him about this concern? I just feel lije i always screw things up talking about it because then I get teary eyed and start crying.

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I tried again last night. Yesterday, after I did this post, he was actually really sweet over text message. I think he saw on facebook I wasn't having a good day. So he wanted to cheer me up. But when I finally got home, he seemed all irritated or something when I put on my new dress again asking him what he thought. I don't know. I feel like maybe he didn't like the dress, which I am a little hurt about because I was so sure he would like it.

[Matt21]

unfortunately sometimes after living together the hunnymoon phase fades.

to me the Facebook thing wouldn't be a big deal because some people simply don't use Facebook much (like myself).

if he hasn't been giving you compliments in person however this is a problem that you two can work on.

It's important to try and find a way to relight the spark. This man really does love you and so you two should sit down and talk about the things you want and are willing g to give in a relationship. also maybe you two could plan a date night a week to keep things interesting.

My stepdad isn't very romantic and so sometimes my mom comes right out and says I haven't received any compliments yet today...

I also have a really corny idea that might help out.
My girlfriend made me this amazing jar full of things that she loves about me... Maybe you two could get a little mason jar and put pink a blue papers by the jar. that way whenever you guys think of something you love about eachother you could say it and write it down and put it in the jar. every night I read something that my girl loves about me and it's amazing :)

I know it seems kind of foolish but those little things can really help remind you two to put effort into the relationship and keep things fun.

I wish you two the best of luck :)

[status-online]

Give him a reason to compliment you. Go out to dinner together, make sure you look stunning, and be optimistic. If he doesn't compliment you within 5 minutes, start acting disappointed, don't tell him why, and get in a mood with him. If he cares enough, he won't stop trying to solve the problem

[nevermoregirl7]

The thing is I do over dress. I have to dress nice for work every day. He seems to say something if I mention it. but other than that, I think he is just used to me dressing up.

[status-online]

Speaking for personal experience, I often find it hard to compliment someone and sound genuine, even though I. So then I won't compliment people as much for fear of sounding sarcastic. Perhaps it's something like that, in which case, try complimenting him, and analyse his response

[nevermoregirl7]

I guess maybe that's what's going through his head. I do sometimes call him handsome. Especially when he dresses up. And he smiles and says he cleans up nicely. maybe I should comment on him more? Sometimes he does make some snide remark that I am self-centered. But the reason why I have that mentality was really because I did get hurt in a past relationship, and building myself up the way I do was a way I used to heal.

[status-online]

The most important advice I can give is to not jump to any conclusions. Ultimately, he could just be being an ungrateful, unappreciative jerk. Based off what you've just said, he does sound a little self-centered though. You need to find subtle ways to remind him that you've got feelings/insecurities. Maybe you could mention a work colleague who insulted your appearance etc.

[goodsoul]

Not liking pic on fb, no more compliments these things happens in all relationships after some time. But if u send him pic personally and he changing topic instead appreciating u then thts a prblm. You both live together and he taking u granted. exe's giving u compliments bcoz they dnt ve u at this moment. This is human nature... People dnt appreciate things which they already have. You crave for a new phn which launched recently in market but when u ve tht u dnt care much as time passes by. He has to appreciate u bcoz u not a phn but a living human. He shuld value u and ur feelings and appreciate ur efforts

[nevermoregirl7]

I think i know what your talking about. I might just ask him what he thought of the picture. I dont think he is taking advantage though.

[sharondub]

The dynamics of a relationship can change over time! My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. Things are definitely different. He doesn't compliment me as much either, and it used to really upset me... but then I realized "Damn we live together now, if he were to compliment me every single day, the compliments wouldn't seem very genuine anymore."

I doubt it's because he doesn't love you!! If it's really getting you down you can always bring it up to him. No guy wants to make his girlfriend cry!

[This_is_my_username]

My ex seldom complimented too. I just. figured that's his way.

[Dsausy]

Talk to the man. Don't be pissy about it and accusatory tho cause that can escalate into a fight quickly. Just be polite and calmly ask why this is the case.

[nevermoregirl7]

I just wish i wasn't such a crybaby

[shoedanglefan]

Hey, You're ONLY HUMAN... with HUMAN EMOTIONS,,, and HUMAN FELINGS. There's NO SHAME in THAT.

[nevermoregirl7]

@shoedanglefan I just don't want him to think I am trying to make him feel bad about it.

[shoedanglefan]

If he can't take time to listen to you and pay attention to what you are saying, it's HIS LOSS... NOT YOURS. By the way, how's your Shoe Dangling Skills?

[Alexguy123]

You said you two have been dating for a year and live together; maybe the honeymoon phase is over. When we start dating someone we show the best of us. Moving together with someone is a very big deal, because it shows how the other person truly is. Every couple goes through that even before moving together. I also wouldn't be very sceptical just because he hasn't liked your pictures on facebook; there's no way to know if he even saw them. If you really think there's something up with him, talk to him; open communication is the only way to solve these things.

[realperson02]

you can dump anytime if you're not happy. just talk to him.

[nevermoregirl7]

I feel like everytime i do, he shuts down or gets defensive

[realperson02]

i feel awkward to ask but has he lost interest in you?

[nevermoregirl7]

I am not even sure. We still are intimate. He does still give me gifts, but then he does stuff like this

[realperson02]

hey if he's giving you gifts then don't worry. he's using a different way to compliment you. through gifts. stay happy since not all guys do this.

[nevermoregirl7]

That is a good eay to see it

[realperson02]

yeah i hope you see it this way since as a guy sometimes we feel that you girls might be bored of the same generic compliments so we change the way of complimenting you girls.

[gonzawil44]

he sees you most days since y'all live together, its normal that y'all take each other for granted now. but if you want his attention again. give him the best sex he has ever had. that will make any guy fall inlove with a girl all over again

[burlen]

Do you want him to shower you with genuine compliments or fake compliments? Raising the issue with him may lead him to start complimenting just for the sake of it or just because it makes you happy.

[Dumbbong]

its a common problem for the boys. Just talk to him

[Leandri]

Talk to him about it. Just don't ever compare him to your ex again... that is a bit below you

[Tony1974]

How often did you compliment him? How often do you compliment him now? Is this your primary love language? If so, does he know that?

Do you expect to be 'courted" until the day you die?

[nevermoregirl7]

When we first dated, he gave me quite a bit of compliments. I really didn't do a lot. Just gave him pet names. Now I do. But the reason I didn't compliment before was because I am really just new to dating.

[Tony1974]

You should check out 5 LOVE LANGUAGES.. it will help you understand better him and yourself.

[nevermoregirl7]

Not sure. I used to do relationship self help books, but I feel it just made me paranoid.

[Tony1974]

There's a bit of truth to this one... we all want love but need it differently.

[Tony1974]

Your question about the dress speaks of your need for validation. He already knows and loves you. He doesn't feel the need to constantly assuage your ego and quell your insecurities. Men find this very annoying.

"does this dress make me look fat?" NO the fat makes you look fat.

You're fine. If he did have a problem with you, he'd probably tell you or dump your ass so relax.

[Browneye57]

Ah, you're basing the value of your relationship on what gets posted on FB. F'ing brilliant.
GAAH!!!

[nevermoregirl7]

Well it's the sending him a picture too. Not just facebook

[Browneye57]

Solipsism on full display. It's all about ME ME ME ME!!!

Sure, sit down and have a conversation. See if that fixes it.
Oh, and the shacking up thing is a REALLY bad idea. For a LOT of reasons. Sure, I've done it, but either date and live apart, or get married and create a home together. Playing house generally ends in failure and hurt feelings.

[nevermoregirl7]

Dude, I appreciate you trying to help, but you need to chill out.

[Browneye57]

My bet is you do the same thing with him, like this bullshit about his not complimenting you.
You just can't stand the truth, so you turn it around, typical argument.

No problem. I can't help here, so b-bye. :)

[nevermoregirl7]

Lol. Mofo, maybe you should work on your own relationship issues rather than being pissed off at me. Make sure the door hits your ass real good on the way out

[Browneye57]

Don't be cunty now. This is YOUR problem, not mine. Yet you keep with the tired trope of trying to drag unrelated bullshit into your argument. I hate to break it to you, but I've been with my lady for almost thirty years - this has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with me.

I predict your relationship to be shortlived. No reasonable guy is gonna put up with your argumentative nature. So much whining and fussing.

And try to imagine how little I care. You're really confused about all this and it shows. Good luck with all that.

[nevermoregirl7]

lol. Dude, you are the cunt.

[Jayjax211233]

it depends. sweety some guy's. are not really good. at that department so they might change the. conversation. but I'm. 1 of the guy's and i would. at least say your dress looked nice or something but men are weird

[wrish09]

Oh come on give the guy a break just because he doesn't likes your pictures or compliments you every now and then, that is not a thing to worry about.

[shoedanglefan]

Hey... Post some SHOE DANGLING PICS of Yourself on Facebook, and I'LL LIKE THEM.

[Mrcat89]

Play a little more hard to get and he will start noticing your beauty.

[nevermoregirl7]

What does that mean in his case? We live together... sooo

[Mrcat89]

be more mysterious, dont let him in on everything.

[nevermoregirl7]

True, that is what my boss said I should do. On valentines day, I was worried we wouldn't do anything, so she bought me roses assuring me he will ask. And sure enough, he did. But I don't know, I feel doing something like that is just manipulative.

[Mrcat89]

Unfortunately it's something you must to in this situation. You may be being manipulative but he is realizing your value with 'officially' losing you. Hope it work out for you :)

[Mrcat89]

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[KeithZ75]

girl because guys doesn't always compliment they get their time of a year when theyvare over it stip complimenting him then he wil start to do it

[HermitNYC]

I think you are being too sensitive.

[kamelot]

have you "let yourself go", recently?

[Blitzkrieger]

Compliments need to be earned.

[Ghassan2]

Talk to HIM not US.
HE knows not US.

[Mauro07]

so find another one ho will love u more